We parted ways after dinner only on our first date.
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We both agreed to meet a second time and even set a date.
But a few days later,
even when I reached out, there was no reply or reaction at all.
I find this kind of behavior rude.
If our terms or anything else didn’t work for her,
I would have appreciated it more if she had simply declined.
I guess there are women like this too.
I’m BB7, a male member.
If you always meet thinking that today might be the last time, it hurts a little less when things end.
There’s no tomorrow in a relationship.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I’d actually prefer it if they simply turned me down when the terms don’t work for them.
That may be true, but turning someone down can sometimes lead to a difficult back-and-forth afterward:
“Why?”
“What’s wrong with it?”
“I’ll fix it.”
And if they were told, “I’m just not attracted to your face,” they might get angry and call you rude.
So I can see why it’s a difficult situation.
I’d suggest considering yourself lucky that you weren’t stood up at the last minute and moving on to look for someone else.
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Once you’ve been through enough of them, you stop thinking much of it.
The woman may simply have handled things skillfully during the meal, so the man never realized that she didn’t think very highly of him.
(I’m not trying to criticize him—this is just one possible perspective.)
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
There are women like that, indeed. That’s why I feel we should cherish the women who are willing to spend time with us.
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I’m a lost-in-my-60s guy.
I’ve had something like that happen too... lol
We got carried away talking, and she went along with it in the moment. But after the date, when I thought about it more calmly, I realized she must have thought, “A man his age acting like that...” I still remember regretting it.
If you come on too strong or make her feel uncomfortable, it’s game over. I don’t think it’s just about the terms of the arrangement.
Reflect on how the date went, and move on to the next one... lol
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I’m Basil, a male member.
That happens pretty often. I also prefer it when someone turns me down clearly, so I completely understand how you feel.
To avoid situations like this, I try to invite them out from the very first meeting instead of worrying too much about how they might feel.
There could be various reasons—they met another man with better terms, got nervous, or simply couldn’t bring themselves to say no. Either way, don’t chase after someone who’s leaving. Move on and look for the next person.
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