Hello, I registered about three weeks ago (I’m a female member).

I’m Gaku, a male member. When a man outside a major city applies to meet a woman in the city—or vice versa—he has to make an offer for one of the few days he can travel, so there isn’t much flexibility to reschedule. That’s one of the disadvantages of being long-distance. Since most people are concentrated in major cities, I suppose the response would be, “Then move to the city if it bothers you.” Still, people living outside the Tokyo, Nagoya, Osaka, and Fukuoka areas are at a bit of a disadvantage. So part of me wishes there were some kind of preferential treatment, but I understand that would be difficult from a business owner’s perspective too. Whether you’re a man or a woman living in the countryside, I guess you just have to become someone the other person would still want to meet, even when your schedules don’t line up.

I’m RIN, a female member. If you’re receiving that many offers, I think it’s safe to say you’re attractive enough. At first, it’s easy to feel unsure, anxious, or lose confidence because there are so many things you don’t know. But I think it’s better to focus on the man you’re meeting. In my experience, everyone asked me, “Are there any days or times when you’re available to meet?” So I always gave them at least five options. That’s why these two men may simply have been extremely busy and only had those particular dates available. I suppose that’s part of what we call fate—or a connection.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. With that many offers, it must be quite difficult to coordinate everything on both sides. You’ll probably receive more offers, so it may be best to wait for new ones. If you post a new comment (you can simply update the date on the same comment) or upload private photos, your profile will appear on the top page. Since three weeks have passed, you should also be able to re-upload. If you talk to the staff, your profile will appear alongside the new listings, so you may receive a similar number of offers over the next month.

Maezawa from Shachoshitsu here. > Is it common for someone to make an offer, but then leave things as they are because your schedules didn’t line up? It varies from person to person, and it also depends on why they made the offer in the first place. Sometimes they’ll make another offer about a month later, sometimes it may be six months later, and sometimes they won’t make another offer at all. For example, they may have planned to make another offer the following month, but then become interested in a newly registered woman and make an offer to her instead, meaning they can no longer make one to you. Or they may have made an offer while on a business trip, but been turned down. If you seem difficult to schedule with, they may decide to meet someone else next time. > I regret not adjusting my schedule, even if it meant pushing myself a little. If you want to receive more offers, you could say that it’s better to adjust your schedule, even if it’s a bit inconvenient. But if you feel you already have enough offers to meet someone suitable, pushing yourself too hard could make things difficult later, so it may be better not to overdo it. It’s a difficult balance, but if you received offers from eight men in three weeks, I think it would be best to focus on developing a long-term relationship with someone you clicked with among the six you actually went on dates with.

I’m Basil, a male member. I’ve run into similar situations before, but I usually don’t make a second offer. The competition gets tougher, and after meeting this many men, she tends to lose that fresh, innocent quality. Some women have said they just wanted to have fun even if it was only once, but when there are multiple candidates, I often limit my offer to two or three meetings. I’m sure some men enjoy the thrill of winning over a woman who’s in high demand, though. Six men in three weeks is more than enough. She must be very attractive, so you’ll have plenty of chances to find someone you like among them—or someone who comes along later.