Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here.
Being invited despite having a dating type B profile must mean you were very appealing! The man probably knew it wasn’t appropriate, but was also driven by the feeling that he couldn’t let the opportunity pass him by.
I’m not sure where the idea of switching to dating type C came from, but if someone isn’t right for you, it’s perfectly fine to turn them down after the first meeting?!
I also think it’s perfectly valid to decline because the terms don’t work for you. You seem to have fairly narrow criteria, so I wouldn’t worry too much about the 50% standard either.
It would be good if you could clarify which conditions matter most and what kind of person you’d be more likely to pursue a relationship with.
You may not find a man who meets your expectations. If that’s the case, perhaps a dating club simply isn’t the right fit for you.
Aizawa, sub-chief at Universe Club Tokyo, answers:
“Okay to date” about 50% of the time
→ This doesn’t strictly mean you have to agree to date five out of every ten times.
So you don’t need to overthink the details that much.
Someone who says they’re Type C because they’re dreaming that they’ll be okay with it from the very first day if the man is young, handsome, kind, and wealthy—without seeing reality—would be called out for misrepresenting their dating type. But based on what you’ve written, I don’t think there’s a problem.
To answer your question, I think you should count the people you felt you could date from the very first meeting.
If the amount didn’t work out or the man turned you down, I think it’s fine to count that as “I was okay with dating him.”
If the amount not working out keeps happening, though, people may start to think you have unrealistic expectations about money...
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
> I’ve heard that over 50% is preferable. Does that include cases where the man turns her down?
No, it doesn’t include cases where the man declines.
It’s meant to reflect the woman’s own willingness to move things forward, so if she’s saying yes, I don’t think there’s any issue with her level of initiative.
> What happens if the allowance we request isn’t acceptable to the man, and he says, “Then we can’t see each other—let’s call it off”?
That would naturally count as the man declining.
However, if she turns him down by saying something like, “In that case, give me a million yen in allowance,” the club won’t get involved in free-form relationships or allowances, but the man may still give feedback saying, “There’s something off about this woman.”
Then, when another man is considering making an offer and asks the staff, “What do you think of her?” the conversation might go like this:
“Her requested allowance seems completely out of line, but if you’re okay with that, she might be worth considering.”
“How far out of line are we talking?”
“Apparently, seven figures in yen.”
“Se… seven figures?”
“Maybe I’ll pass.”
So, even if it’s not a dating-type scam, it can still put her at a disadvantage.
Of course, even if her requested allowance is a million yen, the club won’t intervene, and that’s perfectly fine. There may even be men who are okay with it. Still, there is such a thing as a generally reasonable range.
> Or am I interpreting it incorrectly?
No, your interpretation is correct.
It applies only when the woman is the one who declines.
