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Aug 11, 2020 23:10
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Seeing respondents become aggressive depending on the question makes me hesitate to ask anything.
If many women here think that way, it makes me consider leaving the site myself.
When someone asks an obviously defamatory question, I can understand feeling frustrated. But don’t certain respondents who pick fights with people asking questions because they’re genuinely troubled, or nitpick what they say, come across as rude?
I understand that everyone is volunteering, but I feel that having the staff moderate things more closely would improve the image of Universe Club.
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Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
I’m a little surprised that so many people answered in the middle of the night.
When I look at each case individually, I sometimes feel the same way as the questioner. But this is a group made up of people who lack morals to begin with, so it really annoys me when someone starts spouting self-righteous platitudes like a class monitor.
Feel free to quit the site or do whatever you want.
Other
I’m Rin, a female member.
Before joining, I read through the Q&A section over and over again. There were certainly times when some of the responses felt pretty harsh. Even so, it was still a place where I could find at least some answers to the things I wanted to know.
○ Picking fights with people who are asking questions because they’re struggling, or nitpicking their words
→ This definitely needs to improve, and I also feel that those answering should exercise more self-control.
For better or worse, I hope to help make this a place that’s at least somewhat useful to those asking questions, those answering them, and everyone browsing.
Meg
Female
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Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
I agree that it’s inappropriate to pick fights with or nitpick someone who’s asking a question because they’re troubled.
That said, the fact that the questioner specifically didn’t want answers from women made me question their way of thinking.
That’s my opinion.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
As a male member, I think it’s pretty valuable to hear answers from female members. It’s not something you can necessarily hear even if you pay for it. Their true feelings might be several times more intense…
They’re probably also holding back and being considerate in their answers.
In fact, when they come at you bluntly and aggressively, it may often be because they’re thinking about the questioner—and all the members behind them.
Besides, men want to see women freely express their happiness, anger, sadness, and joy. So it’s more fun when you accept all of it as cute. An older guy expressing all those emotions at his age would probably just be creepy… but women are cute when they show their emotions at any age.
Other
I’m Marika, a female member.
There’s no way that the answers from just a handful of respondents represent the views of most of the 7,000-plus female members.
When you meet female members who aren’t respondents, maybe it could at least give you something to talk about, like, “What do you think? This is kind of strange, isn’t it?”
The women who answer questions here—myself included—are probably quite unusual. I’m sure the person who asked the question understands that too.
As for whether it’s rude, as the question asks: well, I’m sure we do say plenty of rude things.
It would be difficult to expect the staff to monitor everything, and I don’t think “monitoring” really fits Universe. So perhaps all respondents need to do is refrain from going overboard with abusive language.
That said, I don’t personally find most of what I read here particularly offensive, so it’s hard to say where the line should be.
Wait! I just realized, after writing all this, that there wasn’t an option for “female members” among the people I wanted to hear from!
Sorry—I went to the trouble of writing it, so I’m posting it anyway (>_<)
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I joined because, after reading the anonymous questions, I felt that if there were many female members who thought this way, I could join without being disappointed.
Now that I’ve actually been going on dates since joining, what I’ve realized is that women as appealing and able to clearly express their opinions as the female respondents are few and far between.
I think one of the things that makes the anonymous question box interesting is that you get answers from both the staff and the members.
If you’re looking for a place with lots of women who’ll put up with things and stay quiet without saying anything unnecessary, that’s what adult entertainment establishments are for. If you prefer women who’ll endure things without saying a word, you’re better off going to one of those. They’ll give you an amazing experience with no hassle.
I’m starting to feel like I write “Go to a soapland” about as often as Kenzo Kitakata used to in his Playboy columns.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> I feel that having the staff manage the answers as well would improve Universe Club’s image.
I think you fundamentally have the wrong idea here. The Q&A box does not exist to improve Universe Club’s image.
If that were its purpose, we could simply answer however we wanted. To improve our image, we use other means, such as improving the official website and our advertising.
But this is completely different. It’s not that any particular respondent is being rude, either.
People answer based on what they genuinely think. That’s precisely what gives this place value and makes it a rare place where you can hear the truth.
> If many women really think this way, I’m honestly considering leaving the club.
If you want to leave, then leave. If you want to join, then join.
There’s no benefit to forcing yourself to remain a member when you feel like leaving. Normally, people stay members because they believe it offers value. If you no longer feel that way, leaving is only logical.
And if you start missing it, you can always come back.
If you feel that the answers differ greatly from the image you had of the women here, it’s possible that even the women who had never said anything were actually thinking the same thing about you.
There are many things people can’t say face-to-face, and I imagine many women put up with things and avoid saying anything unnecessary while receiving their allowance.
But I think it’s a little misguided to conclude from that alone that the answers in this Q&A box are wrong.
It might be worth taking another moment to consider whether people may be thinking the same way about you.
Once someone reaches a certain level of status, the people around them stop saying anything. They become like the emperor with no clothes.
If this Q&A box can make someone think, “Could that be me?” in such a situation, then perhaps it can be a valuable place after all.