I’ve been a member for one year. I’m married and in my mid-40s, and I’m seeing one woman once a week and two women once or twice a month. Things are stable with my current lineup, but I’m thinking of making more offers to expand my pool of candidates in case any of them suddenly ends things.
Even when things are stable, do you continue making offers to new women?
I imagine it depends on your current relationships, financial resources, energy levels, and work situation, but I’d appreciate hearing how many women you see and whether you have a policy on making further offers.
Mamiya from Universe Tokyo here.
I strongly encourage you to make a new offer.
This isn’t a sales pitch.
The best encounters often happen when things are stable. When your luck in meeting people is strong, you can make calm decisions, so switching to someone new goes smoothly.
You truly need a new woman when you no longer have the energy to look for one.
I believe it’s important, as a form of insurance for your life, to continue dating while minimizing the emotional hurt you may experience.
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I’m a BB7 male member.
Whether or not I already have women I’m seeing regularly, if there’s someone I’d like to meet, I make her an offer.
That’s all there is to it.
If I happen to feel that a newly offered woman is a better match, I’ll prioritize her. But if I decide I prefer the woman I was already seeing, I’ll only meet the new one once or twice.
As a result, I’m always drifting around while keeping about three or four women in the mix.
The best thing is to do papa-katsu however you want.
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I'm Meg, a female member.
You certainly have a lot going on… You’re quite energetic…
Still, I think I’m more on Mr. Kamihikōki’s side.
I understand wanting to look for someone new if your needs aren’t being met.
But while things are stable… wouldn’t it be okay to stick with this arrangement for a while?
That’s just the opinion of a devoted woman… Sorry.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
I think it really depends on the person, but in most cases, as long as they have the time and means, they’ll probably keep looking for new women.
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I’m Papahikoki, a male club member who got scolded by my daughter for forgetting to buy ice cream and was dragged into watching Haikyuu!! until I was completely worn out.
Please forgive me for offering a slightly different perspective ＞＜
> I’m considering making more offers and increasing my pool of candidates so I’ll be okay whenever one of them turns me down.
That way of thinking itself may not be ideal.
The purpose of making offers is to meet someone even better—not to do so simply because you want to be prepared in case you get rejected.
Conversely, I think it’s also important to envision the relationship continuing: that she won’t leave and that things will keep going well.
At a club, as long as the terms are met, the chances of her leaving are extremely close to zero—as long as the adult relationship is going well.
I think it’s important to tell her that you need her, and that you’re happy and feel fortunate to have her in your life.
People are happy when they feel needed, and that feeling can give them a sense of purpose. Even when it comes to club members, women are sensitive to these things and will pick up on them. If you’re thinking, “It’s fine if she turns me down,” she may sense that. More than anything, your own feelings may not stay strong, and your words and actions toward her may become half-hearted as a result. If that happens, it could affect your priority in her eyes when it really matters.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I’m in a situation similar to yours, but I’ve continued making offers. The difference is that the woman I’m currently seeing is getting married soon, so I’m looking for someone new out of necessity.
If you have the time and flexibility, I think it’s a good idea to meet various women. Meeting someone new may help you appreciate the good qualities of the woman you’re currently seeing, and you might even meet someone who’s an even better match.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Wow, you’ve really gotten yourself into a great position. My goal is to reach a point where I can meet someone every week.
Even in that situation, I’d probably still make an offer and look for one more dating partner.
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