What do women who are thoughtful and attentive do? I’d love to hear about things you make a point of doing, or things someone has done for you that made you happy.

I’m Meg, a female member. I always make sure to bring something. If something comes up in our conversation, I’ll try to bring it along next time. Rather than choosing something expensive, I think about what would make him happiest, and that’s usually how I come up with an idea.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I’m not sure if this is the right way to put it, but I appreciate it when someone notices and takes care of little things that slip my mind. For example, during a meal, if I get caught up in conversation and my glass is empty, it’s nice when she calls the server without interrupting me. Or after eating something with her hands, she might casually hand me a napkin or something to wipe my hands with. It’s those little gestures that really make me happy. I don’t think thoughtfulness has anything to do with gender or hierarchy. Whenever someone does something that leaves me feeling good, I try to incorporate that behavior myself.

Mamiya from Universe Tokyo here. I believe that being a woman who shows thoughtful consideration starts with taking a genuine interest in the person in front of you. If you’re interested in someone, you’ll naturally notice things; without that interest, the opposite is true. That said, narcissists can be difficult. The more interested they are, the harder they try to make themselves look good. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and naturally doing the things you would want someone to do for you—that spirit of giving can’t be replaced by superficial techniques. Gifts are appreciated once you’ve gotten to know each other. If someone gives you one at the first meeting, opinions will be divided. In that case, it’s better not to give one. You don’t have to do anything difficult. Just follow through on the simple things you can do. Beyond that, simply listening to the other person without cutting their story short will be enough to make them happy.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’d like to share my own perspective in the form of a comment on Maezawa-san’s answer. It’s interesting how differently people can interpret the same things. I’d be surprised if someone couldn’t line up their shoes neatly. As for keeping your feet together, though, when we’re alone in a room, I actually feel happy when she relaxes and lets her posture loosen up a little—it makes me feel like the emotional distance between us is shrinking. After a meal, there’s no need to take out your wallet. If you did, I’d be surprised（笑） Whenever possible, I try to have the bill brought to the table because I don’t like making the woman wait. But if I’m paying at the register, I feel more comfortable if she waits a little farther away rather than standing right beside me. I don’t necessarily feel that I’ve done her a favor by treating her, but women who say “Thank you for the meal” or “Thank you” leave a very good impression. Come to think of it, it was an M-type woman I wrote about in one of my columns who taught me that this is what you should say when someone treats you. It does make a good impression when someone doesn’t take the initiative themselves. That said, when we’re in bed, I do sometimes think it would be fun and nice if she took the initiative a little. The first thing that came to mind when I read the question was bringing a small gift. I don’t have that kind of habit myself, so I’m simply impressed by people who do. I am happy to receive them, but if it were someone I saw every week, I might eventually find it a little burdensome. It would feel awkward to keep receiving things without giving anything back, so I’d probably end up preparing something every time too, and that could become a burden. If we shared a hobby, I think it would be nice to give her a small item related to it. Come to think of it, I do give small presents like that to someone I share a hobby with and see about once a month. Even when people do the same thing, their reactions can differ. So I think someone who is considerate is someone who carefully observes the other person’s actions and responses and adjusts accordingly.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well. When it comes to thoughtful little gestures, I think everyone has different standards. But things like: - A woman who lines up her shoes after taking them off - A woman who sits with her legs together Those kinds of women make me think, “She really has it together.” If you’re thinking, “Isn’t that just normal?”—then you’re someone who can naturally do those things. If you keep in mind that some people are impressed simply by someone doing ordinary things properly, it might even change the way you act. Also, someone who takes out her wallet after a meal, then smoothly puts it away when the man says, “It’s okay,” is pretty nice too. (Though it would be awkward if the man actually made her pay half, haha.) I also think it’s nice when, after entering a hotel room or somewhere similar, she doesn’t initiate anything herself. If it’s her first time at a hotel, being curious and looking around in surprise can be charming. But if she seems too accustomed to hotels, some men might be bothered by that. (I think more than half of men wouldn’t care, but some may think, “She’s used to this, which means she’s been here with lots of different people—I don’t like that.”) And I’m also impressed when someone brings a small snack or souvenir. Incidentally, if it’s not from a major chain but from a tiny, low-key shop—a real hidden gem—you might find yourself wondering, “How does she even know about this place?” That said, there’s absolutely no need to go out of your way to find something like that.