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Jun 4, 2020 23:54
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I’ve heard that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) pays better during weekday daytime hours. Will it be difficult for me to make it work with my schedule?
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Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
I’m only available on weekends or weekday evenings.
When Saito-san talks about company presidents, the only ones who can freely make time during weekday afternoons are owner-presidents. If a salaried CEO of a major corporation were caught doing this, they’d be out immediately in this day and age of strict compliance rules.
The true high-class supporters may be available during weekday afternoons, but they’re a small minority, and I think they’re also harder to approach. So let’s think about whether to aim for a big payout from each meeting or reliably earn through volume.
Incidentally, among the people I know, younger men are actually more diligent about taking women out for coffee or tea.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think the same way as Meg.
I wonder... are they making money off me?
Please don’t make money off me...
What?! So this old guy isn’t wanted...?
Sorry.
Other
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
I can somewhat understand how you feel.
The reason I don’t date office workers is that my evenings are taken up with entertaining clients, and weekends are reserved for family time.
In the end, most company presidents are only free during weekday afternoons or after midnight, so that’s how these arrangements tend to work out.
People who can make time at those hours often have jobs that aren’t routine, and even having a meal with them can be very enlightening.
When I listen to office workers talk, honestly, it feels like I’m just listening to complaints about my own employees, so there’s no real point in using a dating club.
Also, women who are merely considered beautiful within their workplace can be a bit troublesome, so I tend to avoid them.
(I’d appreciate it if you could take this as just one person’s opinion.)
Meg
Female
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光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
Huh, so you’re going out to make money…
Good luck!
I’m off on a date♪
Sorry for being so carefree~ (*´-`)
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
If you’re available on weekday evenings and weekends, that shouldn’t be a problem at all. Some people go on dates during weekday afternoons, while others meet on weekday evenings.
Also, if a man really likes a woman, he may be willing to adjust his schedule around hers.
You don’t need to worry too much about the times you’re available for dates. However, if you can only meet one day a week, for example, things may become a little more difficult.
That said, if a man really likes you, he may still adjust his schedule to that day. So when it comes to receiving offers, I think it depends more on the woman’s appeal than on how flexible her schedule is.
P.S.
> These days, does “OL” refer to all female office workers?
Huh? I’ve always thought that OL stood for “office lady” and referred to female company employees in general. Has the meaning of the word perhaps changed recently?
For example, “yabai” used to have a negative connotation, but at some point it also came to be used positively. I suppose the meanings of words often change with the times...
> Being an OL means things like serving tea...
Come to think of it, I don’t see much tea serving these days. Does it still happen?
Whether it’s because of harassment concerns or gender equality, I feel like companies have been saying for quite a while that you shouldn’t ask women to serve tea. I thought the general practice was that everyone pours their own.
Maybe that’s not the case everywhere yet?
> Our company is completely male-dominated, so the men literally do nothing. Not only do they make the girls serve tea, they even summon them like errand girls to make them do things as trivial as making a single copy.
Wow, that still happens? There are companies like that even now? ><
It would be faster for them to make their own copies.
As for the tea, maybe they just want to feel important.
Before long, they’ll probably introduce a rule requiring female employees to say, “Welcome home, Master,” to the men.
Other
I’m Rin, a female member.
I think most people find it easier to make time on weekday evenings than during the day, especially if they work.
Business owners may sometimes ask if you can meet during the day on a weekday, but that usually happens after you’ve already started seeing each other.
And, if I may offer one piece of unsolicited advice: even if you happen to be thinking of it that way, you shouldn’t say that you’re here to “make money.”
Men sometimes describe themselves as ATMs, but it’s rude for women to take that literally. They’re all people with feelings.
I feel this isn’t a place you should casually enter if you don’t understand that.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Papercraft, a male member.
The only people who can do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) during the day may be unemployed people like me. (Huh? You mean someone who answers questions on an advice site?)
Since daytime is when it’s easiest for both men and women—and for you, the person asking the question—I don’t think there’s any problem at all.