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Jun 19, 2020 17:58
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Long before I took leave, I clearly ended things with a male member due to unavoidable circumstances. The other day, he contacted me by text message, saying something along the lines of, “Do you remember me? If you’re okay with it, I’d like to start over.”
I blocked him on LINE after we broke up, and I don’t remember ever giving him my phone number, so I assume he went out of his way to dig through his call history from when we were matched. But what do you think about digging up a female member from several months ago like that? I almost wanted to scold him: “Are you really that unwilling to pay the fee for a new offer?”
To all the male members: Have you ever found yourself thinking, “We broke up quite a while ago, but I still want to see her”? Around the branch area, there are always plenty of new women joining, so I imagine it doesn’t happen very often, right?
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I’m Saito, a column writer♪
No, there isn’t.
A pickup artist once talked about using the passage of time to get back in touch, calling it something like the “boomerang” technique.
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> What do you think about digging up (?) a female member from several months ago?
Men are always dreamers, so from a woman’s perspective, it probably feels more like, “Why??????????????????”
But some men start wanting to meet again immediately after being turned down, and hold on to the faint hope that she might change her mind after some time has passed.
I don’t know what the circumstances are, but if it can be resolved through the allowance, it might be worth suggesting a higher allowance—an amount you’d feel would make meeting worthwhile.
If he genuinely wants to meet, he’ll probably agree even at that amount. If he wasn’t that serious, he’ll likely stop contacting you after that.
> I feel like scolding him and saying, “Are you really that unwilling to pay the fee for a new offer?”
It’s probably not that he’s reluctant to pay the offer fee. He may simply have become extremely fond of something about Papuwa-san.
He might also be an M, so I think it would be fine to scold him a little. (笑)
> To all the male members: Have you ever thought, “We broke up quite a while ago, but I still want to see her”?
I feel like we’ve received several questions in the Q&A box along the lines of, “I want to make another offer to a woman I approached before.”
Personally, I’d ask the woman about it. And about four years ago, when a similar issue came up from the staff, President Kida firmly said:
“There’s no rule prohibiting another arrangement. It’s fine to accept it.”
But now, hardly any employees even know about that conversation, and apparently they’re telling men something like, “It’s not allowed now.”
I can’t help thinking, “Wait, when was that decided?” But that seems to be how they’re turning men down.
That said, even when I ask women something like, “I’ve received an offer from someone I went on a date with before,” I’m usually politely turned down.
Still, men do sometimes want to see the same woman again. It’s not that they’re trying to save the offer fee; they may even feel willing to pay Universe just for the chance to see her again.
Women, on the other hand, tend to be more practical, so after ending things, many of them have already moved on completely.
It’s not an easy situation.
P.S. Romane-san also said:
> “If I were to say, ‘I’m a 7 now’…”
If you tried saying, “I’m a 7 now,” there may be people who would offer that amount because they want to meet you again.
If they feel they can’t pay that much, they’ll probably stop contacting you—but at least I don’t think they’d switch into lecture mode.
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Age: 40s
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’ve never been cut off by a woman, so I can’t say for sure, but if it happened, I don’t think I’d contact her again. There must have been a reason she ended things.
Likewise, when I’ve been the one to end an arrangement, I don’t contact them again even if they say, “Feel free to reach out if you ever feel like it.” There was a reason I ended things, after all.
Then I find myself thinking, “If only you’d treated me better while we were together” (crying).
So it’s the reverse situation, but I’m the same as Romane-san.
Even outside the club, I don’t contact someone I’ve properly broken up with. Otherwise, there’d be no point in ending things.
Instead, I want to value the women who are currently close to me and willing to spend time with someone like me.
That said, I strangely admire people who have the mental strength to keep contacting someone even after being cut off.
Likewise, I admire men who are total perverts and slaves who can get incredibly turned on by nipple stimulation.
P.S.
Actually, I’ve contacted people I’d broken up with plenty of times. I just remembered—sorry, lol.
To be accurate, the people I’ve never contacted again are those who disliked me.
My apologies.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
Sometimes little things can make you feel nostalgic. The other day, I found myself thinking, “We used to meet up here all the time,” so I sent her an email.
She’s no longer a member and is just living as an ordinary woman now, but she seemed to be doing well.
I think it’s a slightly different feeling from simply thinking, “There’s always the cost of making a new offer,” or “New women join all the time.”
Age: 60s
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Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
I’ve done something similar myself and managed to meet them again a few times. Usually, about a year had passed since we last saw each other. Though the chances are less than 50%.
While整理ing old call logs and emails, I felt nostalgic and ended up reaching out. When making a new offer, I focus mainly on appearance and personality, but in cases like this, it’s the impression of what happened between us that matters.
It must have been an experience she couldn’t forget.