I’m a Type C female member. I have several offers this week, but my period came much earlier than expected. Regardless of any future relationship, I’ll have to decline anything intimate that day. (I have absolutely no intention of having sex while on my period.)

I’m Its Me, a male club member. Periods aren’t something you can control, so it’s understandable when they happen. Even if the weather forecast says “sunny, 0% chance of rain,” conditions can suddenly turn bad on the day. Fireworks festivals and outdoor sporting events may also be canceled at the last minute due to the weather, no matter how much preparation the organizers have done. Most people understand when an event is canceled, but there are always some who complain, saying things like, “Canceling it is unacceptable,” or “You need to reimburse my transportation costs.” I don’t think any organizer would give in to those complainers and force an event to go ahead in bad weather, putting everyone else at risk. If a man blames a woman because of her period, I don’t think anything good will come of continuing to see him. If he’s that kind of disappointing man, it may be difficult, but please try to put up with being blamed just a little. If it breaks your spirit, things will only become more painful later. I don’t think anything bad will happen if you report him to the club, too. Both the weather and periods are natural phenomena. Even if you could have predicted it beforehand, isn’t it enough to say, “It suddenly started on the day”? I don’t think you need to force yourself to tell him in advance that you’re on your period—but is that really considered the wrong way to handle it?

Universe Tokyo’s Mami answering. Unless a gentleman is turned down because of something personal, he may feel a little disappointed, but for the most part, I believe male members will respond courteously. In the past, though, some male members did seem upset and say, “You should have told me sooner,” if they knew she was on her period. Women who want to inform their papa in advance because they’re on their period may come across as experienced, but it’s perfectly fine to let the club know beforehand as well. Since there is a possibility of period-related discomfort, they may feel a little uneasy, but it seems they can still enjoy the meal without any problems. They might tell the man something like, “I’m not feeling well due to a women’s health issue, but I should still be able to enjoy dinner. Would it be okay to continue the date?” Incidentally, some women are apparently still able to be intimate while on their period, as long as it isn’t the second day. In those cases, they seem to make an effort using various approaches, such as laying down towels or doing it in the bath.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. When should you bring it up with a man who shows up to the date with his eyes gleaming, thinking, “Today, it’s going to happen!”? It’s definitely a tricky question. Personally, I feel more at ease if he tells me at the beginning rather than waiting until the end. If a man looks at you suggestively during dinner and gradually gets more excited, thinking, “Something can happen with this woman tonight!” only to be told, “It’s not happening,” afterward, wouldn’t that be pretty shocking? lol

I’m Tetsu, a male member. When meeting a man for the first time, it’s only natural for him to have at least some expectation of spending time together after dinner. If those expectations are disappointed and it leads to trouble, it defeats the whole purpose. You may want to discuss this with the representative at your branch, but I think it would help if they could subtly communicate it before you meet—something like, “Would it be okay if we just had dinner on the day we meet?”

I’m male member Date◎Yume. Please don’t overthink it. I’m not feeling well, so dinner only, please. I think it would be best if you contacted me through the club.

I’m Kazu, a male member. As I also wrote in my answer here: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/4280 A woman once told me, “I’m not saying I’m refusing to see you, but that time of the month started earlier, so I excused myself to the restroom. Today is just a little difficult.” If it happens on the day of the date, I think it’s fine to say something like that. As I mentioned in my previous answer, the key is to excuse yourself to the restroom once beforehand. This just occurred to me, but if you set a date for your next meeting, the man will probably feel reassured as well. If he still insists on meeting today no matter what, then perhaps it’s best to decline, since you’re clearly not on the same wavelength.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. As you said, many women can still go on a dinner date even when they’re on their period. Also, since Universe arranges dinner dates—and isn’t a sex-work service—it can’t get involved in whether intimacy happens that day or not. That’s their position. So even if you tell the staff, “I might get my period that day,” or “I started my period today, and it’ll probably last until [date],” the exchange will still go something like this: “Would you still be able to go out for dinner?” “Yes, I would.” The man won’t be told that you’re on your period, and the date will go ahead. Then, it’s easy to imagine the man becoming upset on the day. The staff aren’t trying to cause trouble. It’s simply a problem with the system: a dating club is different from a sex-work service, so internally, the policy ends up being to have you go on the date as planned. However, if you read the wording carefully, you’ll notice that there is one thing they can do. There’s a part where the staff asks: “Would you be able to go on a dinner date?” This is based on the idea that someone with severe period symptoms may find even eating difficult—and therefore may not be able to go on a dinner date either. In other words, as long as it’s not the day of the date, you can say: “My period symptoms are quite severe, so I don’t think I’ll be able to manage even dinner.” Then the club can tell the man that you’re feeling unwell enough that even dinner would be difficult, and ask whether it would be possible to reschedule the date. The man may wonder, “She’s feeling unwell even though it’s not the day of the date? What does that mean?” But a perceptive man may figure it out. If he says something like, “Could it be your period?”, that actually makes things easier for the staff. They can give the awkward reply, “I can’t answer that, but that may be the case.” (笑) The problem is when your period starts unexpectedly on the day of the date. Even if you use the approach above, the man won’t be able to tell the difference between your period and a genuine sudden illness. If he misunderstands, he might think, “It’s worrying when a woman suddenly becomes ill, so I won’t offer her another date.” I can’t think of a great solution for the day of the date, but you could log in to your member page and write in your own comments: “On [date], my period started unexpectedly. I’m sorry to anyone who already has plans with me.” Then the man may contact the staff. Some men may decide to make it dinner only, while others may choose to reschedule. Either way, please make sure you tell the staff about your period first. Apparently, some branches may even break company rules and tell the man directly. And even if they don’t, if you’ve informed the branch, then if the man gets angry, the branch will be the one he directs his frustration toward. So please don’t forget to notify the branch about your period. > “If I turn it down this time, it’ll put me over 50%.” If you say, “I’m on my period, so I’m looking forward to next time,” I don’t think it will count as a rejection, so you probably don’t need to worry about it. (Though if you turn down the next opportunity, that would simply count as a rejection.)

I’m paper airplane, a male member. If you let the staff know beforehand, I’d still be happy to meet under those circumstances—just for a meal or coffee. If that’s difficult to communicate, it’s also fine to postpone or reschedule for another day.