A man I met on a date the other day regularly sends me Amazon gift cards. I’m happy about it, but… I don’t know, they’re usually somewhere between 500 and 1,500 yen.
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Hmm… even though he won’t give me the allowance I want when we meet, he sends me these tiny Amazon gift cards when we can’t meet, maybe to keep me happy. I text him “Thank you!” but I can’t help wondering why he sends such small amounts of pocket change… lol
(What I’m really thinking) If he’s going to send something anyway, he’d make me much happier by casually sending 10,000 or 20,000 yen instead!!!
That was my late-night ramble.
What do you think goes through the mind of someone who sends tiny Amazon gift cards?
I’m BB7, a male member.
“What do you think is something you don’t need?”
There’s no harm in accepting whatever you’re offered.
Women who think, “Is this all? How stingy. Tsk,” and men who think, “She’ll be happy if I give her this much as pocket money for now,” are probably a perfect match.
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This is Saito, the column writer♪.
Maybe they’re simply giving away things they received from someone else?
But if you received the amount you wanted and then accepted it because it was “extra,” they probably wouldn’t have said something like that...
Perhaps they’re processing it as some kind of business expense, too... lol
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> What’s going through the mind of someone who sends an Amazon gift card worth only pocket change?
The answer is, quite simply:
“I’d still like to send her an Amazon gift card, even if it’s only a small amount…”
The best thing to do is just say, “Thank you,” and accept it.（笑)
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As for whether the amount is high or low, I’ll leave that aside since it really comes down to whether the person asking the question is satisfied with it. If she isn’t, she can simply decline.
I can somewhat understand giving her a small amount—not as much as the allowance—when you can’t meet. The reason is that I feel I should still give her some allowance for keeping me company and chatting with me on LINE.
In my case, the woman I’m seeing probably only has time to meet once or twice a month, so we chat on LINE and other apps. I usually give her a little extra when we meet to cover that, but if our schedules didn’t line up and we had to skip an entire month, I was thinking I might send her some money via LINE.
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Aizawa, Sub-Chief at Universe Club Tokyo, here as well.
I think it’s fine to accept whatever you’re given, but once it starts piling up, it can be hard to use it all…
Perhaps the men are sending these gifts because they’d rather have you use them than let them sit around unused.
Little things add up, so since they’re being given to you, accept them with gratitude instead of complaining!
If he says they’re meant to replace your allowance, why not be clear and say, “In that case, I don’t need them, so I’d prefer the allowance instead”?
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Mamiy from Universe Club Tokyo here.
What an incredibly interesting papa (a male supporter)! I never would have guessed that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) these days involves Amazon gift cards—very fitting for the COVID era.
If he’s going to send something anyway, wouldn’t you be happier receiving ¥10,000 or ¥20,000 in one lump sum?
I can understand ¥10,000 for transportation when you meet in person, but for a bit of LINE messaging, an Amazon gift card worth ¥500–¥1,500 seems reasonable!
Before long, the standard for seeing someone after an online date might become a contactless, 500-yen arrangement. I’m learning a lot.
Perhaps it’s his way of saying, “I don’t know when we’ll be able to meet again, but I’m thinking of you.”
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
> What goes through the mind of someone who sends an Amazon gift card worth only pocket change?
They can’t afford to give you the allowance you’re asking for because it would put a strain on their own finances. But they like you and want to do something for you.
So they send a small gift card, hoping to keep you happy. It isn’t much, but they’re afraid you’ll cut them off if they do nothing, so they send little gifts to keep you around.
That’s probably what’s going on.
> If they’re going to send one anyway, wouldn’t sending ¥10,000 or ¥20,000 all at once make me much happier?!
I think they already understand that. If they could afford that much, they’d probably be giving you the allowance you’re asking for.
There are all kinds of men out there. Get a clear idea of your partner’s financial situation, then come up with a strategy for how to deal with him.
If he genuinely cares about you, it’s also important to value the relationship until someone better comes along.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I honestly have no idea…
Should I just chalk it up to bad luck, not meet her again, and keep receiving the allowance…
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