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Jun 21, 2020 16:33
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What reasons do you have for declining an adult relationship after dinner?
In my case, I end up declining if any of the following apply: crooked teeth, visible cavities, strong body odor or bad breath, or overly persistent questioning.
I keep notes on the details of every date, and the probability of moving on to a further relationship was 60%.
I’m something of a dental enthusiast and love beautiful teeth so much that I simply can’t compromise on this. However, orthodontic treatment still isn’t very common, so I don’t often receive offers from men with attractive teeth.
There are also quite a few people whose teeth look like a ria coast.
To be honest, allowance and personality aren’t important to me—straight teeth matter most.
Conversely, if someone has beautifully aligned teeth, I’ll follow him anywhere.
Are my standards too high?
Do you consider dental alignment important?
Saying, “Let’s go to the dentist together♡” would be too harsh, right…?
Since I’m wondering whether my criteria might be unusual, I’m considering switching to Type B.
I’m sorry for asking such a strange question.
I’d love to hear everyone’s criteria and thoughts on dental alignment.
7 answers
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
Just as some men prefer large breasts, everyone has their own preferences. As others have mentioned, it’s fine as long as you note it in your profile or comments.
I’d be put off if someone got overly picky about things like the alignment of my teeth, but bad breath is definitely a problem.
Other
I’m Saito, a columnist ♪
I think that’s perfectly fine.
No matter how much money someone has, I also find people who won’t spend money on their teeth more off-putting from a hygiene standpoint.
Other
I’m Marika, a female member.
Having well-aligned teeth is important, isn’t it? If a man at a club has money, I’d say he should take care of his teeth before trying to woo a woman!
Bad breath is unpleasant enough, but if it’s caused by gum disease, the thought of kissing him and having those bacteria transferred into my own mouth makes me shudder.
I’d like men to show enough consideration to get regular dental checkups and maintenance.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I’m wondering if my standards for making decisions are unusual, and whether I should switch to Type B.
I’d say you’re definitely Type C.
If you agreed to 60% of them, Type C’s level of assertiveness is about 50%, so you’re probably a slightly more Type-D-leaning C.
I think it’s perfectly fine for you to continue as a C.
As for your standards, I don’t think they’re particularly unusual. If anything, they’re clear, which seems better than being vague and having no idea why someone was rejected.
For example, I sometimes hear women say, “I turned him down because he didn’t look clean-cut.”
I start worrying about how terribly the man must have looked and show them a photo I found online, asking, “Was he unkempt in a way like this?”
Then they’ll say, “Isn’t that more like a homeless person?”
I specifically looked for a photo that didn’t show an actual homeless person, thinking this was about as unkempt as an ordinary man could look—but apparently, I was wrong.
So I ask, “Then what did he look like?” and have them show me a photo from online.
And the man looks pretty normal…
I ask what exactly seemed unclean, and they say, “His hair…”
Even in the photo, the man looks like a model, so I think maybe that hairstyle was intentional. But to that woman, it apparently looked unkempt.
It makes me wonder whether it wasn’t really about looking clean-cut, but simply whether he was her type or not.
That’s why I’ve always thought women’s standards could be rather difficult to understand.
But then you mention crooked teeth…
Now that is a clear standard. Let me get back to the point.
> Saying, “Let’s go to the dentist together♡” would be cruel, wouldn’t it…?
Not at all—I think it’s perfectly reasonable.
It depends on how much the man likes the woman, of course, but if you also tell him that you’d follow someone with nice teeth anywhere, I think he’d go to the dentist with you.
The key point is going together.
If you say, “I’ll go sometime” or “I’ll go next time,” he probably won’t, since he may be busy or find it bothersome.
Of course, some men may decide that if it requires that much effort, they’d rather give up. But I think that’s fine too.
Since it matters to you, I think you’ll be happier with a man who’s willing to accommodate that—or with someone you genuinely find wonderful.
Other
I’m Rin, a female member.
I think it’s perfectly fine to have preferences.
That said, this is a dating club, and the men spend both time and money whenever they take action. I imagine they make an offer and look forward to the day with a lot of anticipation and excitement.
So, minimizing avoidable mismatches as much as possible should lead to greater satisfaction for both parties—especially the gentleman, and ultimately the club and you as well.
Perhaps the best thing you can do is list any non-negotiable terms on your profile. In a way, I think that’s considerate.
Even then, you may still get offers from people who didn’t read it or weren’t aware of it, but you can simply chalk that up to being unavoidable.
Even when meeting through a special arrangement, we all want to spend a comfortable, enjoyable time together.
I think it’s perfectly fine to have your preferences.
I have a thing for scents. When I meet someone whose scent I love, I want him to hold me forever.
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Age: 70 or older
👨 Male
Former Universe member
I’m a confused woman in my 60s.
Do you clearly state in your profile something like:
“Men with crooked teeth, visible cavities, strong body odor or bad breath, etc., will be refused”?
Putting aside men who make offers without realizing these things, I would think most men simply wouldn’t make an offer if it were clearly written there…
Changing from Type C to Type B wouldn’t solve anything, in my opinion. I’m not that concerned about women’s teeth. Men check photos beforehand, so I think it really comes down to personal preference.
The man who couldn’t move forward because of her teeth must have been disappointed. He probably thought, “Then you should have told me beforehand!”
P.S. Apparently, front teeth can start sticking out more as you get older, and my partner says he’s planning to start orthodontic treatment soon.
Come to think of it, I once made an offer to a dental hygienist, too. She complimented my skin, but didn’t say anything in particular about my teeth… Well, I suppose they must be okay… *sweat*
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I think it’s important because you can tell right away from someone’s appearance and smell.
I do think men over 40 need to pay attention to what you’re talking about.