This is my first time signing up for a site like this… I’m thinking of setting my profile to Type B and deciding whether to have an adult relationship (intimate) after going on several dates. Would I not get any offers with those terms? I’m not concerned about looks.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Since you’re Type B, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going on several dates before deciding whether you want an adult relationship (intimate). Some men—probably the majority—want to move toward an adult relationship quickly, while a smaller number enjoy the process of building a relationship with a woman who keeps her guard up. Men who don’t like waiting through multiple dates before she decides whether to have an adult relationship will probably end the arrangement early. I believe that taking longer to move toward an adult relationship and increasing the number of date offers are inversely related. Only you can decide which matters more and where to strike the balance. I hope you meet a man who understands your perspective and is happy to continue seeing you.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. > I’d like to register as Type B and go on several dates before deciding whether to pursue an adult relationship… The phrase “several dates” concerns me. Normally, Type B means that an adult relationship can begin from the second date onward, so it may seem like you can take as long as you want. However, most men would prefer you to decide by around the third date at the latest. So, the ideal approach is to be prepared to decide on the second date, but if you actually meet and still can’t decide then, it may happen on the third date instead. That’s more or less what Type B is meant to be. Even if the woman is thinking “several dates,” if the fourth date is still dinner only, the club will receive feedback confirming that she misrepresented her dating type. The staff may also start feeling that the man has a point if it’s still dinner only on the fourth date. If you really want to decide only after going on many dates, it would be better to register as Type A. However, choosing A raises the bar for the interview, so you may not pass the interview itself. Even if you do pass and get registered, you may not receive any offers. It’s difficult to say what the best choice is, but I think it might be a good idea to register as B while emphasizing to the staff that, for example, you will definitely decide by the fifth date. Your profile may say something like, “She’s Type B, but seems to need five dates to make a decision,” or “She’s very close to Type A.” However, if you really can decide by the fifth date, some men may still be willing to make an offer.

I’m a man in my 60s, still trying to find my way. I agree with Paper Airplane’s opinion. These days, most of the women I’m seeing are former members, and whether they’re Type B or Type A, our dates are mostly meals or messaging… I’m enjoying seeing, over the long term, whether things might eventually develop into an adult relationship (intimate). I’m perfectly fine even if it never becomes an adult relationship. I enjoy the process itself… For a while after joining, I sometimes wondered whether women were misrepresenting their type, but I’ve reached the point where I no longer care about things like that. If all I wanted was sex, I wouldn’t need to participate in club activities… So, to the person who asked the question: I think you should feel free to keep going on dates. There are men like me out there too… If you’d like, why not make a reverse offer? Although… my girlfriend might get mad at me?! Haha.

Universe Tokyo, Mamiya here. Especially if this is your first time signing up for a site like this, I think it’s best to trust your instincts if you feel the man seems like a good person and let him take the lead in escorting you. Our members have considered the risks, done their research, registered with us, and paid a substantial fee to make you an offer. They’ll also take your date location into consideration, and you’ll receive transportation money. Most of them are gentlemanly and genuinely interested in you. They can’t get away with anything inappropriate. If anything happens, please contact the club right away. You need to be cautious not only on the first meeting, but afterward as well, with people you meet on the street or through apps.

I’m Imai, Chief at Universe Tokyo. Choosing Relationship Type B doesn’t mean you’re absolutely expected to progress to an adult relationship from the second date onward, so please don’t worry. In fact, many women choose Type B because they want to meet a few times and take their time deciding. That said, if someone seems like they won’t know unless they go on 20 or 30 dates, for example, they may be introduced as being quite cautious about an adult relationship and therefore closer to Type A. I also believe men have their own relationship preferences. Some men prefer women who choose Type C or D, while others prefer A or B because they want to enjoy a pseudo-romantic relationship—the process of getting to know each other. So it’s not possible to say categorically that you will or won’t receive offers based solely on your relationship type.

I’m Hikoukikii, a male member. Right now, I’m happily continuing weekly dinner dates with a girl who was exactly the B type and had written on her profile something like, “Men, please give me a try rather than just going for A types!” She lives nearby, and I like her enough that, with her, I’d be perfectly happy for our dinner-only dates to continue for about a year. She went on hiatus from the club almost immediately, so it doesn’t really feel like a club arrangement. We’ve never once discussed an allowance, so I’ve never given her a set amount—and it hasn’t been anything substantial anyway. Actually, I see her as an A type, so I’m looking forward to patiently watching her open up emotionally. Since she’s already on hiatus, I don’t have to worry about other offers or allowances, and I’m also glad she won’t be influenced by the club culture. Even our casual LINE exchanges this morning turned into a lively, heartwarming conversation. It’s nice. Unlike an adult relationship (intimate), it’s enjoyable being at the stage where we’re gradually getting to know each other… Does she like me?… Is she interested? Is our relationship deepening?… Will she drift away?… Does she really like me?… I feel excited and happy as I wonder about all of it. With an ordinary, natural encounter, there’s no guarantee of an adult relationship (intimate), so it feels more natural and better without that kind of premise.

I’m Kazu, a male member. There are plenty of female members registered who are in a similar situation to you, so I don’t think it’s a problem at all. Some men actually prefer women who say they can’t decide whether they want an adult relationship (intimate) until they’ve gone on a few dates. Personally, I usually make offers to women in Types B, C, and D. I make fewer offers to Type A women as well. When we meet, I simply adjust when I bring up the subject: with Type A, I only discuss the allowance for tea; with Type B, I wait until the second date to discuss the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate)—or, if her profile says she wants to go on several dates first, I’d probably wait until around the third to fifth date. With Types C and D, I would discuss the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) during the first date. No one can say whether you’ll receive an offer, but one thing is certain: you won’t receive any offers if you don’t register. I also don’t recommend choosing a dating type that doesn’t reflect how you really feel, since it will only wear you out. Given your feelings, I think it would be best to choose Type B during the interview and tell the staff, “I’d like to decide whether to have an adult relationship (intimate) after going on several dates.” That way, you won’t have to push yourself. To answer in one word: No, it doesn’t bother me.