Men described in the staff comments as “seeming kind.”
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Based solely on my experience, many of them seemed less kind and more quiet, shy (?), or inexperienced with women.
There were quite a few times when I thought they probably didn’t have anything else to compliment them on.
Wouldn’t it be better not to force staff to write anything beyond the noteworthy points?
After all, I think the way they treat the staff and the way they treat female members can differ—whether for better or worse—so I don’t feel those comments are particularly meaningful.
Universe Tokyo, Mamiya here.
It sounds like he seemed kind, but perhaps he didn’t quite meet your personal standard of “kind.” Still, the club does have a bit of an escape route here.
We never actually wrote that he was kind! (笑)
What makes someone seem kind varies from person to person, so if we put it that way, there’s no need for further discussion. But just in case, we’d appreciate it if you could also let the club know what specifically made you feel he wasn’t kind.
If we receive enough similar feedback, there’s certainly a possibility that we may revise the gentleman’s profile comment.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here.
If you’re referring to what’s written in the profile, then yes, it’s probably better not to include something that minor.
However, if you mean the introduction of the man that’s sent when making an offer, that’s something the staff absolutely has to write.
It’s a very difficult part, because it has to be based on the impression he gives during the interview when he joins.
When interviewing women, we ask all kinds of questions and get into the details. With male members, though, we mostly just explain how the system works, so there often isn’t much casual conversation.
Men are also usually well-behaved when they first join. They’re putting on a good front.
I may have mentioned this before, but some even say things like, “I’d be happy just having dinner with a young woman.”
(In reality, we sometimes get feedback from women saying they were uncomfortable because he pressured them into something.)
So, when you first meet them, they all seem kind.
I wish we could do a better job of capturing their individual characteristics in the descriptions...
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
If you’ve realized that it “doesn’t really mean much,” isn’t that enough?
Honestly, it took you long enough to figure that out.
When I was in elementary school, it was popular to vote on rankings like “the person who’s the most ○○.” And, well, people with no particularly distinctive traits usually ended up on the “kindest-looking person” list. I did too, lol.
It actually hurts quite a bit.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
It’s a little lonely when someone is introduced with absolutely nothing written about them. If you’re thinking, “Is there really nothing to write…?” at least put in a couple of words…
> Meg
> During the COVID period, my daughter couldn’t make friends because of staggered school hours and had to eat lunch alone… And because she was always compared to her older brother, she started saying, “I’m not taking entrance exams anymore. I’m not studying anymore…” ^^;
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I’m Meg, a female member.
You know, people’s bad qualities tend to catch your eye right away. On the other hand, finding the good in someone takes practice.
If the staff member’s comments seem meaningless to you, I think it’s because you’re not noticing the effort being made behind the scenes.
They want to ease, even just a little, the anxiety of the female members receiving offers.
To me, that feels like genuine thoughtfulness.
> Dear Paper Airplane,
That’s true—being compared to an exceptional older brother probably isn’t exactly pleasant. But the fact that you have that much to talk about with the young lady is wonderful (*^^*)
If you were my papa, I feel like I could come to you about anything.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Gasp—are you talking about me?
Putting that aside, you can’t really know whether the information in a woman’s profile is accurate, whether it was written by the staff or by the woman herself.
But if you ask whether profiles are necessary, without one, women would be judged solely by their photos. Is that really interesting? It would feel more like one of those albums at an adult entertainment establishment.
For men, it would just be their age and a general description of their occupation, right? Is that what you want?
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