Sorry for the question.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > Even after I told him it hurt, he wouldn’t stop. That’s not okay. End the relationship.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. You’ve really been through a lot this time. I think deciding not to continue seeing someone solely because you’re not physically compatible is a bit too quick. Even if the physical chemistry isn’t great, you may be able to put up with it if you like other aspects of the person, and continuing the relationship without intimacy is also an option. That said, even as a man, I have to say that what happened this time is really not okay. Even if things were already underway, continuing without noticing that you were in pain or not enjoying yourself is no different from forcing yourself on someone. In short, he lacked consideration for you. The injury you suffered is also serious enough that, when you’re in a similar situation with someone you’ve just met in the future, it could become traumatic and make it even harder for you to get in the mood. If you want to maintain a long-term relationship, you shouldn’t see someone who can’t understand other people’s pain. That said, it would be different if you have a reason to want to keep seeing him despite being willing to put up with it yourself.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, and I’ll answer as well. I’m not quite sure I understand, but do you mean: 1. The first person you met inserted himself even though you weren’t wet, saying it would be fine. When you said it hurt, he kept moving roughly, saying it would feel good eventually, and the entrance tore and started bleeding. 2. Then, while you were still in pain, he continued for two hours… Since it hurt and you couldn’t get wet, he used some kind of gel? So, you were intimate with two people on the same day: the first person inserted himself even though you weren’t wet, and the second continued for two hours using gel because it hurt and you couldn’t get wet—is that right? In any case, it sounds like you ended up with a man who only cared about himself. That must have been very painful for you. > If the conversation flows well and we get along great during the dinner date, but we’re not physically compatible, would you still continue seeing her? I don’t think I would. I imagine many men place importance on physical compatibility as well. Women probably feel the same way, but since they receive an allowance, they may sometimes put up with it and continue seeing someone depending on the amount. However, that’s a matter of physical compatibility. If the man is incapable of showing consideration for his partner, I think the woman will leave very quickly. > Is there any good way to deal with a situation where he won’t stop even after I tell him it hurts—or any way to explain it so he won’t do anything painful…? When it comes to something like this, I think it’s perfectly fine to be direct. You’re both naked, so even if you try to be tactful, I don’t think your message will get through. If it’s the same person, you could say something beforehand like: “After I got home last time, I noticed I was injured and bleeding, and it really hurt. If I start feeling pain today, I’ll tell you, so please be understanding.” If it’s someone else, you could say: “I have trouble getting wet. The last time I was with my boyfriend, he entered before I was properly wet and I ended up bleeding. I’m a little worried about today too, so please be gentle with me.” Something along those lines, perhaps.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. That sounds like hell. It’s hard to believe anyone could behave that way. When lust outweighs consideration, you’re basically dealing with a beast. That said, I do think you can arouse someone through consideration and attentiveness. “You have to get them feeling it! You have to make them climax!” No. That’s not it. Use your whole body and the palms of your hands to sense their reactions, like sonar. Watch how they respond, and carefully climb the stairs one step at a time. You can’t jump straight to the fifth step when you’re still on the first. Recognize their reactions correctly, and take it one step at a time. If they’re not feeling their best, give up around the second step and simply wrap them in consideration. That can be far more effective. Watch their reactions like sonar. “I don’t understand their reactions!” That’s where the real training begins.

I’m Rin, a female member. You went through something awful. I can’t believe you endured it for two hours… At that point, wasn’t it practically assault? That’s completely unacceptable. He clearly came to the wrong place. Just because he gives you an allowance doesn’t excuse having not a shred of kindness. I think it’s perfectly fine to block him. (Be sure to report only the facts to the club office and have him blocked from viewing your profile as well.) There must be better people out there. You shouldn’t have to keep doing this if you’re going to suffer and even get injured. No matter how gentle someone is, injuries can sometimes happen—it’s a very delicate area. But someone who doesn’t even understand that, and is terrible at it while acting like, “I’ll make you climax”… I honestly feel like cutting it off for him. As for the injury, if you’re comfortable with it, please see a gynecologist and get some ointment. In the meantime, gently press and wipe the area, and keep an eye on it. Please take care of yourself.