I currently have about three long-term papa (male supporter) relationships, and whenever I meet them at a hotel, it’s always dinner followed by going up to the room at a four- or five-star hotel. That’s become the norm for hotel dates.

Mamiya from Universe Tokyo here. A good hotel offers wonderful hospitality, and it feels great when you get to experience it♪ Please continue to value the people who give you those experiences. I think your values are probably a good match as well. I think the day will come when you stop caring about it. Your perspective can change quickly when your circumstances change. If money ever becomes tight, you may start thinking that you’d rather receive the money as an allowance instead of spending it on a luxury hotel. What’s really unfortunate is when someone gets no offers but still sets all kinds of restrictions, like saying they absolutely refuse to go to a love hotel. As long as you’re still receiving offers, there’s no problem with continuing as you are.

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” From the questioner’s perspective, the higher the allowance and the nicer the restaurant or hotel, the more appealing it may seem. Conversely, I imagine men tend to find women who don’t place such high demands more likable. About 20 years ago, I often took women to eat at city hotels and then to a hotel afterward. My long-term girlfriend told me, “That’s because you don’t know any good restaurants, right?” She was absolutely right. At the time, those were about the only places I could think of that were suitable for a date, and I didn’t feel confident about choosing anywhere else. These days, partly because I run a restaurant, I have a stronger desire to enjoy eating at restaurants themselves. I no longer automatically feel that hotels or expensive restaurants mean better food, so hotels no longer impress me. Now, I’d rather treat someone to a meal at a restaurant I’ve chosen based on my own taste. You seem like a wonderful woman, so I imagine you receive hospitality in settings suited to you. Still, it may be better, if possible, not to judge someone solely by an elaborate form of hospitality that wouldn’t differ all that much regardless of who provided it. I think it’s also very important to be sensitive to and find joy in subtle thoughtfulness and hospitality.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. This question is way over my head (lol). For me, it’s almost always restaurant → love hotel. Rather than becoming pickier about men, maybe it’s because I’ve started measuring my own worth by how much money they’re willing to spend on me. Or am I off? lol This feels like it’s on a whole different level, so I’m not confident about my answer…

I’m a male member, BB7. Personally, I’d quickly part ways with a woman who gradually got used to a more luxurious lifestyle and started looking down on or making fun of other men and women. But there are plenty of men who aren’t like that, so don’t worry. It simply means that your own standards and values have changed.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, too. I think you should stay as you are. The reason is that you currently have people who treat you that way. And because you meet people who don’t and feel that something is missing, you’re able to recognize what makes a good person truly good. In fact, that may be why you haven’t forgotten how great the three men you’ve been seeing for a long time are. I do think your standards for happiness have gotten higher. But as long as there are men who can provide that higher level of happiness, it means you’re still very attractive to them. As for what to do going forward, I think you should focus on either finding a fourth person—or more—who is just as good, or further improving your own appeal so that the three men you’re currently seeing will continue wanting to be with you. I can’t think of any particularly good way to improve things, but I do think there are good men who are happy with dinner-only dates at nice hotels, or with moving on to a love hotel.