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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. The better, tastier, and more impressive a restaurant is, the more the staff want you to simply enjoy yourself rather than worry about etiquette. They spend their days coming up with ways to move you, carefully putting thought into every dish, every line they say, and every gesture. At a truly memorable restaurant, every dish is delicious, the staff and atmosphere are wonderful, and you can lose yourself in the pure enjoyment of the food. It’s not necessarily about how expensive the place is, so I don’t think you need to worry too much about whether it’s “high-end.” P.S. If you’d like to visit a delicious, truly memorable restaurant, please request Kamihikoki.

This is Joe, a columnist. What surprised me most when I read the other answers was that apparently, men who go on about complicated topics are in the minority. I’m always doing that. First of all, I’m sorry. That said, since you work in customer service, I don’t think it’s a good idea to shut them down by saying you’re not comfortable with difficult topics. The reason is that, generally speaking, older men tend to be more generous toward women who listen to them. In other words, they loosen the purse strings. You don’t need to study anything special, but it will definitely help you improve your customer-service skills. And don’t just listen to what they have to say—try bringing up topics yourself as well. Try working some of your own customer-service know-how into the conversation. I’ve made offers to women in customer-facing jobs, broadly speaking, many times, and their insights have never failed to be useful. So please have confidence in yourself. As for manners, I don’t think you need to be that nervous. If you’re still worried, just ask Google-sensei about basic table manners and give it a quick read. Generally speaking, Japanese cuisine doesn’t have that many fussy rules, so requesting a Japanese-style restaurant might be one option. You might even consider joining as a new challenge.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I’ve never been to a high-end restaurant, so I don’t know the proper etiquette. Apparently, some of our current staff have been telling men odd things like, “Please don’t take me to expensive restaurants,” so there’s a chance you may not be taken to one. However, a financially comfortable man may take you to a restaurant that he doesn’t consider high-end, but that ordinary people would see as quite luxurious. He probably has Michelin-starred restaurants or places that require an introduction in mind when he says “high-end.” But for us ordinary people, any restaurant costing more than 10,000 yen per person feels high-end. So he may be thinking, “Is somewhere this ordinary really okay?” even when it costs 20,000 yen for two. Even if you don’t know the proper etiquette, I think you’ll be fine as long as you talk about it beforehand. He’ll teach you. > Would men prefer women who can have intelligent conversations? It depends on the person, and everyone has different interests when it comes to conversation. I feel that men and women alike often enjoy listening to things they don’t know more than having intellectual discussions. But as you gain more life experience, there are fewer things your conversation partner may know that you don’t. So I don’t think you need to worry about that too much. > Is someone like me really allowed to register with this club? (sweat) Based on what you’ve written in your question, there’s absolutely no problem, so please come and register with us.

I’m Basil, a male member. Basic manners and common sense are all that’s really necessary. Intelligence is certainly a plus, but looks and whether she can meet a man’s expectations matter more.