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Jun 20, 2020 13:32
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I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Why not ask her/him directly?
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
I prefer arrangements where we can spend the night together, but I no longer invite someone on the assumption that they’ll stay over. There’s no fixed going rate for the allowance either—if we discuss it and both feel comfortable with the amount, that becomes the allowance.
I used to invite women with an overnight stay in mind, but I realized that spending a long time with someone who thinks in terms of “how much per hour” isn’t enjoyable.
So if we’re together and she asks, “Would it be okay if I stayed the night?” I let her stay.
Meg
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Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
Ah… an overnight stay…
My dream overnight stay…
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
Since it’s something you decide by discussing it with the other person, once you’ve agreed that staying overnight is possible, I think it’s best to ask:
“How much would you like for your allowance?”
A gentleman would simply pay the amount they name, but if you want to make them happy, adding a little extra would probably be appreciated.
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Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I think it depends on the woman. Some require an additional allowance, while others don’t.
It’s best to ask her directly. That said, more important than whether she needs extra allowance is whether you actually want to spend the night with her.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I think it depends on how often you meet and what you usually do together.
The amount could stay the same, but I think the girl may be expecting an extra 2–3, and she’d be happy if you added about that much (even 1–2 would probably be appreciated).
If she’s the type who wants to spend a long, leisurely time together, then even if you meet for 2–4 hours and end up staying together for 9–12 hours afterward—even though you could leave right away—the allowance stays the same, with no additional payment no matter how much longer you remain together.
If you meet for four hours, you can probably get a sense of what she wants by asking either beforehand or at the end, “What do you want to do afterward?” That should tell you whether she wants to go home right away, go out and have fun together, or simply spend more time together.
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
I set my allowance at ¥x0,000 per date. I don’t change it whether we spend one hour or six hours together.
Usually, it’s around two hours at a hotel plus one or two hours for a meal before or afterward—about three to four hours total. Sometimes, though, it’s just a little over an hour at the hotel.
I almost never do overnight stays, but on a few occasions I’ve added an extra ¥10,000 as a special exception.