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Jun 17, 2020 22:52
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She was truly wonderful, and I wanted to continue seeing her, but it just wasn't possible. I tried to play it cool, but honestly, I was pretty depressed.
Being with her was addictive, almost like a drug. I was a middle-aged man completely at the mercy of a beautiful woman, so I thought it would take me a while to get back on my feet.
Then, the very next day, I noticed that a woman whose profile I had been planning to make an offer to on the Universe website had returned after taking a break and becoming unavailable to view. I made an offer right away, and as soon as we set a date to meet, I suddenly felt much better.
I can't help thinking how pathetic and sleazy I am.
Once again, I've realized that the best medicine for healing the wounds of a failed relationship may be starting a new one.
How do you heal your heart when you have to part ways with someone you thought was wonderful?
5 answers
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
When a woman breaks things off, it’s something involving another person and not something I can control, so there’s no way to heal from it…
When I was a senior in high school preparing for entrance exams, the girl I was looking forward to seeing again after the exams broke up with me right before they started.
I still remember sitting in a large lecture hall for the first time, with its sloped desks, taking the exam in a daze—and being struck by how far away the blackboard below looked from where I was sitting.
When I was told about my first divorce, I realized how impossible it was for the person who wanted to end things and the person who didn’t to have a conversation that truly connected…
Heartbreak is a huge shock, but with a dating club, I feel that “simply losing someone” is a more accurate description than “being dumped.”
So I think it’s different from heartbreak, and because the next girl appears automatically, you’re likely to recover fairly quickly.
P.S. As Maezawa-san said, if a woman is satisfied with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), she has no reason to be the one to end things, right…?
In papa-katsu, neither men nor women can really voice even minor dissatisfaction, so I think you have to be especially sensitive to the other person’s feelings and pick up on them carefully.
P.P.S. Recently, my wife told me, “There’s not a single good thing about you!” …This is bad…
Other
I’m Rin, a female member.
I’m genuinely impressed…
Mr. Maezawa is incredible.
Absolutely amazing.
🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
When I’m truly heartbroken and depressed—when I’m at my lowest—I go to karaoke alone and sing Naotaro Moriyama’s “If Being Alive Is Painful” at the top of my lungs through my tears.
Then I return home to my family feeling like Amuro Ray in the final episode of Gundam:
“I still have somewhere I can go back to. I couldn’t be happier.”
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I understand how painful it is when a relationship ends even though you thought it would continue for a long time.
But honestly, I think the amount of the allowance may have had some influence too. For example, perhaps you were giving her the amount she requested, or you checked in a few times and she said everything was fine. Even if she said at the time of the breakup that the allowance had nothing to do with it, there may still have been some connection.
Even if she felt the allowance was acceptable, she may have been putting up with something deep down—for example, thinking, “Other women seem to be getting more, but I’m only worth this much, so I guess it can’t be helped.”
That may eventually have contributed to the relationship ending. Of course, the allowance isn’t everything, and there are surely other reasons people break up.
After a breakup, though, while you’re looking for a new woman and going on dates with a few people, your emotional wounds gradually begin to heal.
You may also meet someone else you really like. When that happens, I think you’ll be able to look back on the previous relationship simply as a memory.
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
Even when I have a favorite girl, I’m the type to get distracted by someone else.
After all, this is just a fleeting dream with women from this kind of world, so as you said, let’s move on and look for a new dream.