Nice to meet you. I’m a woman in my 20s who is currently taking a break from the club.

Mamiya from Universe Tokyo here. I think activities like this carry risks in all kinds of places. As someone on the management side, I hate to say it, but there is always a possibility of being found out. It’s scary just to think that someone might be watching you or that someone could be in on it. Perhaps your ex is clinging to the past and irrationally resenting the fact that, while you were making happy memories together, you were actually being betrayed. Engaging with him won’t do you any good, and even seeing the message history when you haven’t opened the messages may make you feel as though he’s still there, keeping you from moving on. Wouldn’t it be okay to block him? You don’t need to contact him or keep carrying those anxious feelings. From here on, try to hold on to a sense of gratitude, and tell yourself: “There’s nothing more I can do for you.”

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ I think it’s fine to just leave him on read. There are countless offers like this. Don’t waste your time dealing with them. If a woman I knew and admired was registered there, I wouldn’t interrogate her—I’d make her a proper offer. That man is broke. He’s a pitiful guy. He’s broke because he wastes his time.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > Right after I registered, he suddenly sent me a message that seemed like he was probing to see whether I was doing papa-katsu. I asked the staff to hide my profile if he was registered, and then started using the club. I think it’s highly likely that someone who knows about your relationship with your ex is a club member or otherwise connected to one, and that information is being passed along. It sounds like your ex may still have feelings for you. There’s also a possibility that he’s becoming a stalker. Until his behavior settles down, I think it would be wise to take at least a temporary break from the club and refrain from using it. I also recommend gathering and organizing evidence in case you need to deal with stalking.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well. There are several possibilities, but let’s consider the chance that the information is leaking from your side. For example, it may have been leaked through LINE. Some time ago, there was a scandal involving the celebrity Becky and an affair. What shocked everyone was that their LINE messages were published in a magazine. The detailed exchanges that should have been visible only to the two people involved had somehow been seen by someone else. The affair itself became a major topic, but people also widely speculated about how the LINE messages had been leaked. There was never a definitive conclusion, but at the time LINE’s security was relatively weak. One theory was that someone had cloned the account by transferring the LINE data to another phone, as when switching phones, but failing to delete LINE from the original phone. In that case, there would effectively be two copies of the same LINE account, allowing someone else to view the messages in real time. (LINE has since taken measures to prevent this, so the method can no longer be used. Though if someone created a clone back then, it may possibly still be active.) There was also speculation that the messages had been forwarded to a designated email address using LINE’s “Send chat history” setting. I have a feeling this may still be possible, so you might want to check your settings. LINE can also be used on a PC, not just on a smartphone. If you hadn’t set a user ID and password, your ex may have set them up while you were asleep and could potentially have been viewing all your LINE conversations on a PC ever since. As a precaution, turn off the PC login option in LINE’s settings. After that, it won’t be possible to use LINE on a PC, even if someone knows the password. It’s also possible that a suspicious app was installed on the phone itself. I believe someone was arrested for something like that in the past. It was an incredible app that allowed the person to view the other person’s phone screen whenever they wanted, record audio, access camera images, and obtain location information. Once things have reached that point, investigating everything can be difficult. One option may be to replace your phone, avoid transferring any of your old data, create a new LINE account, and share it with your contacts. If you do that, it should be difficult for anything to be installed from that point onward. (Usually, such apps are installed while the other person is taking a bath or sleeping.) There may also be hidden cameras or listening devices installed somewhere in your home. Those can be difficult to investigate as well, so I recommend moving.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. As Mac said, the only explanation is that the male member happened to be connected to your ex and told him about you. That obsessive ex sounds scary. Just imagining being in your position gives me chills. They should be able to tell whether they’ve been blocked, so the messages will probably continue if things stay as they are. I think blocking him would be best for now, but I understand that’s scary too. This brought back a memory! When I was dating my now-wife, she scared me so much that I ran away without even breaking up with her—and changed my phone number right afterward. A few days later, while I was at work, my mother called and said, “Some girl came to the house looking for you.” It was my now-wife. I still remember all the color draining from my face. I guess I couldn’t escape after all. Do your best to get away safely…

I’m Kazu, a male member. After reading this, I can’t say for certain, but I wondered whether you might be being stalked.