Question for the female members.

You Can’t Just Go with Anyone I’m Meg, a D-type female member. I’m in my 40s, married with children, and my husband and I haven’t been intimate for five years. We’re not on bad terms or anything, but I started thinking that I didn’t want my life to end this way. So I wondered, “Do I really still have any value on the dating market as a woman?” And I felt like taking a little adventure. On dating apps, you can touch up your photos and make things work in your favor, right? But with a club, you have a proper interview and leave yourself open to being judged by someone else. I figured that having someone evaluate me objectively was both the biggest hurdle and the biggest advantage. After actually joining the club, what I’ve come to think is this: Even as a D-type, I can still have such wonderful encounters. I chose D because I didn’t think I was in a position to choose just anyone—or that I was something special enough to be able to choose someone. (The staff kept asking me repeatedly, “Are you really sure you want D?” They were so thoughtful.) As Joe said, if I’d sprinkled a little more suggestive content into my questionnaire, I might have gotten more offers… teehee. Although, wait a minute—maybe I’d actually have been more likely to run into a person to avoid!?

I’m Joe, a columnist. In my case, regardless of the relationship type, the first meeting is basically dinner only (no intimacy). So I’m not really sure how much changing your relationship type would help. If you’d like to enjoy sex beyond the allowance, personally, I think it’s best to state that frankly in your self-promotion section. Other things you can do are post selfie photos and fill out the questionnaire. I think more male members pay attention to the questionnaire than women realize. ← Based on Joe’s research. In any case, it’s important to do what you can and sprinkle in just a little flirtiness with each one. I hope you find a wonderful match.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I’m registered as a woman in her 30s with a B rating, but I’m wondering if I should switch to E. If you switch to E, I think you’ll receive even fewer offers. If you’re going to change it, I’d recommend C. If you also want to feel physically satisfied, I think physical compatibility becomes important too. As Romane-san mentioned, choosing C will bring offers from men who aren’t particularly gentlemanly, so it may be more difficult. However, if you want to find someone you’re compatible with, you need to meet a variety of people. For that purpose, C is the best option. Men sometimes misunderstand and pressure you with an attitude like, “Why are you turning me down when you’re C?” But C is set up to indicate about a 50% chance of an adult relationship (intimate). If you couldn’t turn someone down with C, then what would D be for? (Strictly speaking, the guidelines say you can still be turned down with D as well.) So there’s absolutely nothing wrong with declining someone while registered as C. > I’d also appreciate any advice on what I could write in my profile so that this comes across. If you write too much, the men you’re currently seeing might read it, feel disappointed, or decide they want to end things. So first, I think you should ask the staff whether they can hide your profile from men you’ve already gone on dates with. Then, I think you could simply write what you told us here. For example: “I registered because I want to feel emotionally and physically fulfilled, in addition to receiving an allowance.” That would work well.

I’m Rin, a female member. As Romane mentioned, the person who offered me option B was very gentlemanly. On our first meeting, he made an effort to keep me relaxed by having enjoyable conversation and creating a comfortable atmosphere over dinner, which helped ease my nerves and wariness—at least based on my limited experience. I believe I previously saw in an answer on the Q&A that option C isn’t 100% guaranteed either, so that might be a good choice. However, there seems to be an eternal gap in how men and women perceive things, so you need the skills to turn someone down when necessary. I hope you meet someone wonderful. For reference, my main motivation was wanting to meet people who had achieved something in entirely different worlds, outside of work, and get to know them without any filters. During my interview, I was asked, “What about an adult relationship (intimate)?” I replied, “I understand the purpose of the club, and I’m aware that I’m not at a level where someone would offer to meet me for dinner only (no intimacy). My intention is to start by talking, and if they like me, then see where things go.” The interviewer responded, “Then you’re an E!” But almost immediately, I received an offer from someone who was clearly rushing headlong into a serious crush, and I was completely caught off guard. It was scary in its own way, and since that wasn’t what I intended, I ended up feeling bad because it wasn’t fair to him.