I usually give an allowance of 10,000 yen for transportation plus 50,000 yen for an adult relationship (intimate).
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For dinner only (no intimacy), I give 15,000 yen.
The women are generally Platinum members, but is this reasonable by market standards?
The meetings usually last around three to four hours, so I’m wondering if I might be paying a little too much.
I’m Meg, one of the female members.
If you feel the rates are too high, you might want to look for someone through an app or Twitter instead.
There are plenty of money-minded women out there, waiting like spiders in their webs for a gentleman like you.
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I’m a male member, Basil.
In my case, regardless of class, I offer 40,000–60,000 yen including transportation, or 10,000 yen for dinner only (no intimacy). I do have some who ask for 40,000 yen for an intimate arrangement as well.
I mainly make offers to regular office workers and students, and only three people have turned me down because my terms were too low. That matches the questioner’s sense of the going rate.
Some people say the terms vary from person to person, but I think the questioner’s sense of the market works in about 80–90% of cases.
That said, I’ve never increased my offers, but I haven’t lowered them either, so please also factor in the risk of the arrangement ending.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I understand how you feel. If you’re thinking about lowering the allowance, the only thing you can do is ask, “Would it be okay if we lowered it a little?”
That said, there is a possibility she may end the relationship.
On the other hand, you might find a good girl who says, “I was actually thinking I might be getting a little too much.”
Sorry if none of these options work out.
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I’m a male member, so here’s my take.
It may be the going rate, but regardless of whether they’re Black or Platinum members, I think you’ll find women who are more satisfying in terms of both the allowance and the time they spend with you.
If you’re feeling unsure about it, why not meet a few more women?
You may come across someone who’s a better fit. Then you’ll probably stop meeting women you feel are a little overpriced.
You might even meet someone you’d be willing to pay more for.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here with an answer as well.
No two people are the same, so there’s no point in obsessing over the going rate.
If both of you are happy with the current amount, then I think that’s perfectly fine.
That said, I understand that you’re asking because you’d like to lower it. But lowering the allowance essentially means you don’t value her as much, and there’s a chance the relationship could end as a result.
For that reason, I think it’s best to continue with the current allowance. However, if you no longer feel she’s worth that amount, then I suppose negotiating the allowance is unavoidable.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
If you’re Platinum, that sounds about right.
After that, the amount can go up or down depending on how much you want to continue and how serious you are about it.
I’m Gold, so I ask what she’s hoping for first. If she doesn’t name an amount, I offer 5 including meals and transportation, or 1 including transportation on dinner-only days. If she turns that down, I move on.
If she asks for more, I’ll accept it for the first meeting. Whether there’ll be a next time depends on whether I feel the arrangement was reasonably satisfying.
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I’m a female member named Rin.
That’s something the two of you need to decide together.
Rather than worrying about the going rate, as long as she isn’t dissatisfied, that amount is what works for the two of you.
If you feel it’s too expensive, you can tell her and negotiate, or decide not to continue.
That said, if you try to negotiate by saying, “I heard the going rate is actually…” she may just lose interest and respond, “Oh, really?” Either way, isn’t this something the two of you need to work out?
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