I’m embarrassed to ask, but could you advise me on the best way to end things with women I’m close to if I can no longer afford it financially?
Thanks to you, I’ve been able to go on increasingly close dates with two women since our first meetings.
As long as I can afford it and they’re happy with the arrangement, I’d like to continue seeing them.
However, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I don’t think I’ll be in a comfortable financial position forever.
I’m Meg, a female member.
I’ve always felt that even if someone doesn’t have much financial leeway, they should at least have some emotional and personal maturity.
Of course, it can’t be completely allowance-free… But even with a small allowance, if he’s someone I respect or someone I’d genuinely want to keep spending time with, I could continue seeing him without ending things.
What do you think? Try taking another look at what makes you appealing.
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Universe Tokyo — Mamiya answers.
It’s easy to cut someone off, but let me tell you about Ran, who is currently enjoying mama-katsu!
I ended up making plans to go on a date with 20-year-old Ran. It all started because Mama Mamiya selfishly said, “I’ll pay, so I want to go somewhere nice.”
I told him that, since this was mama-katsu, I would cover the date expenses. But Ran said, “I’m not allowed to have a part-time job because of club activities, and I’ll use some of my allowance from my New Year’s gift money to pay.”
He continued, “I can’t take you somewhere expensive every time, and I might ask you to cover half on those occasions. I’m really sorry if that seems uncool. But I’ll do my absolute best to make sure you have a great time, so please meet me!”
This completely knocked Auntie Mamiya out.
I learned from this young man that you shouldn’t underestimate someone just because he’s younger. He’s genuinely a good guy, and he clearly and honestly communicates what he can and can’t do right now. That was incredibly straightforward and manly of him.
Women doing papa-katsu may understandably be shocked when the reality is that their allowance gets reduced.
But perhaps there are still new possibilities to explore. I hope both sides can negotiate and find a way to continue the relationship.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Please understand that when the money ends, the relationship ends too. Your only option is to be honest and tell her you can no longer afford it, then accept her reaction.
When you’re financially comfortable again, you can always come back and look for someone new.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Life has its ups and downs.
If they think highly of you, don’t let your selfish desire to continue the relationship get the better of you. Just be honest and say that you’ve run out of money, then part ways.
Unfortunately, an escort club is a place where financially comfortable men register.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I totally understand how you feel, lol. I don’t have that much money either.
Even so, I’m guessing you’re doing your best right now to handle the allowance side of things while still behaving courteously.
That’s how I was, too.
When I reached a point where I wanted to cut back on my allowance expenses, I honestly told them I couldn’t continue, like this:
“I’m running out of money to put toward allowances, so I can’t continue. I’m sorry.”
What I really meant was that I wanted to reduce the amount, but I felt saying that directly would be rude. And I thought making up some vague excuse would look even worse.
In the end, I got one of these three reactions:
1. They ignored me with a “read” and no reply (sob).
2. “If you ever have some extra money again, feel free to reach out.”
3. “You don’t have to give me an allowance—we can still go out for dinner sometimes, right?” (happy tears)
Hope this helps.
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I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
You might want to read plenty of books like *Rich Dad Poor Dad*.
If you’re young, you could look for connections outside the club. It would cost one-tenth as much, but take 10 to 100 times longer.
As for when the money runs out, women can sense it, so there’s no need to worry.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
“Sorry, I’ve run out of money. I can’t see you anymore.” That’s all.
I don’t think running out of financial breathing room is shameful in itself. But I do think it’s shameful to only start thinking about how to end a good relationship once that breathing room is gone.
“An allowance is a condom for the heart.” — Mac
That’s a real gem. Trying to get unprotected sex isn’t right.
I think money reveals a person’s character in how they handle relationships—whether they have it or not. Let’s live with dignity even when we don’t have money.
P.S. Big brother Mac, absolutely!
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