Good evening, I’m a 55-year-old male club member.

Universe Tokyo’s Mamiya here. I believe the male member’s thinking is perfectly reasonable. However, some people simply can’t be content with just one person. As a club, they may be recommending other women as a way to hedge against the risk that your first choice might not respond, for example. I like the saying, “One is too many.” There was a time when I didn’t understand what it meant, but now I feel that the members are teaching me its meaning.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Yesterday, after spending half the day together and driving her home, she said she wanted to spend a little more time together. So we went for another drive to see the ocean before heading back. Later, she messaged me, worried: “I was happy, but did I make you get home too late, Paper Airplane?” Of course I was very happy. She often says things that make me happy, like “Just being together is enough” and “You’re my emotional support.” When I first joined the club, I met several women and thought things were going smoothly by club standards. After I started making offers again when the club moved online, I met many women. As a result, I encountered women like the one described above, as well as women who were compatible with me in many different ways. If you happened to meet someone like that on your first or tenth meeting, I think it would be a miracle—almost impossible. What kind of relationship is the person asking the question looking for? From the wording, I get the impression that they’re looking for an exclusive relationship with one or two people. However, if you want to find a good partner and deepen the relationship, I believe you need to make enough offers to have a chance of meeting that rare person. Rather than thinking of it as dating multiple people, perhaps it’s better to view it as the process of searching for the right relationship.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. If you’re looking for just one woman for a long-term relationship, you usually need to meet around ten women before you find someone you really click with. Of course, you could meet one person first and then start looking for someone else afterward. However, since dates are generally recommended to be scheduled at least a week in advance, it may be better to plan ahead—for example, meeting the first woman a week from now, and the second two or three days later—so you don’t have too much downtime. Also, going on several dates helps you learn how to interact with the other person. You’re experienced in life, so you may feel confident that you’ll be fine in that respect. However, in the past, your status may have meant that people accepted you no matter how you treated them. With a dating club, that advantage disappears, and things like how considerate and kind you can be become much more important. As a result, even if you like someone, she may not feel the same way, leaving you wondering why. And even if you think the first date went well, it may not lead to a second one. When you look at it that way, it’s like anything else: at first, you should remind yourself that you’re a beginner and gain some experience. That said, some people understand the knack for it even without much experience and succeed right from the start. In the end, it may come down to the individual’s own appeal.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. ¥500,000 a month gives you quite a bit of room to work with, haha. From reading your question, I get the impression that you’d rather have a deeper relationship with a small number of women than date many women. I think you should go with what feels right to you. I’m still searching for my number one.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. When it comes to dating, I’m the type to focus on one person and stick to my original intentions. When I first joined the club, I was thinking, “What kind of arrangement should I pursue?” While considering various options, I read Saito’s column, “Joining a Dating Club Made Me Start Thinking Strangely,” and decided to focus on just one person. In my case, one woman is more than enough. With multiple women, I’d probably lose track of who I told what to—even as a man. So if the woman I’m seeing is happy with it, I think I’ll just keep things as they are.

I’m a male member from Seattle. With a monthly allowance of 500,000 yen, you could probably maintain a fulfilling, close relationship with one or two women. That’s about how many I see as well, excluding dinner-only arrangements. From the way you phrased your question, you might want to focus first on building a relationship with your favorite woman.