I’m a male member, and I always enjoy reading this site.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I just patiently wait until she shows it herself. That’s what I do ^^;

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with my answer. > “Would you mind taking your clothes off here? I’d like to see.” does sound rather uncouth. I tend to be very straightforward about everything, so I feel like I might just say it outright myself. Besides, I imagine you’d be able to see her in her underwear when she takes a shower anyway. Maybe she was just very guarded? I feel like it might be okay to say it directly, but if someone says it’s uncouth, then maybe it is. That being the case, as some of the other respondents have suggested, buying her some expensive lingerie and seeing her try it on in the fitting room sounds like a good approach. I imagine even just going to the lingerie section together would make you conscious of other people’s eyes, though. It’s nice that some stores are willing to accommodate couples with special circumstances, too.

This is Joe. A scenario where you can have her show off her lingerie without hesitation? You’ve come to the right person—Joe is happy to answer! Wait, is that not what you meant? If you live in central Tokyo, head together to the lingerie department on the 6th floor of Ginza Mitsukoshi (I think). My top brand recommendation is Aubade. The staff there are used to dealing with couples in unusual circumstances. If the woman asks, they’ll open the fitting-room curtain and let you sneak a peek. It’s a moment that can bring the two of you much closer. (According to Joe’s research—though I could be mistaken.) There are two things to keep in mind: don’t be intimidated by the prices, and choose between a thong and full-back briefs. If you’re in Kansai, I recommend the lingerie section on the 3rd floor of Hankyu Umeda. Couples used to be allowed in the fitting rooms there. It made you feel like, “Is this Paris?” But when I went recently, they were gone—perhaps because of COVID. What a shame! In any case, I hope you have a wonderful time.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who was just told by his wife, “I’m not speaking to you anymore.” You’d want to compliment her, wouldn’t you? Sexy, beautiful lingerie. I want to see it, touch it, feel it—and compliment her on it. When she starts undressing before taking a shower, or while she’s still dressed, I hold her close while standing and caress her as I slowly help her undress, complimenting her lingerie along the way. Alternatively, if it’s our second time or later, once she has undressed down to her lingerie, I’ll caress her while standing, touching and complimenting it. I also tell her that I can feel how responsive she is even through the lingerie. Of course, since we’re already in the middle of things, I only catch glimpses of it while kissing her—just enough to enjoy how sexy it looks. I continue caressing her for quite a while with the lingerie still on. Depending on the girl, we might shower at that point, continue until just before intimacy, or, if we’re both excited, naturally end up in bed without taking it off. Even with the same girl, it varies depending on the situation that day. Girls wearing sexy lingerie get really excited and caught up in the moment, and they often make an effort to choose something especially flattering. I don’t remember what clothes they were wearing beforehand at all, but I do remember whether their lingerie was red, black, or another color. Sometimes, while caressing each other in our lingerie, we end up in bed before either of us has showered. That natural build-up and excitement feels great. We may even fall asleep together for hours afterward, still basking in the moment, with the shower becoming the last thing we do. Also, the way you shower and undress the first time tends to set the tone for subsequent encounters, so I think it’s important to make physical contact naturally before showering on the first meeting.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Come to think of it, there are occasionally women who ask whether I’d prefer them to be in their underwear or wearing a bathrobe (or wrapped in a bath towel) after showering. I used to answer “a bathrobe” because I felt bad about handling the underwear of a woman who was particular about it carelessly. What a mistake. Being in her underwear really does get you in the mood. I don’t have a great scenario to suggest, but I think it would feel embarrassing for one person to be naked or in their underwear while the other is still dressed. If you’re not looking for a humiliation play scenario, I think getting into your underwear as well would make the woman feel less self-conscious about showing hers. Rather than bringing up the shower right away, why not start taking off your own underwear and encourage her to undress too? If you’ve already been on several dates, she probably understands that you’re planning to shower beforehand, and she might take her clothes off too. Reading another respondent’s story about underwear reminded me of something. Some time ago, I received an invitation to a show by a certain luxury brand and went with a woman I hadn’t slept with yet. Since it was a high-end fashion show, everything was so avant-garde that there was nothing I wanted to wear myself. After the show, I was flipping through the catalog when the store manager approached me, rubbing his hands together. That’s when I spotted them: underwear costing six figures in yen! The woman found it absolutely hilarious. It felt bad not to buy anything after being invited, and there was nothing else I wanted, so I ordered them from the manager. Later, that woman put on the six-figure Gucci underwear in a hotel room and gave me a private show.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I’d love to see a woman in beautiful lingerie too. If it were me, I’d just say it directly: “I’d love to see you in your lovely lingerie.” I’d be disappointed if she said no, but I wouldn’t pressure her. I’d have the same kind of exchange again another time and wait for an opportunity. Even if a man thinks she looks beautiful, she might feel, “Not today…” so it’s important not to pressure her.