Mamiyā from Universe Tokyo here.
I don’t think that many women are fully in touch with their sexuality.
Quite a few may prefer to get things over with quickly and efficiently.
I think it’s best to ask your partner what feels good.
You can’t tell whether they’re pretending just by watching their reactions.
As for anything more intense, it’s better to wait until you’ve gotten closer, but I think it’s fine to try different things.
Hopefully you can both enjoy yourselves!
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
As you get older, you can’t help worrying about whether you’ll still be able to perform to your own satisfaction. That naturally makes you more determined to at least satisfy the woman.
> 1. Make sure she doesn’t feel any pain
> 2. Keep your touch and movements gentle at first
> 3. Watch her reactions
But if you focus too much on these things, won’t it prevent the mood—and your excitement—from building naturally?
Just as with Cialis, you might consider using an electric massager as a sort of “cheat.” In this case, using one right away or fairly early on may be the best approach.
To be specific, I’d suggest trying a THRIVE electric massager.
Once she seems fully satisfied with that, you can start caressing her.
And—
Women may have only one-hundredth as much interest in sex as men do—or perhaps one ten-thousandth. You could even assume they have no interest in it at all.
With club women, I think it’s best to take it easy and not put too much pressure on yourself, assuming that they’re mainly thinking about the allowance and their emotional needs—and that, as long as the man reaches climax without any complaints, that’s good enough for them.
You can approach each encounter assuming that the chance of having perfect chemistry is less than 1%, or at best under 10%.
It’s like saying that you can have one best friend—if you have two, they aren’t really “best” friends. In the same way, finding even one woman you have perfect chemistry with is more than enough. In fact, you could consider it a miracle.
With women from a dating club, I imagine the woman generally considers things perfectly fine as long as the man reaches climax.
First, I suggest establishing a pattern that allows you to reliably reach climax and feel satisfied every time, putting your partner at ease each time. Then, once you’ve done that, you can start exploring her satisfaction and your compatibility. (You’re already at this stage with Cialis, right? Please take this as something for other readers to consider.)
As you gradually become accustomed to your own pattern and gain confidence and composure, you’ll eventually be able to tell within about 10 seconds to a minute of starting to caress her whether you have good chemistry.
If the chemistry is good, continue caressing her. If it isn’t—which is more often the case—I use an electric massager fairly early on. (All the club women I’ve been with were already accustomed to using one.)
With even better chemistry, simply interlocking your fingers might be exciting for both of you. With an exceptionally good match, you might even become aroused just by hugging each other fully clothed.
For men, initial chemistry generally doesn’t change even after continuing the relationship for 20 years—or more than 1,000 encounters, assuming 50 times a year. For women, however, it can sometimes change after five or ten years of becoming more comfortable and responsive.
Since you can’t spend that many years developing things through a dating club, I think it’s quicker to look for someone with whom you’re naturally more compatible.
If you’re not very good at recognizing whether a woman has reached climax, relying on an electric massager every time may be the better option. (If that isn’t the case for you, please forgive me for saying so.) Unskillfully prolonging caressing will probably only force both of you to endure discomfort, since neither side can honestly express how they feel. And because an allowance is involved, it’s even harder for her to say anything. As Flagmaker wrote, it can be important to wrap things up quickly—either help her reach climax or accept that it’s not going to happen.
Also, as we get older, myself included—
I think the greatest happiness would be finding a woman with whom you share such a deep emotional bond that you would want to remain together even if she could no longer have sex—for example, because of an accident.
Meeting a woman with that kind of compatibility may be possible precisely because of the wisdom that comes with age.
If that happens, you’ll be able to feel happy not only about your physical compatibility, but also simply about being together, without worrying so much about sex itself.
The medication gives me a headache and makes it hard to concentrate. I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think the questioner’s points 1–3 are generally sufficient. In fact, I think just 1 and 3 would be fine.
If I were to add one piece of advice, it would be: “4. Be patient, and don’t fixate on penetration or your own climax.” Most young men haven’t mastered this yet, so simply putting point 4 into practice can set you apart from energetic younger guys and give you a competitive edge. Sometimes, they’ll even be delighted and say, “I’ve never been pleasured for that long before.”
If I were to add another point: “5. Don’t fixate on making the woman climax.” Some days are just like that. This is starting to sound like a Zen koan.
Of course, there’s also the world of swingers’ bars and people devoted to BDSM, so sex is a profoundly deep world with endless layers to explore. Whether it’s a wonderful world depends on each person’s sensibilities—and ultimately, on the questioner.
I’m Flagmaker, a papa-katsu columnist.
I’ve been working hard to improve my skills too, but lately I’ve started to wonder if I’ve been looking at it the wrong way.
Even if you raise your “sex level” to 10, I feel like not everyone necessarily wants a level 10 experience every time.
In the end, it seems to depend entirely on the woman’s mood.
Simply put, the best approach might be to let her choose one of the following options based on how she feels that day. I’m starting to think that improving your skills within the flow of each course may be the right answer.
1. Everything quick and easy
2. Attentive foreplay + quick and easy
3. Everything slow, attentive, and satisfying
4. Massage + everything slow, attentive, and satisfying
In the end, option 1 might be the most popular here ^^;
> Mac-san
I burst out laughing lol.
