She asked me all kinds of questions, but we were able to have a decent conversation. Since she was a Type C, I invited her to take things further, but she turned me down, saying she wasn’t feeling well.
She said she had time, so we went shopping. I don’t remember saying I’d buy her anything, and I thought we were just going to browse, but somehow things went that way.
There’ll be a next time, so I don’t really mind, but is that just how dates like this work?
I’m a confused man in my 60s.
I’m the person who asked the question. Thank you all so much for your thoughtful answers.
I mainly make offers for Type B, with the occasional offer for Type A. This was my first offer to a Type C (probably... lol), so I asked for your thoughts on my first Type C date.
To add some context on her behalf, she turned me down because it was apparently her time of the month... I made it clear that if I simply wasn’t her type, I’d rather she not make up a convenient excuse on the spot. I did have a slight suspicion that she might actually be Type B or A, but I decided not to pursue the matter further.
I went shopping with her because she said she wanted to go, but she never once said, “Buy this for me!” At several stores, she would show me things and say, “This is cute!” but she never tried anything on and would move on to the next store. After visiting a few stores, I started to feel that—whether by coincidence or not—we were gradually ending up at more affordable shops, so I suggested that she try something on. She seemed to like it, so I told the sales clerk, “Okay, we’ll take this one.”
It didn’t feel like much fun to leave things at that, so afterward we went back to the stores we’d visited earlier, one by one, and I had her try on and buy the things she’d liked.
It was my first shopping date with a woman I’d met through the club, but I enjoyed it in its own way. Of course, I wouldn’t want to do the same kind of date every time... lol
Thank you all for your concern as well. We’ve already set up our next date, so I’ll keep my focus and do my best.
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I’m Marika, a female member.
Please decide on the date for our next meeting soon.
Do you think I’ll hear back from him?
I’m worried…
By the way, whenever someone tells me, “I’ll buy it for you,” I can’t help blurting out, “Huh? Why?”
I really wish I were a little more savvy.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
My first date really brings back memories…
We were both only about three or four days into joining, so neither of us knew what we were doing. I remember thinking, “What should I do?” I wasn’t even used to the allowance yet…
We went for a drive → shopping → lunch → the hotel → another drive → her place.
Before or since then, she’s the only woman I’ve ever gone inside the home of after meeting through the club…
She still contacts me to ask to meet, so it remains a fond memory.
Oh, and to the person who asked the question: the fact that she asked you so many questions already makes the whole situation seem a little suspicious…
If you were simply flustered because she was young and you didn’t know what to do, that would be understandable—but so many questions is a bit much…
Also, I don’t really recommend shopping with women from the club.
Once they’re over 20, they’ll probably get used to those kinds of things.
P.S. Thanks to this woman, I think I’ll be able to appreciate the next woman I meet even more.
P.P.S. If you’re in an especially good mood because you’ve found someone you really like, you might be able to meet any kind of woman again…
I may be getting completely off topic, but since I’m in a good mood as a proud dad, let me share this too. m(_ _)m
A little while ago, my daughter and son asked me to reimburse them for the meals they’d paid for. I gave my daughter exactly 1,000 yen. My son’s amount was several thousand yen, and I thought, “That’s quite a lot.” I usually count it out precisely before handing it over, but then he showed me his mock-exam results—an A rating for the medical program at the University of Tokyo—so for some reason, it was the first time I gave him a 10,000-yen bill.
P.P.P.S. So you’re a lost man in your 60s with plenty of life experience…
Playing Pretty Woman, as people call it, is fun and feels great, isn’t it?
I haven’t done it with a girl from the club yet, but I’ll probably be doing it ten years from now… haha.
That said, when it comes to girls from the club, I feel like shopping doesn’t really have any effect or meaning.
At most, I suppose giving them a gift they actually wanted might be somewhat better…
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I invited her because she was a C type, but she turned me down, saying she wasn’t feeling well.
If she turned you down, I get the feeling there probably won’t be a next time. Also, if she was feeling unwell, it doesn’t really make sense that she was still able to go shopping.
You seem like a very kind person, so I wonder if she may have taken advantage of that.
Normally, if a C type turns you down after dinner, I recommend postponing the shopping until the next time as well. Based on what happened this time, it feels more like a B type arrangement—and there’s even a possibility she may be an A.
There are quite a few reasons to feel uneasy, but you’ll know for sure after the next time.
There are more enjoyable dates out there, so while you can continue with this woman and see how things go, I think it would also be a good idea to make offers to women who seem to have a nicer personality.
As you meet various women, you’ll gradually learn what kind of woman you really prefer.
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This is Joe.
I don’t invite anyone on a first meeting, regardless of type, so my experience may not be much help.
But judging from your question, this situation gives off nothing but bad vibes. More than anything, you seemed disappointed—or rather, you didn’t enjoy yourself, did you?
As Mac said, it should be a bit more enjoyable than that. Unless you really liked him, why not enjoy yourself with your next offer?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> Since there’ll be a next time, I guess it’s fine—but is that really what dating is supposed to be like?
I think that phrase says it all.
Well, I guess it’s fine（笑）
As long as she enjoys herself and you can also think, “Well, whatever!”...
You’re probably quite a bit older than her, so there may be times when it’s important to show that you have room to spare, both emotionally and financially（笑）
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I’m Rin, a female member.
All I can say is, wow. I’m impressed by how skillfully she handles men (sorry for the blunt wording), and by how open-minded you are.
I’d love to learn from her, but I don’t think I could ever pull it off.
I hope you get to go on another date with her.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
If there’s going to be a next time, then I’d say it’s fine ^^
Going shopping together is part of dating, too.
Rather than worrying about little details like that, what matters more is whether you find her cute and whether you want to move on to an adult relationship (intimate).
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