I’m a male member. I feel like I’m getting along well with the woman I was introduced to, but during our dates she has a strong appetite and loves shopping, while her sex drive seems low—at least when she’s with me. Is it time to end things? Male members, please share stories about when you decided someone wasn’t right for you.

I’m Saito, a columnist ♪ It comes down to whether you’re comfortable with it. The only person you can control is yourself.

Aizawa, Sub-Chief of the Tokyo branch of Universe Club, will answer as well. I think it’s fairly natural for many women—not all, of course—to want money or gifts without having to do anything in return. It may not be realistic, but I think they have the same mindset I do when I wish I could have money without working. My guess is that you may have been too kind and accommodating. She may have thought, “Wait, if things go well, maybe he’ll treat me to all sorts of things without expecting an intimate relationship?” Alternatively, she may have found someone else she prefers and decided it wouldn’t matter if things ended with you. People who expect to receive everything without giving anything in return will probably soon find that no one wants to deal with them. There should be other good matches out there, so perhaps it’s time to move on. However, if you’re still struggling with the decision, that means you still have feelings for her, so there’s nothing wrong with continuing the relationship.

This is Tetsu, a male member. Based on what you’ve shared, I can’t say whether it’s time for you to end things. However, if I were in your position, I would leave. You shouldn’t stay somewhere you can’t feel happy. If you can’t find happiness yourself, you can never make someone else happy. If you’re having trouble deciding, that means every option you’re considering could turn out to be either right or wrong. When making your decision, be clear about why you chose that option. Even if it later turns out to have been the wrong choice, you’ll be able to come to terms with it.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Haha（笑） She’s quite a piece of work too（笑） I get the feeling you actually want the opposite, but it seems her wishes are different. Relationships through an escort club can’t continue unless both parties benefit from them... I’d suggest taking a little time to talk things over. For me, I decide it’s not worth continuing when I feel there’s an unfair imbalance in the benefits of providing support, or when I weigh the cost against what I’m getting out of it. I think negotiating a lower allowance is an option, but in this case, it sounds like it would have to be a pretty substantial reduction（笑）

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. > Is it time to break up? It’s still too early to say that. Since it sounds like she still wants more, try giving her more than double what she’s asking for in terms of food and shopping, and see what happens. That said, in the end, the decision is yours. No matter what others say, if you feel you’ve had enough, then it’s time to part ways. On the other hand, even if others think the situation is awful, if you still find her adorable, you’ll probably want to continue seeing her. From your question, it sounds like you’re looking for someone with a strong sex drive and fewer material desires. It might be worth looking for someone like that. That said, you could also plant a few seeds by saying things like, “I like women with strong sex drives,” or “Why don’t we do more of this?”

I’m a male club member who goes by Paper Airplane. Once you become close, you can understand each other’s appetites, material desires, sexual needs, and date preferences without saying much. So if you start feeling even slightly out of sync, it may be time to part ways… At clubs, women—especially popular ones—can sometimes lose their sense of money and become increasingly materialistic. I’ve learned to withdraw quickly in those cases. It might also be a good idea to ask what the woman thinks—about her monthly allowance and whether she feels fulfilled. Regardless of her rank, everyone’s desires are different. By discussing whether they match your own feelings, I think both of you can gradually ease your concerns. Also, once a woman feels satisfied with the allowance, frequency, and how comfortable she feels, she may choose to suspend or leave the club herself. So it may be worthwhile to look for someone while taking her circumstances into consideration. At a club, because money is involved, neither side can always voice their true feelings, complaints, or cautions. Even if you say something with the other person’s best interests in mind, it could be taken as a lecture. That makes it difficult—and perhaps unnecessary—to jump from surface-level conversation straight into the core of things. For that reason, considerable tact and sensitivity are often needed, depending on the situation.