Someone mentioned that the woman they were seeing started crying, but from a papa’s perspective, isn’t that considered too much? I’m sure it depends on the reason and how intense it was, but would you start thinking about ending the arrangement?
I’m a female member and hope to have a relationship where we genuinely connect emotionally, so I vaguely thought something like that might happen sometimes. But should I be more careful about it? I’d appreciate your advice.
Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here.
For a man, having a woman cry during an intimate moment can feel like an unusual badge of honor, don’t you think? I’m not entirely sure, but I get the impression that women have all sorts of things going on, so he probably didn’t think too much of it.
Apparently, letting yourself cry honestly can be a great way to relieve stress, so don’t distance yourself from him on your own initiative!
Cry as much as you need to, and be happy.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
I didn’t answer the earlier question, but… the truth is, I cry a lot.
I proudly consider myself a top-tier “high-maintenance woman.”
I’m actually surprised that so many of you say you don’t cry.
Lately, I’ve even been nicknamed “Crybaby Meg.”
Why? Because he makes me cry…
I end up blaming him for it.
When you really love someone, you want them to stay healthy and happy, right? I don’t really want to think too far ahead.
I don’t know how long we’ll be able to stay together, but these are tears shed because I want to give him my very best while we’re together.
He always brings me souvenirs…
Yes, he says it’s his way of making amends, lol.
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I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
A few tears of joy are fine, but I don’t like women who cry—whether at work or in their private lives.
That said, women who cry briefly are an exception.
There are quite a few women, especially idols, who tear up easily during movies but are perfectly fine afterward, happily eating pancakes.
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I’m a lost soul in my 60s.
In my case, I made her cry, so she cried.
As a result, we ended up having a very intense relationship until we eventually parted ways.
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I’m a BB7 male member.
Once, while we were having a smoke in bed, the woman I was with started crying as she talked about an ex-boyfriend she had dated and broken up with.
Since crying can be cathartic, I don’t find it particularly concerning. All I need to do is hold her or listen to what she has to say.
I see women’s tears as being about as insignificant as a fart—once you let them out, you feel better. Holding them in isn’t good.
That’s how I look at it, so I don’t find it heavy at all.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the CEO’s office as well.
I don’t think crying automatically means someone is too much. Rather, if their feelings become burdensome, I’d end things because it would be difficult to deal with.
So even if someone cries, I think it’s fine as long as the other person doesn’t feel troubled by it.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> I’m a female member, and I’m looking for a relationship where we genuinely connect emotionally…
I can’t have a relationship without feelings either.
That said, I think it depends on where you place those feelings, how you approach them, and how far you let them go.
For me, the basic premise is always “within the framework of a dating club.”
With that understanding, I’d like us to be open with each other, challenge each other, and see where the relationship goes.
But a club manager I’ve known for many years once told me:
“Date-chan, women end up crying over you…”
“It’s not something you can solve with logic. What are you going to do?”
Fortunately—or unfortunately—I haven’t had an experience like that yet.
All I can say for now is:
“It probably won’t happen, but what if it does…?”
I don’t have a solution at this point.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
This is a difficult question to answer, since how you interpret it depends on why the woman was crying, what kind of relationship you have, and when it happened.
Actually, I just remembered! The opposite happened to me—I was the only one quietly crying at a love hotel. I remember being completely dazed on the drive home, too, lol. I wrote about it in detail in this column: https://universe-club.jp/column/anaumeboukyoukai1
I cried because I got dumped. And the reason I got dumped was because I was being too intense. So, for a while, she cut things off with me.
In this situation, the “being too intense” came first and the “tears” came afterward. So rather than worrying about the tears, I think you should be careful not to become too intense.
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I’m a male club member from Seattle.
I’m happy about it—I feel like we’ve reached the kind of relationship where she can express such strong emotions around me. I’ve never had a woman I met through the club cry in front of me, though.
A girlfriend I’ve been seeing for over five years has cried while opening up to me about her troubles. I even ended up crying with her.
Also, having someone in a sexless relationship cry because she was happy to finally be intimate again was, in a subtle way, kind of a turn-on.
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Aizawa, Sub-Chief of Universe Club Tokyo, here.
I think it really depends on the flow and content of the conversation, but if she cries for a reason that’s difficult for the man to understand, he may see her as emotionally unstable and someone to avoid.
That said, if the reason for her tears is understandable, some men might simply respond, “I see… You’ve been through a lot,” and leave it at that.
Still, I imagine it would be pretty awkward for everyone involved in the moment…
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male club member.
It’s generally unusual for a woman from an exclusive dating club to cry, so when she breaks down or lets you see her tears…
Once, a woman burst into tears in front of me. Even though I felt at the time that it seemed a bit theatrical, I later realized it had probably been a calculated move…
It became a bitter memory that I deeply regretted.
It also reminded me of something from when I worked at a men’s esthetics salon. Sometimes a therapist would suddenly start crying in front of a customer. The customer might think it was because he was special—that she was showing him her tears—but in reality, it had absolutely nothing to do with him. It was simply a misunderstanding.
I think it’s best to be careful when it comes to tears.
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