I’m a female member who hasn’t even been registered for a month yet.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. When a woman tells me about an unpleasant experience she had with a man, I’ll listen and offer advice. Otherwise, I usually only ask enough to confirm the situation. If she’s just joined, I’d like her to say things like: “I get offers, but the timing doesn’t work, so I’ve been turning them down for now.” “You’re the only person I’m meeting this often.” In other words, even if she’s getting offers, she should make it sound like nothing has really progressed, or that she hasn’t actually been able to meet anyone. If she likes the man and it seems like his terms would more than satisfy her, lines like these really hit home: “I’m glad I met you.” “Maybe this club isn’t for me.” “I’m thinking of taking a break.” “Would it be okay if I left the club?” “You’re all I need.” That said, if she gives off too much of a money-hungry vibe, the other person will disappear like a bubble, so at the very least, her words and actions shouldn’t contradict each other…

I’m Marika, a female member. Quite a few men want to know how other guys go about dating or asking women out. Some also ask what kind of intimate things they do, but they’re definitely in the minority. If I say something like, “I get a fair number of offers, but we just had dinner and went our separate ways,” or, “It happened once, but nothing since then,” they seem satisfied. Basically, men don’t want a girl who gets intimate with just anyone, but they also don’t want someone who never gets any offers and isn’t popular. I think it’s best to make him feel that, even though you’re fairly popular, he’s the one you chose.

I’m a male member from Seattle. Sometimes I ask because I’m jealous, but more often than not, I think I ask simply because I find it interesting to hear about.

I’m Basil, a male member. I bring this topic up from time to time as well—not because I’m trying to find out about women, but because I’m interested in what other men are doing. Since I don’t talk to anyone about this activity, it gives me a chance to rethink my own approach. It also helps me gauge things like dining preferences, the quality of restaurants, and appropriate allowances. This isn’t the same as dating a boyfriend. Since being open can also contribute to your own satisfaction, try not to view it too negatively and speak honestly. P.S. As Mac mentioned, everyone ends up inconvenienced by the small number of ungentlemanly people. Though I’m not sure whether I’m considered a gentleman myself. If the other person is reasonable, opening up honestly will make them like you.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. Some men remain children no matter how old they get, so they can’t help worrying about their relationships with other men. (lol) Anyone who asks about it is emotionally immature, so you’d better be careful. They’ll gradually start throwing tantrums—because they’re children. Those who don’t ask are probably people who have gained a reasonable amount of life experience. > I never know what to say, so I’m always stuck for an answer. As for the number of men, I think saying, “Just a few,” should be enough. Even if they ask, “How many is a few?” you can simply say, “Just a few.” They’ve probably already contacted the club and found out that you’ve been on dates before—not your first date—so they’re doing their homework. (Scary, lol) I think it’s safest to say “a few” means two or three. Even if you’ve met ten or twenty men, the answer can stay the same. As for what kind of dates they were, you could mention only the harmless details about dates up through dinner. Whether things progressed to an adult relationship (intimate)—that part is too scary, so you haven’t gone that far with anyone yet. For now, it’s just dinner, right? That might be a good strategy, although it’s the kind of answer you can get away with because you’ve only been registered for a month. If you’ve been registered for a while, I feel the right answer is not to answer at all, with something like, “That’s a secret,” or, “Asking about that is against the rules.” Of course, there are men who genuinely don’t care. But men who don’t care won’t ask on the first date, and they won’t tell you they want you to leave the club either. Men who think it’s perfectly normal for you to receive help from various people won’t ask from the very first date. And even if they do ask, they won’t start talking about having exclusive rights to you. That said, I’m surprised these men even bring it up, considering the staff must have explained that trying to make a woman leave the club violates the rules. At this point, I feel men like that should simply be banned from the club. Then they wouldn’t be able to make offers to other women either, which wouldn’t be unfair from the women’s perspective, and I feel it might make everyone happier. P.S. > I’m thinking of just hiding his profile eventually, but should I report this kind of thing to Universe…? Even if you report it now, I don’t think they’re warning the man about it. So unfortunately, reporting him probably won’t have much effect. If it were me, I would warn him, though. For now, you’ll probably just have to make do with hiding his profile. But some men even form groups and have others check whether they’re still visible from another account, so you need to be careful. Ideally, I think the club could display the names of members who have been disciplined on its official website as a deterrent. This month’s members forcibly removed from the club Club name XX: Attempted to make a woman leave the club (second offense) Club name XX: Pressured a female staff member into going on a date (third offense) This month’s members given a serious warning (two warnings result in forced removal) Club name XX: Lectured a woman and slapped her This month’s members given a warning (two warnings count as one serious warning) Club name XX: Failed to pay transportation expenses as part of the allowance at dinner If they posted things like that, I think men would be more likely to follow the rules. But there hasn’t been any talk of doing that at all. ＞＜

I’m a female member named Rin. Some men seem to make offers only to women who have just joined. Maybe they simply want to be the first man she’s met, before she’s had any experience with other men, or they lack the confidence to compete on equal footing. Occasionally, a man may be the first one she dates but not try to have her all to himself—perhaps he just enjoys feeling superior by acting like her go-to person for advice about other men. That’s probably why they ask so many questions, tell you to see only them, or pressure you to quit. Whatever the reason, I don’t think they’re particularly impressive men, so there’s no need for you to feel uncomfortable. You can simply say, “I’m new to this,” and leave it at that. For men who want to monopolize you or pressure you to quit, you could try raising your monthly allowance, as people often suggest in the Q&A section, or simply turn them down. If you already have several offers right after joining, I’m sure you’ll continue to receive offers from plenty of wonderful men.