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Aug 28, 2020 02:51
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Two years ago, I met a woman through an app who wanted to have her first experience. She was 27 at the time.
In terms of the Universal Club classes, she’d probably be Gold. Not quite Platinum, but definitely not Standard either. If there were 20 women in the class, she’d easily be among the top five in terms of cuteness.
After graduating from a women’s university, she joined a small company where she had few opportunities to meet men. She lived seriously, without going out at night, and apparently graduated and spent five years without ever getting a boyfriend.
Normally, when I meet a virgin, I give her an allowance of 50,000 yen plus a 50,000-yen gift, and I also give her my business card because I feel bad about her not knowing who I am. Since the woman’s goal is usually to have her first experience, we often don’t meet a second time—the woman is usually the one who cuts off contact. But this woman and I had very good physical compatibility, and I found it rewarding to guide her, so before I knew it, we had continued dating for two years.
She lives alone, so we can spend the night together, and we have an overnight date once a week. Since it’s been two years, we’ve met more than 100 times in total, and her allowances have exceeded 5 million yen altogether. She apparently wasn’t originally motivated by money and opened a new bank account to save all the allowance.
Even after two years, she hasn’t been with any man other than me. She doesn’t have no desire to marry, but these days there’s no guarantee that getting married will make a woman happy, and she doesn’t seem particularly eager to find a boyfriend either.
That said, I’m worried that by being there as a man in her life, I may have given her a false sense of security during the delicate period from age 27 to 29, and perhaps caused her to do something she won’t be able to undo.
At this point, should I continue seeing her as I have been, giving her 50,000 yen each time and helping her savings grow while continuing to play the role of a pseudo-boyfriend? Or would it be better to make the difficult decision to end things myself and leave her life? Which do you think would be better?
I’ll probably continue the relationship, but I can’t shake this vague sense of guilt. The questioner was Mac.
5 answers
迷わない70代
Male
Send a reverse offer to this responder
パパ活歴11年目、回答者歴8年目の関西在住者。パパ活終活中(笑)
Age: 70 or older
👨 Male
Former Universe member
I’m in my 60s and still trying to figure things out.
If it were me, I’d plan to part ways when she turns 30.
At 30, she would still have plenty of her youthful glow—and thanks to Mac, that glow may be even stronger now.
I think one of a papa’s important roles may be to help her recognize the turning points in life and support her in moving on.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
> Women often cut off contact
I think women tend to stop responding when something is bothering them. If you’re not trying to control her, she’s probably okay with the situation, so I don’t think you need to worry about it.
If you’re concerned, you could offer to help her find a boyfriend, but from her perspective, that might just feel like unwanted interference.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
These days, it feels like more people—both men and women—are choosing not to have a boyfriend or girlfriend than when we were young. I’m not exactly sure what the problem is, but I feel it may have something to do with women becoming more active in society and men losing sight of their sense of purpose—of doing things “for society” and “for future generations.”
That said, regarding your girlfriend, given the current circumstances, wouldn’t it be fine to leave things as they are?
If the circumstances surrounding her change, or her way of thinking changes, I think she’ll naturally start creating some distance herself. If that happens, you should “happily send her on her way.”
Until then, perhaps it’s fine to be the “gap-filling stick” that Flag Maker mentioned.
It might even last a long time, though… (lol)
P.S. People have all kinds of gaps, and new ones appear as well.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
If you’re seeing each other about once a week, I think it’s fine to continue as you are. She isn’t being tied down, and she still has the freedom and the right to choose.
Whether she continues after getting a boyfriend or getting married will be up to her. In that case, you may not see each other for a while, or the frequency could change.
She may be growing attached to you and feel at least somewhat indebted to you. At the same time, things may simply be progressing according to her calculated plan.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, based in Seattle.
It reminded me of a manga called *Shojokoi*, about a woman in her late twenties who’s still a virgin.
The 29-year-old I’ve been seeing for six years is in much the same situation. Apparently, her savings have reached eight figures in yen. She still seems to spend her days lounging around at home without a job. My messages are marked as read right away, and I can always reach her.
Sex has become routine and we’re practically sexless these days, but we share the same hobbies and have a good vibe together. The other day, we even went to Kagawa to eat udon.
These days, it’s hard to be happy even if you get married, so I plan to keep supporting her until we have a falling-out or I get married. Until then, I hope she keeps saving. I’ve also taught her how to invest in stocks.