I’m a male member who joined less than a year ago, and I haven’t been able to meet many female members who are open to intimacy. I feel envious whenever I read Mac-san’s comments. To everyone who answers: are there any clues in a female member’s profile that can help you gauge her preferences?

Universe Tokyo’s Mami here. If you’re looking for women who are more sexually adventurous, why not try offering to someone who seems more experienced or more “professional”—the type you normally wouldn’t choose? For example, someone with obviously revealing photos or a suspicious-looking occupation. It might be worth going all in for once. Alternatively, you may have a submissive side. If a woman seems reserved, it’s because you haven’t taken the lead enough. Getting a woman in the mood requires the man to take the initiative and be curious. Education and age differences have nothing to do with it. You might also enjoy being with a dominant woman. If you can’t be dominant, you can’t truly be submissive either. I don’t think you’ll be able to enjoy intimacy otherwise. If you want to end things with someone, you could gradually fade out, try negotiating a lower allowance, or end it with some convenient lie. I think the best way is to break things off in a way that doesn’t leave them thinking you’re a nice person.

I’m Hikoki, a male member. Of course, it’s important to meet a woman you’re compatible with, but first, I think it might be worth taking a moment to reconsider your standards—and the value you’ve placed on your past experiences with women. As Mac said, they’re “your own reflection,” so I think it’s difficult to exceed your previous standards for intimacy through the club. Expecting that from your partner would not only be contradictory, but could also come across as self-serving—and she would probably sense that in some way. There’s always another person involved, after all. Also, if the club is like sports, it’s like paying for a fixed match, so it hardly counts toward your experience with women in the real world. It’s only by being tested by the rough waves of the natural world that confidence and energy well up, and your standards rise. If you only experience the club, it’s like fishing in a stocked pond where the fish bite nonstop. You may start mistakenly believing that you can find an even more sexually adventurous woman and keep seeking that out. But what matters first is whether you can satisfy the woman right in front of you—the one you’re considering focusing on—and whether you can feel fulfilled yourself. I’m someone who believes in sex with love, so when I think that a woman might be doing it only because she’s being given an allowance, I immediately lose interest, wondering, “Does she really dislike it that much?” In ordinary relationships outside the club, sex is almost something that exists for women’s sake. But God created things cleverly: women can live without sex, while men are made to keep seeking it. How cruel—or perhaps that very imbalance is what makes things so complex and allows order and balance to be maintained… A man’s climax and pleasure are brief compared with a woman’s, while women can feel it for much longer and much more intensely. If women are the ones enjoying it more, and you’re making her feel that good, why is the man the one paying? Sometimes I even find myself thinking that I should be the one receiving money. At the club, there are moments when I think, “Wait, I’m giving an allowance for that?” But on the other hand, I feel that woman has value to me, so I’m comfortable paying the club’s allowance for spending time together and sharing that kind of intimacy. In the end, the result may be the same. I think it’s fine to have that much confidence, and it’s important to enjoy guiding things yourself. The media have recently been asking about Abe’s legacy, but basically, I think what happens at the club is a reflection of the legacy you’ve built up so far. It’s also important for a man to be foolish sometimes. Honestly, my head is 100% occupied with sex and women. (Though I can’t compete with Joe’s 120%…) Otherwise, you couldn’t manage four arranged dates on the same day. Four first dates, one after another, only three minutes apart and almost running into each other. Rather than feeling tired, the moment I meet a woman, all the fatigue disappears and energy and vitality come rushing back. Are men just idiots…? If that isn’t the case, there are countless things to enjoy in this world besides women and sex. Work and leisure come in all kinds of forms, everything has evolved to a highly advanced level, and everyone has different values and priorities. So perhaps it would be worthwhile to reconsider your own priorities and what you enjoy. I’m sure you have your own legacy as well. As for how to end things, at this time of year, saying that someone with COVID has appeared at your workplace, your family’s workplace, a school, cram school, or somewhere connected to you would probably make it easier to avoid meeting.

I’m Meg, a female member. Oh, are there really so many people who prefer to keep things platonic…? I love intimacy and kissing too, though… It’s a shame we couldn’t meet.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I think the key is to get as many offers as possible—in other words, meet as many women as you can.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here. > I can’t seem to meet any female members who are very sexually open. I’m not entirely sure what you mean by that, though. Are you looking for someone who responds enthusiastically during H at a regular hotel? Someone who’s generally open to trying different positions? Or someone who’s into activities considered more unconventional, such as BDSM? Or maybe you don’t want to stay indoors and are looking for someone open to exhibitionist play outdoors? I think the answer depends on what you have in mind. But if you’re talking about a woman who’s sexually open within the range of what’s generally considered normal play, then you actually need to develop the ability to identify women who seem naturally sensual just from their photos and videos. If you haven’t been meeting that kind of woman, perhaps you’ve simply been choosing women who don’t seem that way from the start. Try deliberately selecting and making offers to women you normally wouldn’t choose. Eventually, you may come across someone sexually open, and you’ll start to get a better sense of what kind of women to approach.

I’m Kazu, a male member. It would be easier to answer if you could explain a little more about what you mean by an “erotic female member” and what your particular preferences are（笑）. I don’t think there’s really any trick to figuring out someone’s preferences. Profile comments aren’t all that reliable, either. Still, as you continue making offers and pursuing relationships, you may gradually start to see what kind of partner suits your preferences. The reason things feel so lackluster in bed with your partners may be that your own approach is lackluster. In my experience, after helping a woman enjoy herself to some extent and then chatting with her afterward, she’ll sometimes let slip a surprisingly interesting story about her sexual experiences. I’ve already had several women confess that they like choking during sex—something I’d never encountered before—so I’m thinking of choosing one of them to become my teacher and asking her to show me the ropes. I doubt there’s much in it for a man if he’s the one being choked, but I figure that if I can provide that kind of service, I’ll get something in return. I think it would be better to stop dragging things out with women you want to part ways with, make new offers, and increase your chances of meeting the kind of woman you’re looking for. You can’t change the situation by just drifting along. At first, I thought I should explain my preferred relationship style when I joined. But through my experiences, I’ve come to feel that meeting a papa isn’t necessarily a high priority for the women you meet through a club. So these days, I try to adapt to the woman’s style rather than talk about my own preferences. I’ll answer if she asks, but that’s about it. After seeing someone for a while, I think you start to understand what kind of relationship she enjoys. If that doesn’t match what I’m looking for, I plan to part ways. I once considered asking on the Q&A board whether you should tell someone directly that you want to end things. But I learned that things naturally fade out if you simply don’t make another appointment, so these days I just don’t arrange the next meeting. Regarding Mac’s comment, I read his own answer and thought I’d add a little more. Just as Mac wrote, I think it comes down to having “the conviction that women are at least as erotic as men.” I had some awareness of that myself, but I hadn’t reached the point of being truly convinced. After seeing Mac’s method for “drawing it out,” I’ve decided to practice from here on and find my own path. I remember feeling embarrassed that I’d tried to take a shortcut by asking about someone else’s method, and saying, “That was gauche of me—like asking someone how they breathe in and out.” I think making new offers is essential to finding that path, too. Nobody is good at it from the very beginning. > Mac > That girl? I had no idea she was a choking sommelier!

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > I have a hard time meeting female members who are sexually adventurous. > The women also tend to be pretty reserved in bed. I agree with this! Women join in the first place because they want money, while most men—including me—are looking for passionate, enjoyable intimacy. That’s where the mismatch between the two sides comes from. At this point, why not make offers without worrying about looks, perhaps to married women whose profiles say, “I enjoy intimacy”? Or maybe consult the club? > Do you clearly communicate the kind of relationship you want and when you’d like to end things? I always tell them the kind of relationship I’m looking for—especially what I want in bed—but it still feels like I’m nowhere near making it happen. I’m honestly not very good at this, which is frustrating. As for me, I plan to continue until either the woman no longer needs me or I no longer need her. When I no longer need her, I intend to say, “I can’t do it anymore.” She’ll probably understand when she sees my body anyway… (笑) P.S. Mac, I don’t think I’m making assumptions or putting up walls, but it’s true that I haven’t been able to bring out that side of them. (笑) You’re right—I honestly don’t really know how to draw it out. (涙) I’ll do my best!