I’m a male member.

I’m Saito, the column writer♪ Let’s hurry up and move on to the next one.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I always end up saying, “It’s okay, it’s okay,” and forgiving her, and she tells me, “You’re so kind!” The fact that you can forgive her probably means that, although it does bother you, you like her even more than it bothers you. And when she says you’re kind, I think it’s because other men have gotten angry with her or ended things over the same behavior, whereas that doesn’t happen with you. This is just my guess, but she may be emotionally fragile. Whenever she thinks about going on a date, something probably comes up emotionally, and she struggles each time between wanting to go and not wanting to go. She may even feel guilty, and perhaps part of her wishes things would just end between you. But because you’re kind, she feels comfortable relying on you and makes plans for the next time. That may be the dynamic here. How long this will continue depends on her, but I think the best approach is to keep your current attitude and continue saying, “It’s okay, it’s okay.” If you say something that leads to the relationship ending, you may end up regretting having said it. I’m sure it’s difficult when your plans get disrupted or you have to pay cancellation fees for reservations, but you could also view that as part of the unique appeal of a dating club and enjoy trying to win her over. In the first place, if you’ve had enough, you can simply end things. The fact that you haven’t means you probably like her.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I agree with Mac. But if that’s the kind of look or type you’re into, why not simply get used to being treated that way? Wouldn’t that be a better solution? You could let off a little steam from being left waiting by being just a bit mean during intimacy. How does that sound?

I’m Basil, a male member. You’re exactly right. Once you let something slide the first time, it becomes the norm. All you can do is make it clear that if it happens again, you’ll end things. There are plenty of other good women out there, so I think it’s important to know when to move on. Also, since this happened after the first meeting, the club won’t do anything even if you give them feedback.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Last-minute cancellations do happen—like when she says, “My period just started, so let’s meet after it’s over”—but aside from that, I’d say they probably see you as someone they don’t really care about. You may need to make some changes so that you’re treated as someone important. If you give feedback after the second meeting or later, people may assume that’s just the kind of man you are. Your reputation will drop, and it won’t look good. They may also be more cautious when introducing you for offers, so it might not leave a very positive impression. It may be best to start by not giving feedback and simply treating it as your own responsibility to deal with. Normally, no one would treat you that way, whether through the club or outside it.