I'm worried because my papa (a male supporter) has phimosis and seems to be experiencing ED.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. I searched online and found someone writing a conversation like this: “Man with true phimosis Man: Doesn’t that mean unprotected oral? Woman: I would if you got surgery. Man: Why? Woman: Why don’t you get surgery? Just skip two or three visits to a brothel, and it’ll feel dozens of times better than it does now. Man: I don’t have the time. Woman: You have time to visit brothels, though. Aren’t you embarrassed? Man: I’ve never had a girlfriend, so at this point I’d rather spend the money on several more visits than get surgery. Woman: It’s unhygienic, so you’re making things difficult for me.” I don’t know whether this conversation actually happened, but apparently saying something doesn’t make him do anything. Besides, I don’t think many Japanese people can bring themselves to say something that directly. So I think the choices are either to continue seeing him without saying anything, or to end things without saying anything. Basically, saying nothing is probably the more typically Japanese approach. Even if you did say something and the other person seemed unfazed, I feel it would still affect the relationship between you. If you’d been seeing each other for around three years, maybe he might respond, “Why didn’t you tell me sooner? I’ll get the surgery.” But otherwise, probably not.

I’m Rin, a female member. I think the key is whether the gentleman himself is worried or self-conscious about it. Also, with a true case, there are congenital cases and acquired cases caused by adhesions resulting from repeated inflammation. So your response may depend on things like whether there’s an odor or how much smegma is present. If he seems concerned but doesn’t want it brought up—especially if he’s gone untreated until this age—that may well be the case. In that situation, it’s probably best not to mention it. If he seems troubled by it, though, you might gently bring up the subject. Recurrent urethritis or balanoposthitis can affect not only him but also his partner to some extent. I wouldn’t recommend accompanying him to the doctor. Many other patients are also there for sensitive issues, and while it might be understandable if you were his wife, bringing along a young woman who clearly seems out of place would be rather awkward.... That said, if he’s someone wonderful whom you met through the club and chose to date, I think it would make both of you happier to accept and embrace him as he is first, then quietly try to understand how he truly feels.

I’m Marika, a female member. If your papa (a male supporter) is struggling with this himself, why not tell him about your experience with surgery and suggest that getting it done might help him feel relieved and could even cure his ED? That said, there’s still a chance he may not be able to go through with it because his wife might ask, “Why have surgery now?” I’ve heard that some men even undergo the procedure in their 80s because they’d be embarrassed if they died without having had it done, so I suppose you can come up with any excuse for the surgery.

I’m a male member named Paper Airplane. Unless you’re actually going to become his girlfriend, it’s probably better not to point it out. Most of the time, that’s where things end. After three months, you already know what your sexual compatibility is like, so maybe that kind of compatibility doesn’t really matter anymore… If you both try too hard to make things better, you’ll only become more self-conscious, things will go even less smoothly, and it’ll just become painful for both of you. Why not simply accept the situation and focus entirely on enjoying yourself and finding satisfaction, without worrying about your papa’s ED or the fact that things don’t always go as planned? That way, I think he’ll feel less pressure and be more at ease, which may help him relax. By the way, among all the women I’ve met through the club, there’s only one I’ve ever wanted to introduce to people I know as my girlfriend—and she feels the same way. But our sexual compatibility is by far the worst… I don’t know why, but with her, we can’t climax together, and I can’t even climax properly on my own. Like in the question, I end up with ED and things just come to an end without me being able to finish. She’s someone I care about so deeply that I want to introduce her as my girlfriend, yet… I’ve explained that it doesn’t really matter, and that I’m satisfied being natural, comforted, and happy together, even when intimacy doesn’t go smoothly. I’ve also told her that even if one of us became physically unable to have sex, I would still love her just the same.