What reasons might a man have for wanting to call when we’ve always arranged our dates through LINE?
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He hasn’t even told me what it’s about, and personally, I’d rather handle it by message because phone calls tend to drag on and it’s hard to find a time that works. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
I’m It’s Me, a male member.
Men can be impatient and often don’t like anything that feels like a hassle.
- On the phone, they can make a decision immediately after speaking with you.
- With LINE or messages, nothing gets decided until they receive a reply.
- Sometimes, even several exchanges on LINE or messaging won’t lead to a decision.
That’s why I think there are quite a few men who prefer phone calls.
For this type of man, speed is the top priority when making decisions. They’re used to putting their own convenience first, so preferring phone calls is one of their defining traits.
It’s not that they particularly want to hear a woman’s voice or talk with a female member. Their calls are usually brief, and they actually dislike conversations dragging on.
The best response to this type of man is:
“Could you send me several possible dates for our date via LINE? I’ll reply right away with the ones that work for me.”
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Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here.
Perhaps he wants to avoid the risk of leaving a record behind.
That said, there are probably also men who simply enjoy talking on the phone.
Talking on the phone can also give you a stronger sense that you’ve met and are actually dating.
Maybe he wants to confirm things through the warmth of a real voice rather than even the best-written messages—and perhaps he can sense that she’s starting to pull away a little.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
To put it plainly, I’m simply happy to talk on the phone with a girl I like.
Especially when it’s a girl I met in a place like this. Talking to her “on the phone” makes me feel like we’re taking a step closer beyond an allowance-based relationship, which makes it even more special.
For those of us in our late 30s and older, calling a girl’s home was the normal way to confess your feelings back when we were students.
So talking on the phone may still give us that nervous, exciting feeling.
Though, basically, I don’t make the first move myself, haha.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Speaking from the man’s perspective, he probably just wants to talk with you. There could be various reasons: maybe he has something very important to discuss, something that’s difficult to express in writing, or he simply wants to talk without an allowance involved. Since I don’t know how the conversation led to him wanting to speak on the phone, I can only speculate.
If you don’t want to talk on the phone, you should tell him that. If you agree to a call just because it feels easier, he may misunderstand and assume it will be okay in the future as well.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
We usually communicate only by email, and neither of us has ever called the other. But one day, she suddenly called me.
She said, “Something really wonderful happened, and I just had to call you…”
It was probably something very happy or important. Or perhaps she suddenly felt like hearing my voice—or simply wanted to talk something through…?
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Maezawa from the president’s office will answer this one as well.
There are several possibilities:
① He wants to discuss something important.
If he wants to talk about something too important to convey over LINE, he may ask to speak by phone.
Possible reasons include:
a: His wife found out, and he wants your cooperation with a cover story.
For example, he may say he’ll send you a breakup message on LINE because his wife found out, but ask you to respond with something like, “Okay, I understand,” or “We won’t meet anymore,” for the time being, since the situation isn’t actually what it seems.
b: His wife found out and is calling you herself.
In this case, it’s probably safest not to answer. But since you won’t know whether it’s really him, you could answer without saying anything. If the caller is a woman, hang up immediately and don’t answer any future calls.
c: He simply wants to talk about ending things.
Not many men seem to want to discuss a breakup, but perhaps he just happens to be one of them.
d: He wants to talk about a trip or something similar.
This is also something he could discuss the next time you meet, so it doesn’t seem very likely—but there may be men like that.
e: He wants to discuss lowering your allowance.
I don’t think this is very common either, but some men may want to do that.
f: He simply wants to hear your voice.
Since you don’t seem comfortable with that, I think it would be fine to continue communicating via LINE. Still, there do seem to be quite a few men who want to talk by phone.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I did call her during the COVID period.
Once, while I was on my way to meet someone at her place, we talked on the phone for about 30 minutes. Since we’d already talked, I only saw her face for two or three minutes, gave her her allowance, and left.
I’ll also call when something is easier to discuss by phone or could be misunderstood over LINE—such as an allowance for a period when we can’t meet—or when it’s something I think she’ll be happy to hear about.
Otherwise, I don’t call unless she seems likely to appreciate it or has asked me for advice.
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