I’m the one who asked a follow-up question about making men’s profiles public.

Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here. It’s understandable to feel nervous about a first date, but for those who had a good first impression, I think the excitement afterward tends to outweigh the anxiety. We don’t often receive messages saying, “I’m too nervous and scared to go.” More often, people suddenly cancel because they’ve lost interest or feel it’s become too much of a hassle. That said, even people who arrive late may be making their way there while feeling a mixture of all kinds of anxiety right up until the end. I get the impression that more people actually look forward to it when they have some idea of where they’ll be eating, feel reassured if it’s a private room, or get to discuss where they wanted to go and have the gentleman make the reservation. If you ever feel like experiencing that first-date excitement again, we’d be delighted to welcome you back.

I’m a female member named Rin. It’s nerve-racking, isn’t it? I usually arrive early, look around the area, and take a moment to calm myself down… I’m not very assertive, though, so I’ve always just gone along with whatever meeting spot was suggested—usually a hotel lobby or the rotary outside the nearest station. Meeting in a car for a first meeting can feel like a bit much, but the men I’ve met have all been very gentlemanly. P.S. Yesterday, I was suddenly called in to work and happened to be at Nagoya Station. I noticed a man wearing a cute patterned shirt and wondered, “Could that be Mac-sama?” When I looked around, I saw several other men in stylish shirts too, so I thought, “The gentlemen in Nagoya sure know how to dress…” and headed to work.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here with an answer as well. Men get to meet women after first seeing their photos, checking their profiles, reading the staff’s comments and the women’s own comments, and even watching videos to get a sense of their voices and mannerisms. So I don’t think they usually have much to worry about. But if, like women, they started receiving offers from someone they knew nothing about—someone more than 20 years older than them—they might wonder before meeting: “What kind of person is she?” “Surely the staff aren’t trying to set me up with someone strange?” （笑） Or if the offer came from a heavily muscular man who was physically stronger than them—someone they couldn’t do anything against even if they resisted—they might start feeling anxious, thinking: “Wait a minute, that’s not my thing.” “It really is dinner only, right?” “This networking event matching thing isn’t a lie, is it?” When you’re in different positions, it’s hard to understand how the other person feels. That’s why I think men should make good use of the newly added profile feature, keeping in mind that it’s for the other person’s peace of mind. There’s no need to make it visible to every woman. It could simply be shown only to the person you’ve made an offer to. If that’s how it works, I don’t think men would have anything particular to worry about either.

I’m Marika, a female member. Rather than saying they’ve gotten carried away, I thought that if you’ve met 15 people and have several ongoing arrangements, you probably wouldn’t have time to accept new offers. So I wondered whether there might be some issue preventing you from continuing with someone, since you kept accepting new offers one after another. Apparently, that wasn’t the case. Once you find someone you can continue seeing with peace of mind, it’s probably best for both of you to take a break or withdraw from the site. I’m glad to hear that you had already met someone good. As for the question of how to overcome the fear of meeting someone for the first time: now that I’m in my 40s, I’m not really scared anymore, haha, so I suppose these are just general precautions for younger women. I feel like a parent or schoolteacher all of a sudden, though. ① Have the meeting and first meal somewhere relatively spacious and open, such as a hotel lounge, rather than at a secluded restaurant. These days, tables are spaced farther apart because of COVID, so you should be able to discuss the terms of the arrangement without worrying too much about people around you. ② Avoid meeting late at night whenever possible. Sometimes it can’t be helped because of the other person’s schedule, but it would be difficult for a man to try anything strange in a bright, public place too, right? I’ll add more if anything else comes to mind. Oh, after reading Papuwa-san’s post, I wondered—are you supposed to feel safe if you already know the person’s profile? Maybe I confused “being scared” with “being nervous.” Sorry.