The men I’ve met through the club often tell me things like, “Being with you is the best I’ve ever had,” “You’re so good it’s dangerous—I’m going to get addicted and won’t be able to leave you,” or “You feel amazing.”
Do men say things like that as flattery? Is it okay to take them as sincere? Also, what kind of woman was the best you’ve ever been with? Please evaluate her purely in terms of intimacy, regardless of her personality.
Good morning, this is Joe.
I’m taking part in a morning cleanup volunteer activity, so I’ll answer during my break.
Joe only ever gives compliments. That doesn’t mean they’re lies, though. I have absolutely no confidence in my own abilities, so complimenting people is the only skill I have. And I don’t say these things to just anyone.
Apparently, there’s a very good chance that you’re particularly skilled in bed. I think you should feel confident about that. The women Joe considers especially talented are usually those who:
- Look sexy
- Seem plain-looking, but become wild once they’re in bed
- Kiss with all their heart
- Have an enveloping feel
- Know how to vary their rhythm and technique
Listing names probably won’t mean anything to you, but Sakura, Princess Nana, and Ms. Jasmine are women who fit the descriptions above.
My break is over, so I’ll leave it at that. I hope you continue to drive the men wild and enjoy fulfilling relationships. And if the opportunity ever arises, I’d be honored to experience those skills myself.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
I absolutely welcome dirty questions from female members. I even look forward to them. Keep them coming.
I’m in Sapporo on a business trip for the first time in ages, and I’m sorry I’m late getting to my favorite kind of question. The cool weather feels like heaven.
I imagined that perhaps the questioner gets compliments as flattery because they want to keep seeing her since she’s beautiful and cute. But if multiple people have told her multiple times, specifically that she’s amazing “down there” or that she’s great in bed, then it probably isn’t just flattery. Wouldn’t that mean she’s been officially recognized as a natural and a real technician?
As for what kind of adult relationship Fuu likes, I enjoy it when she’s shy at first—for example, she’s just showered and wearing a bathrobe but still has her underwear on (cute, sexy lingerie is a plus).
“You’re wearing underwear?”
“Because I’m embarrassed.”
Then she gets wet quickly from kissing and touching, starts making sounds, and lets little whispers like “That feels so good” slip out. It’s even better when she quietly tells me in my ear, “I’m embarrassed that I’m so wet.”
I like it when she’s shy (acting is welcome), but actually enjoys it down there—when she wraps her arms tightly around my waist during intimacy, and things tighten up or she occasionally trembles with pleasure.
(That was a long fantasy!)
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Mamiya from Universe Tokyo here.
First of all, thank you for the risqué question.
You know how some men become very talkative during intimacy—saying things like, “Wow, you feel amazing,” or “I’m about to lose it.” I usually stay calm and think they’re saying that to heighten their own excitement.
I do think pillow talk afterward comes closest to revealing their true feelings, since both their hearts and bodies are completely laid bare. But as part of a gentleman’s etiquette, they may also simply be making you feel good and expressing their thanks as a way to smoothly move things toward the next time.
Either way, I think it’s a sign that he wants to continue seeing you.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Wait… what… WHAT?!
I really believed you were being sincere this whole time…
I’m off to meditate under a nearby waterfall and come to my senses…
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer too.
If all they said was that it felt good, it could just be flattery. But if you often hear things like:
“Being intimate with you was the best I’ve ever experienced,”
“It felt so good I’m in trouble—I won’t be able to leave you,” or
“You feel incredible inside,”
then I get the feeling they’re being sincere, not just flattering you.
You might even be exceptionally gifted, though you may be able to tell by how quickly your partners finish.
If everyone you’ve been with has lasted less time than Ultraman can stay on Earth, you might really be exceptional.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
In my case, I place more importance on the woman’s pleasure than on ejaculation or my own satisfaction. The best possible compatibility is when both of us become almost Pavlovian in our physical responses—getting excited as soon as we meet or touch, with the woman quickly reaching her climax, followed by an intense encounter where we reach the peak together at just the right moment. We’re left completely spent, unable to talk, simply basking in the afterglow. Only when we can understand, without saying a word, that we’re perfectly compatible does it qualify as the very best chemistry. I rarely encounter that.
With age and experience, I can tell almost immediately whether we’re compatible, and when I feel we aren’t, my motivation quickly fades…
Among the women at the club, there have probably only been one or two. Even including the wives I’ve had in my private life, there were only one or two.
One of my long-term girlfriends had the tightest and most pleasurable body I’ve ever encountered, but that didn’t necessarily mean we were highly compatible. It took more than ten years for her to become fully responsive and for us to feel that level of chemistry. So having an exceptional body and being compatible don’t always go hand in hand.
It may take women years to become fully responsive and feel truly compatible with someone, whereas men can usually tell after the first time. Or perhaps it would be more accurate to say that, with age, the decision is made almost immediately.
So if the questioner wasn’t considered “the best,” I imagine those words were simply a social courtesy. When the chemistry really is perfect, he would probably keep expressing that admiration even later. You would also sense that, in the first place, words aren’t necessary.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
It’s hard to say. Sometimes I’m just being polite, and other times I genuinely mean it. But there have only been a handful of times when I truly meant it, so I guess most of the time it’s just flattery. I think it’s probably best to view it as being about as genuine as a woman’s reactions when she’s putting on an act during sex.
The most incredible experience I’ve ever had was with a woman who was a university student about five years ago. Once I was inside, it felt like I was being drawn in. Even after she came, she kept tightening around me in a way that felt incredibly good, and I became hard again without pulling out—then we went for a second round. Rather than saying I finished, it might be more accurate to say I was drained completely. Before or since, she’s the only woman who ever made me feel that good inside.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Looks like Sunday night is when the anonymous question box really comes alive. Talking about allowances is fine, but answering the dirty questions is more fun (lol).
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but there was one woman who could squeeze from the entrance all the way in, almost as if she were wringing me out. Even her abs were moving. She was incredible. She was a foreigner, and my language skills weren’t good enough to tell her that. If she’d been Japanese, I probably would have said, “That’s amazing!” and asked what exactly felt so good and whether she had some technique. I’ve probably slept with more than 100 women over the course of my life, but she’s the only one I ever thought felt especially good inside. I remember thinking I wanted to bring her back to Japan with me.
I’m not one to flatter people, but there was a period when, if I finished sooner than I expected, I’d feel embarrassed and say, “That was good.” These days, I make the excuse that it had been a while (lol). Sorry for being an idiot.
P.S. To that ordinary female member:
Unfortunately, that woman didn’t speak English. If I’d been with someone who understood English, I probably would have expressed my excitement in even more broken English: “You’re awesome!! Your cunt squeezed my dick!!”
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