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I’m Saito, a columnist♪ You shouldn’t have any problems if you go to a certain ultra-exclusive dating club. When it comes to celebrities, the arrangement is to meet in a private room. That said, it’s definitely way over the line. Just hearing those names makes it clear that the women are taking even greater risks. The more difficult the request, the greater the risks involved—wasting time on the initial setup and potentially getting caught up in trouble. So I suppose the attitude is, “It can’t be helped, but let’s take precautions.” That said, even at Universe, things can sometimes end up going the way they have for you. It usually doesn’t continue for long, though… lol By the way, the first high-end dating club I mentioned is just a rumor.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I agree with Mac’s answer. > Mac, > I think I know which love hotel you mean, lol. > Isn’t it the one where you order things with the remote on the TV screen? > That love hotel was my main stomping ground too, lol.

I’m a female member, Rin. I can’t exactly create a sexy atmosphere when I’m stuffed either. That said, eating is inherently sensual, so I think it’s best to share a meal on the first meeting while getting a feel for each other.

Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here. I assumed this question was from a man who hasn’t registered with Universe yet. However, since you wrote, “The problem is the first meeting,” I’m not sure whether you know the rules but are trying to break them. As we explain when you join, going straight to a hotel on the first date is prohibited. So regardless of whether the woman is comfortable with it, it simply isn’t possible at Universe Club. The club’s rule is that you must have a meal together first. If you go straight to a hotel on your own initiative, you’ll be expelled from the club. Therefore, you do have to go out for a meal, but you’re free not to eat anything yourself. That said, your partner may find it suspicious, which could lower your chances of successfully inviting her out again. If you can explain yourself properly, though, she may understand, so it might be okay. I’ve also heard that feeling full lowers sexual desire for both men and women, so I can understand where you’re coming from. But if you go straight to a hotel, that’s essentially a sex-work service. You may be better off consulting a delivery health service instead.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. When the arrangement is to go straight to a hotel from the very first meeting, it usually means either meeting late at night or only having two hours available in the early evening. In either case, you have to offer to work around the woman’s schedule. Also, since the only thing you can say in both situations is that you’ve already eaten, the only time you can have a meal after the hotel is late at night. She may say she’s fine meeting as late as 9 p.m. and taking things slowly. But then you’re limited to whatever food is available late at night. In the early evening, you might be able to invite her to eat afterward by saying that your plans were suddenly canceled. But if you’re going that far, I think your time would be better spent arranging a different date that night. In any case, it’s probably difficult to spend a relaxed stretch of time together—two hours at the hotel, two hours having dinner, one or two hours at a bar, and another one or two hours singing karaoke—until the second or third meeting. P.S. With online arrangements, you can meet earlier from the very first date, and if you say you’ve already eaten beforehand, the girl will often go along with it. That makes it possible to go from the hotel onward and spend a leisurely time together. Many girls also prefer going to the hotel before eating, considering how they’re feeling physically, so things tend to go smoothly. P.P.S. With Mac, you have tea and then go straight to the hotel, right…? I’ve never done that myself… I don’t have the courage… > Mac Usually, we spend about 30 minutes at the hotel, and sometimes she sleeps for one or two hours afterward—unless I wake her up. Before COVID, we often stayed at the hotel for four or five hours and even ate there. But during COVID, I got used to spending even longer periods at hotels, and somehow, once things opened up again, I started wanting to go out instead of staying in like before…

I’m Basil, a male member. I also prefer having dinner later. I can enjoy a drink with my meal, too. I have had a first meeting that started at a hotel after an online date, but I suppose that wouldn’t count as a first meeting, would it?

I’m Marika, a female member. We’re on the same page—I completely agree! I’d hate going to a hotel after eating until I’m stuffed too (lol). Personally, I wouldn’t be upset if we went to a hotel from the first meeting. (Though if either person wants to decline, the question is when and how to say so.) But the club’s rules say that the first meeting should involve talking over a meal or tea. It’s not about whether it feels like too high a hurdle. There was one time when someone wanted to leave before we’d even finished one drink at a wine bar, though. P.S. Basil and Paper Airplane, That’s right—there was online dating, wasn’t there? If you take care of the introductions that way, then the problem is solved all at once. Oh—but I wonder what the questioner thinks.