The person I'm currently seeing doesn't do anything that feels like a date—we just spend time in a room together, and only for about an hour. There's no long time commitment or physical burden, and it's a strictly businesslike relationship. It's almost like having a high-paying job.
I want to enjoy the feeling of a sweet date and experience some butterflies. Am I in the minority at the club?
I’m a BB7 male member.
Ultimately, it all comes down to compatibility, doesn’t it?
① Men and women who want a transactional relationship focused solely on an allowance and intimacy
② Men and women who want to enjoy dating that feels more like a normal relationship
From the perspective of group ①, group ② probably sees them as a creepy old man into pseudo-romance or a troublesome woman. And from group ②’s perspective, group ① looks like an overeager stud or a woman who only cares about money.
It seems like this leads to all kinds of trouble, but there’s no point in insulting each other or forcing your own values on someone else.
If people were more upfront about the kind of relationship they’re looking for in their profiles—or wrote something like “people like this, please don’t contact me”—I think mismatches could be avoided.
My gut feeling is that the ratio of ① to ② is probably around 7:3 or 8:2...
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I’m Meg, a female member in my 40s.
We all want a little excitement, don’t we?
I may be in the minority, but I still get butterflies whenever I’m about to see my papa (a male supporter) again! I’m already happily thinking about what to wear and what kind of gift to bring.
Meeting for just an hour isn’t for me, but I suppose it works well for younger women who have several papas.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> We don’t do anything that could really be called a date—we just spend time in a room.
This man’s approach to dating sounds very similar to mine. Perhaps he doesn’t like being seen in public… That’s how I am, anyway.
Every now and then, it can be fun to arrange a private dinner or spend a little time chatting in the room（笑）
Although maybe I’m the only one enjoying it…（涙）
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I’m Rin, a female member.
It probably depends on the allowance for that amount of time and your partner’s age, but why not try telling them that you’re feeling a little lonely? It’s also important to know what kind of relationship they’re looking for, so maybe you should take the plunge and talk it over with them.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
In my limited experience, I think relatively few female members are actually looking for that fluttery, romantic feeling.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I assume she’s looking for quality dates, but things don’t always go exactly as you’d like, do they? I don’t know how much the allowance is, but if you think of it as a part-time job, the terms sound pretty good.
I don’t think you’d regret treating her well.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I want to enjoy the excitement of a sweet date and feel that spark. Am I in the minority at dating clubs?
I think age may play a role here.
Among women in their 30s and 40s, many seem to want more than just money—for example, wanting to go on dates, feel excited again, or experience intimacy again after a long dry spell.
By contrast, among women in their teens and 20s, money often seems to be the bigger priority. That said, many also have aspirations such as wanting to be taken to places they normally couldn’t go, or wanting to discover a world they don’t know.
So when you look at it that way, it seems fair to say that there are few women—regardless of age—who are satisfied with money alone.
If money were all they wanted, women might simply turn to sex work as well. I think dating clubs exist because people are looking for something beyond that—a little extra.
I hope you receive offers from men who can make your heart flutter even more.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
That does seem like it could benefit both sides in its own way.
Though it does give off the feeling of two people who’ve been together for many years… and that’s about it…
Maybe it’s best to think of it as a relationship between two people who both want something simple…
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