I’m a male member. Thank you for your thoughtful answer to the question below—it was very helpful.

I’m Rin, a female member. “Your standards for sex are pretty low, aren’t they?” → Standards? There’s no such thing. It’s simply whether you find someone attractive and want to do it—or don’t. You make excuses about having low standards because your partner doesn’t feel that way about you. If it’s someone you’d be okay seeing (with the strong bias of receiving an allowance), you’d naturally make plans with them and try to be liked. “Am I annoying?” → More than annoying, you’re incredibly conceited beneath the surface.

I’m Marika, a female member. You say intimacy is a hurdle, but if she actually likes you, it should be a given. So, to put it bluntly, the woman clearly doesn’t like you. Even taking papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) into account, if there are three levels—① liking someone, ② not disliking it, and ③ putting up with it for the money—you’re definitely at level ③. Even young women with little experience can naturally do things like make plans to see someone again or kiss them if they genuinely like them. If nearly everyone you’ve dated has treated you this way, rather than all of them being a person to avoid, the issue may be that there’s something about you that makes women not like you. Instead of constantly approaching only dazzling young beauties and getting rejected, you could try approaching women in their forties with plenty of experience, humbly asking them to teach you. First, I recommend going to the dentist to have your teeth and gums checked for periodontal disease. I’m only suggesting cleaning and periodontal treatment—not getting celebrity-style ceramic veneers.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Is sex really something you can put a threshold on? Regardless of your preferences, saying that going down on her is simply part of a club member’s manners seems to show a lack of respect for the women at the club. I believe men and women are equals in club activities. Isn’t it precisely because we respect each other that we’re able to maintain a long-term relationship? And because there’s mutual respect, we can truly open up to each other—even during sex. If all you want is to satisfy your own sexual desires, there’s no need to insist on club activities. Sex is a form of communication. I don’t think a woman will be satisfied by self-centered sex where you simply push your own desires through. If she isn’t satisfied, perhaps that’s why she responds to you so half-heartedly—just lying there passively. If you want to enjoy the experience itself, please try to understand and accommodate your partner’s feelings.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this too. It doesn’t sound like your demands are particularly unreasonable. That said: “Whether he’s bad at it or dislikes it, isn’t it simply proper etiquette as a club member?” There’s no such rule of etiquette. I think it’s better to treat each other as equals. If he’s inexperienced, he’ll still do his best in his own way. If he doesn’t, he’s probably giving off an atmosphere that makes it difficult. If he dislikes something, the basic approach is to gently say, “It’s okay, you don’t have to do anything you don’t like.” I’d say that’s what proper etiquette really is. > Kissing is also mandatory (Magikarp and Gyarados are not required). I understand how you feel, but it may still be difficult at a first meeting. For it to be possible from the very first meeting, you’d need to become a professional in that field, like Mac（笑）, or be a handsome or dashing-looking man. If you’re neither, you have to keep trying until she likes you. Once she does, passionate kisses will be fine, and she may even ask for them herself. Things won’t go well if you only think about yourself. Even if you’re giving her an allowance, you still need to properly charm her. The allowance is meant to make up for the disadvantages that come with your age. > Wouldn’t it be better to have Maezawa point out specifically what the problems are? Yes, everyone is welcome. If you contact me, Maezawa, through the inquiry form next to the question box, I’ll point them out bluntly. If you’d rather not have it put so bluntly, you can consult the staff at your branch, and they’ll probably explain things more gently.（笑）

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > “Is the bar for getting intimate pretty low? Is that annoying?” I suppose it depends on the man, but for me, the bar is low, and I don’t think it’s annoying. Of course, it also depends on the woman I’m with, but when I feel like things are “not quite enough,” I make a point of asking her for more. The women are always the ones asking me for things, so I strike back when the opportunity arises（笑） It’s pretty funny... An old man well past his prime asking a woman who’s somewhere between his daughter’s and granddaughter’s age for “more”... From her perspective, emotionally I’m probably less mature than an elementary school kid—a little toddler who’s just started preschool and throws tantrums（笑） Anyway, try communicating and having fun while doing various things together. As you do, you’ll gradually start to understand the woman a little better. Are my expectations too high? Even so, I still feel like there’s more to explore, so I’m thinking about my next move（笑）

I’m Meg, a female member. Yeah… I get the feeling they probably don’t really understand how younger women feel. I don’t mean to sound like an old busybody, but just one thing. These are the parts that really get annoying… - Whether you’re bad at it or don’t like it, isn’t it basic etiquette as a club member? - Kissing is a must. - The bar for an adult relationship is pretty low, isn’t it? Is that annoying? Personally, though, I’m someone who really likes my papa, so: - Intimacy lasts all night… I don’t let him sleep. - Kissing is a must in every form—above and below. What do you think? Sorry if my standards are too high…

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’m sorry—I do try to be careful about what I write because respondents are expected not to criticize the person asking the question, but since you asked, I’ll answer. To put it mildly, you’re annoying. Human relationships, and not just sex, are generally a reflection of yourself. Because you seem to believe that certain things are mandatory and that the other person should naturally do certain things, I think the women you meet also take a detached attitude of, “I’ll get what I’m owed, do the bare minimum, and leave as soon as possible.” Perhaps you bring up your next plans because you intend to leave as soon as possible. I’ve never had an overnight date, but no one has ever made plans afterward, refused to go down on me, or rejected a kiss. If you approach things with a sense of gratitude, the other person will treat you with the same feeling. By continuing your activities without forgetting to show the other person respect and appreciation, I think the women you meet will also become more intimate with you. Ah, that’s it. I’ve just realized what was bothering me. I haven’t written this in a while: “Go to a sex service.” The sexually forward women you’re looking for are at sex-service establishments. Why not solve the time-limit issue by purchasing an all-day package? To Mac: I think what’s annoying is that you haven’t even tried opening the drawers, yet you’re asking, “This dresser is broken. Where can I find one with the drawers already open?” That said, I do appreciate the way you phrased your question. Precisely because of that, I’m being deliberately blunt when I say that, with this mindset, you probably won’t be able to enjoy satisfying experiences at the club. > True, you don’t learn how to open a drawer by asking someone else to teach you. Exactly. People just stare at you blankly（笑） It’s rather gauche（笑） What’s more, this question isn’t even about how to open the drawers. It’s essentially, “Where can I find a woman who already has all four drawers open? My demands aren’t unreasonable, right?” That’s not something I can approve of.

I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.” As for all four points, I think if the woman wants to do those things, she’ll naturally do them herself. So I don’t think they’re something you need to overthink or try to control. > I’m the type who simply wants to enjoy intimate physical contact itself. If that’s the case, then all the more reason not to focus on it. Don’t force anything—just be yourself. If she does those things without you asking, that’s the kind of natural pleasure you want to savor, right? > Is it annoying? If you’re thinking about all four points like that, then yes, it’s pretty annoying. Even aside from that, they’re all good things, and you’d be happy if she did them for you. Rather than thinking about what you should get her to do, I think it’s better to reach the point where you simply receive what you want in return. > To Mac I called it annoying because all four points are trivial, but I suppose it could also come across as humble and cute. I hope you’ll eventually reach the point where things like that happen naturally with every woman, to the extent that they aren’t even worth mentioning. Since you wrote that you want to enjoy intimate physical contact itself, ideally, I’d like you to aim for mutually satisfying sex where you make her feel so intensely through kissing, oral sex, and everything else that she’s practically writhing and wriggling uncontrollably—bringing her to climax again and again—while you also get extremely aroused watching her and ultimately use up every last bit of your energy in a deeply satisfying climax. A woman who had sent me a reverse offer said she was very interested in the Q&A box, so I became one of the respondents. P.S. > My own climax isn’t necessarily everything; I’m the type who wants to enjoy intimate physical contact itself. Also, you shouldn’t use that as an escape route. It’s certainly important too, but you still need to make an effort so that the woman feels needed and feels fulfilled by being with you. Being needed is what forms the basis for people connecting not only physically, but emotionally as well. If the man isn’t satisfied, there’s no way the woman can relax and fully enjoy herself either. Especially in a club setting, where an allowance is involved, the woman won’t be satisfied unless the man shows that he’s enjoying himself even more than the allowance would warrant. Regarding your four points: Even if the time is extremely short—only 40 minutes, for example— Even without foreplay or oral sex, Even without staying overnight, Even without kissing— If you show through your body, rather than just words, that her presence is amazing and that you’re intensely excited and fulfilled, wouldn’t she naturally want to return all of those things to you as well? That said, from a woman’s perspective, there’s probably nothing more exhausting than having to go along with sex that lasts as long as yours does…