The other day, I met a man for the first time. We had a really enjoyable meal, got coffee, and parted with smiles, saying we’d see each other again.
We also gently agreed that we’d have an adult relationship (intimate) from our next meeting onward…
We exchanged LINE messages a few times that day, and he told me he’d like to see me again.
Two days later, I messaged him saying, “Thank you for the other day. Please ask me out again,” but he didn’t even read it.
I assumed it was natural for his response to be delayed since he’s a busy person, but after two days, it still hadn’t been marked as read. So, just to see whether he had blocked me, I tried sending him a LINE sticker as a gift.
But I couldn’t send it…
That’s when I realized he had blocked me.
Since we’re both married, I’d like to think he blocked me because he’d be troubled if I suddenly messaged him on LINE… but does this really mean we’re no longer meant to have anything to do with each other…?
I’m a male member, BB7.
A smile and polite small talk in the moment don’t necessarily mean anything.
Don’t trust it—behind that smile, she may be bored.
A few days after meeting, her feelings may already have cooled.
She may have thought you were wonderful—but only that night.
Then she meets someone else on another day and moves on.
Men’s feelings can change from moment to moment too, not just women’s. Unfortunately, there may be no tomorrow for these relationships. That day, that time, that moment is everything.
Since you’re both married, she may have only recently realized—because of the recent celebrity cheating scandals and other incidents—that she could get caught up in trouble such as compensation claims. That could be why she blocked you.
Let’s move on to the next one.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
When I first joined the dating club, I found the phrase “in a roundabout way…” extremely difficult to understand—what exactly was she trying to say?
I’m sure some people might say, “You just don’t understand how to interact with women!”（笑）
From my perspective, if a woman is in her mid-thirties, married, has children, and works, I assume she’s reasonably mature and communicate with her on that basis. But when she adds, “in a roundabout way…” I’m left thinking, “Huh?! What are you trying to say?”
I’m no spring chicken myself, and you’re also fairly mature for a woman in a dating club, so I found myself wanting to say, “Please just be more direct.”（笑）
Perhaps you could have been a little more straightforward in your question, and perhaps the man was also replying “in a roundabout way.” Let’s take this as a learning experience and use it next time.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I received a message saying, “I’d like to see you again.”
> Two days later, I replied, “Thank you for the other day.”
So, does that mean you didn’t respond for two days to his message saying he wanted to see you again?
He may have interpreted the lack of a reply as a rejection. Or he may have thought you weren’t that interested and were taking a long time to respond, making him feel that things probably wouldn’t work out going forward—and then blocked you.
I think it would be best to reply as soon as possible whenever you receive a message.
By “quickly,” I don’t mean within a specific number of minutes—though men would certainly appreciate that. As long as you respond within about 24 hours, that should generally be fine.
Of course, it’s possible that he normally keeps you blocked and only unblocks you when he wants to contact you, but I’ve never heard of people going that far.
For now, I think it would be best to wait for a new offer.
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I’m a female member named Rin.
With the gloomy weather of the rainy season on top of everything, I imagine you’re feeling pretty down. I’m sorry—I can only answer based on my limited experience, but when both people like each other after the first meeting and make plans to meet again, men usually say something clear, such as “I’d like to start seeing you” or “Would it be okay if we went to a hotel next time?” The wording may vary, but they generally say it outright.
So although the way this man ended things was rude and understandably hard to accept, he may have been comparing you with another woman he met around the next day, or with someone he was already seeing.
Also, if the woman feels the same way, I think it’s better to contact him while heading home that day or by the following day, while the impression is still fresh, and let him know how she feels.
Many men are busy, and we’re very conscious of not inconveniencing them. We may hold back, wondering if they would be put off by us inviting them. But while you’re both still feeling each other out, I think it’s important to communicate your feelings too.
I know I sound rather presumptuous, but I’m actually not very good at saying things myself, so I just wait patiently and reply to messages almost immediately.
To the person who asked this question: why not shift your focus and get ready for the next offer? I think you’ll be able to spend your time several times happier that way.
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I’m a lost man in my 60s.
> We exchanged a few LINE messages that day, and she also told me that she’d like to see me again.
> Two days later, I messaged her: “Thank you for the other day. Please invite me again sometime.”
Why did you wait two days to send that message?
It’s no wonder things didn’t continue like that.
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I’m Flag Maker, a papa-katsu columnist.
Getting blocked after a round of polite small talk—it leaves you feeling kind of unsettled...
If I’ve made an offer, I’d at least want to see it through once, though ^^;
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I’m Basil, a male member.
That happens pretty often. Saying “I’d like to see you again” on the day of the first meeting is usually just a polite courtesy.
She may have pulled away after finding out you were married. Or perhaps your suggestion for the next adult relationship was too vague, so she assumed you weren’t interested.
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