I’m a male member.

I’m Basil, a male member. Serious girls read your profile carefully and ask all sorts of questions, almost like an interview. Girls with a more transactional attitude tend to ask questions that feel exactly like a questionnaire. This is one way you can tell whether someone is capable of adapting to the other person. Even if a profile is publicly available for a week, there’s only so much information it can contain, so I hope you’ll keep in mind what really matters.

I understand why you’d feel disappointed, but that’s just how it is. Honestly, I’d find it scarier if someone had already done their homework on me. At least based on my limited experience, that’s rarely led to good memories. Let’s just enjoy the excitement of meeting for the first time!

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. The question itself doesn’t even line up with the answerer… I happened to see it one minute after it was posted, and it didn’t just make me lose the motivation to write a response—I actually thought, for the first time, that I’d stop writing altogether (until just now)… > Women can only view men’s profiles for a limited period of one week. Ah… so that’s the situation… Even so… hmm… P.S. If a woman receives three offers a day for five days, that’s 15 offers; even at an average of one offer a day for 10 days, that’s 10 offers. She wouldn’t look at the profiles, would she…?

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I think Flag Maker is absolutely right. In my experience, women didn’t really read the important parts of my profile carefully. I’ve written quite a bit about what matters when starting a relationship, so I wish they would read it properly. Even though it says, “Please don’t expect much financial support”… Once we’re talking face-to-face, it turns into, “Would transportation costs be okay too…?” And since I’m easily carried away, I immediately say, “Sure!”—so my dating expenses just keep going up. I wish they’d read my profile carefully before the date and refrain from making unnecessary comments（笑）

I’m Marika, a female member. I’m sorry if things have changed since I haven’t received any offers for a while, but I think there’s a slight flaw in the system. The reason is that women can only view men’s profiles for a limited one-week period. It’s fine when someone’s profile is fully open and appears in searches, but when it’s set so that only women they’ve offered can view it, the profile becomes inaccessible well before the date. Even if you want to review it before meeting, you can’t. I felt a little guilty about it, but if I thought I might forget or had several dates coming up, I would save screenshots. I’m sure that could feel creepy, and it would be a serious problem if they ever leaked, but it does help prevent awkward misunderstandings when you meet. From the men’s perspective, I imagine that if they’ve taken the time to write detailed profiles, they expect us to have read them. Not knowing anything about them at all could come across as rude. I wish profiles could at least remain viewable until the day of the date. That would prevent these kinds of misunderstandings. P.S. To Kamihikoki: I’m not sure how many people you’re talking about, but when I have several new papa (male supporter)s, I jot down various details in my phone’s notes: what they were wearing, their underwear, their occupation, hobbies, dogs, cars, and so on. For example: “black lace dress, blue-and-black Aubade, runs a consulting firm, enjoys sailing, two sons, Labrador, BMW.” In reality, I just list everything without even adding commas. That way, even if there’s a bit of a gap before the second date, I can keep the conversation flowing and make my papa happy. It would be great if being young and beautiful enough to be doted on without showing any interest in your papa were all it took, but adults have to make an effort in all sorts of ways, right?!

I’m Rin, a female member. If you think about it from a male member’s perspective, it’s only natural to assume that someone who liked you enough to make an offer and have a meal with you would at least look at your profile…right? Normally, yes—that’s common sense, whether in business or in private life. At least, that’s what most people would consider normal. However, there are also women who simply don’t understand that, or would never think to do it. This is a dating club where youth and appearance are prioritized, so I suppose it can’t really be helped. Or perhaps they receive so many offers that they’re going through their dates almost like a chore, making it hard to keep up with checking everyone’s profile. Either way, rather than expecting so much from the female members and taking the time to post here over something so minor, I wish you would use your communication skills to figure out how to make the time enjoyable, even starting completely from scratch. Women also reread men’s profiles several times before meeting because they want to have a better time with them.

I’m Flagmaker, a columnist. I don’t think women are interested in profiles like that. What they care about is mainly: - Whether he’s clean, normal, and seems safe - How much of an “allowance” he’ll give them That’s probably what women are most concerned about on a first date.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. > I found it difficult because I often spoke as though I assumed she already knew what I was talking about, but we frequently ended up talking past each other. In that case, I think you should immediately change your approach and talk as if she doesn’t know. Conversation requires adapting in the moment, and it also changes depending on who you’re talking to. Besides, wouldn’t it be boring for the other person if you kept enthusiastically explaining your own interests while assuming, “You know about this, right?” Conversation is a game of catch. If you feel a topic isn’t working, move on to the next one right away. That said, you’re not a student, and I assume you’ve gained a fair amount of life experience, so I thought this would be fairly easy for you. Since you’re from different generations, it’s probably best to assume that you’ll have different topics of interest. > She said that my profile becomes unavailable to her after some time has passed since we were notified that the arrangement had been set up. Could it be because you haven’t made your profile public? If it’s public, she should be able to view it at any time. If you keep it private and make it visible only to people you’ve made an offer to, then only those people will be able to see it, and only for a limited time. If you want her to read it, I think you should make it public properly. (Though there’s no guarantee she’ll read the details.)