Sorry to bother you with a question.

I’m Saito♪, a columnist. I’ve never kept a man for four hours. It may sound like a slightly strange way of looking at it, but when you consider a man’s hourly rate, that’s just not realistic.

I’m a male member, BB7. Whether it’s C or D, you don’t necessarily have to move on to an adult relationship (intimate), so I don’t think it’s a problem. That said, I feel Type B would be the best fit for you. Sometimes I see women here mention having the “confidence?” to go as far as an adult relationship. What exactly does that mean…? Maybe it’s less confidence and more being prepared for it?

This is Joe, a column writer. There have been a lot of harsh opinions here. Personally, I don’t think the questioner did anything wrong at all. If anything, I think it was good that they made an effort not to move on to anything after dinner. The club’s rules even say that Category C is “based on chemistry,” so you have every right to turn someone down openly. That said, I think it’s important to recognize that you may be told—including by female members—that you and the other person might simply not be each other’s type. I’ve never taken my pants off on the first day (though I have had them taken off once), so in my case, there’s no such thing as a “type scam.” This way of thinking certainly isn’t the majority view at Universe, but based on my own observations, I suspect it’s far from a minority opinion. I hope the questioner’s future relationships are peaceful and uncomplicated.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. You sound like a C type leaning toward B. I understand the pressure and how you feel, but I think you’d be better off switching to B type. With C type, if a man asks you out and you turn him down, he’ll probably assume you rejected him simply because you weren’t interested in him. If you’ve thought about what you want and what you hope to gain, and your allowance is the priority, I think you need to be prepared for that. Alternatively, you could mention in your profile that you were torn between B and C and ultimately chose C, or otherwise indicate that you’re close to B type. A lot of men would prefer to meet a B-type woman if possible, so you may receive offers from men like that.

I’m Marika, a female member. It depends on the circumstances, but if you liked him yet turned him down that day because you weren’t comfortable entering an adult relationship (intimate) right away, then that’s clearly Type B. With Type C, it’s not necessarily a requirement to become intimate on the first day either. However, if you turn him down, he may assume you’re not interested and won’t ask you out again. If your next date is already set, that’s a different matter. Even then, though, the situation is following the Type B pattern, so changing your type would be better for the man—and would probably reduce your stress as well.

I’m Basil, a male member. If there’s no adult relationship (intimacy), I think spending two hours together should be plenty. Since this time it’s at a café, where it’s easier to wrap things up than with a prix fixe meal, some men may actually feel that spending a long time together when nothing is planned afterward is ultimately a waste of time.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. The reason we ask you to keep four hours open is that the original wording was: “Please allow two hours for the meal, and keep the following two hours open as well.” At some point, this was changed to simply say, “Please keep four hours open.” The staff may feel that both amount to four hours and are essentially the same. However, I’m concerned that staff members who joined within the past few years and don’t know the original wording may mistakenly believe that four hours must be spent together. Once you know the original wording, it becomes clear that if the date ends as dinner only (no intimacy), there is nothing wrong with parting ways after two hours. There are also women who decline by saying, “I have plans afterward.” In such cases, some men get angry and ask why the woman wasn’t told to keep her schedule open. This wording is also intended to prevent those situations. > Is this a violation of the agreement? It is not a violation of the rules. > “Because I wasn’t confident I could go as far as an adult relationship (intimate).” In that case, I believe you should be dating Type B. With Dating Type C, you are expected to intend to progress to an adult relationship (intimate), but decline because you found that particular man physically off-putting, or because he seemed unclean and you didn’t feel comfortable going to a hotel with him. I understand that you may waver on a first date, but your dating type is incorrect, so I would like you to change it to Type B. > Since I was technically Type C, I now wonder if I should have pushed myself to go through with it. There’s no need to force yourself. That is why the dating types exist. If you change to Type B, I don’t think there will be any problem.