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Jul 28, 2020 21:38
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I’m a woman in my 20s and a member here.
Whenever I orgasm from external stimulation with a toy, I always end up having an accident. It isn’t squirting—the color and smell are both clearly urine (; ;)
Ever since it happened for the first time, I’ve been afraid to orgasm, and I haven’t been able to climax either internally or externally.
I do tell the men I’ve met here that I still feel very good and happy even if I don’t climax, but perhaps because they’re trying to be kind (?), they sometimes get more intense in an effort to make me climax or bring out toys.
However, maybe because my body tenses up so much from desperately not wanting to have another accident, I’ve fallen into a vicious cycle where it just hurts every time.
For now, I’ve been practicing holding it in while using a toy on the toilet at home, but it hasn’t helped at all.
Would it be better to just be honest and tell them, “I don’t want to climax because I’ll end up having an accident”?
I’m worried they’ll find it disgusting and be put off.
Also, if you know of any good ways to practice, I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m sorry for the unpleasant topic.
5 answers
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve had some land in my mouth before. It didn’t smell like urine, but it was salty. I mean, it’s a fluid that comes from the human body, so it makes sense that it would be salty.
My understanding is that it doesn’t feel good to release it in itself—it can happen when you’re feeling good. So I’m happy when it happens, but I wouldn’t try to make it happen. Women usually make an effort to hold it back, but from a man’s perspective, I wish they’d feel free to let it happen, either while enjoying themselves at a boutique hotel or after taking precautions like laying down a bath towel.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
> Whenever I orgasm externally with a toy, I always end up wetting myself. It isn’t squirting—it’s urine in both color and smell (; ;)
Really?
In the past, researchers seemed to believe there was some special organ responsible for squirting, but they just hadn’t figured out what it was. However, wasn’t the current understanding that no such organ had been found, and that squirting was actually urine?
So I think the idea that:
“It isn’t squirting—it’s urine in both color and smell”
is mistaken. Everyone who squirts is releasing urine, so there’s no need to feel self-conscious about it.
It’s perfectly normal for squirting to look like urine, and since most men know this, whether the components are exactly the same or not doesn’t really matter. If you think of it as most men being happy when their partner squirts, I think you’ll feel better about it.
First, I think you should find someone you can be intimate with without feeling self-conscious.
P.S. Oh—was I wrong?
I thought it had ultimately been established that it had the same components as urine, but when I searched, I found sources saying otherwise. I wonder where I picked up that misinformation…
> Since even Maezawa, who used to fool around at love hotels back in the P&A days, didn’t know that…
People who have met me probably see me as a man who has nothing to do with that sort of thing.
A staff member dedicated to Saito-san, Mr. “Oh-Shiro,” even asked me, “Is she a two-dimensional character?” (laughs)
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Are there any signs that she’s about to squirt?
With my long-term girlfriend, when I’m caressing her and she’s just about to climax, she sometimes says:
“I need to use the bathroom.”
“You can do it here.”
“No, I’m going to the bathroom.”
And we have to stop, only to start again afterward…
Sometimes she squirts, and sometimes she doesn’t.
P.S.
> You use a lot of intensity and sometimes bring out toys.
Regarding that, I think it may be better to take things more softly, slowly, gently, and patiently rather than intensely.
And instead of toys, delicate fingers may work better. If fingers aren’t enough, a vibrator might be more effective.
Toys < fingers < vibrator
That said, some people don’t like vibrators, while others definitely prefer fingers:
Toys < vibrator < fingers
I think you should clearly tell her that toys and rough stimulation aren’t for you.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Haha! (lol)
> Maybe because they’re trying to be considerate (?), everyone gets very intense and even brings out toys to make me climax. I think they want me to feel good and finish.
> Would it be better to be honest and tell them I don’t want to climax because I might end up leaking?
I think you should tell them.
There’s no need to push yourself when it hurts.
If you tell them it hurts, they’ll probably stop overstimulating you.
Also, if you focus on making your partner feel even better this time, they’ll probably be satisfied too. (lol)
🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I have a feeling that if you said that to those horny gentlemen, they’d just respond, “It’s okay if you let it out. Go ahead and finish,” which would only add fuel to the fire.
Honestly, I think it would be healthier to repeatedly confirm, “I’m going to let it out—is that really okay? You’re absolutely sure, right?” and then let it out spectacularly.
Look at it from the opposite perspective.
In private, someone might be put off if you let it out. Maybe Universe gentlemen are the only ones who wouldn’t be.