I’m a female member with Dating Type C, and I’m posting because I’d really appreciate everyone’s advice.

This is Saito, a column writer. Well… it’s actually a fairly common situation, but with tens of thousands of women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), offering to the same person is, frankly, pretty low-class. If you’re approaching it as a matter of information-sharing within a men’s social circle, someone with proper awareness would offer to a different woman. You simply got dragged into some low-grade cuckold-style game. At higher-end clubs, they’ll let me know, saying, “Your friend so-and-so has already made an offer,” so I never end up overlapping with anyone.

I’m Joe, a columnist. When using a dating club, there are plenty of situations where it’s probably best not to reveal certain things. I’d say this is one of them. Beyond that, it comes down to how strong your mental state is and how you’ll handle things if you’re found out. That said, in this case, I have a feeling it wouldn’t turn into anything too serious even if the truth came out. That’s just my feeling, though, so I can’t take responsibility for it. Personally, I’m actually quite fond of being two-timed (lol). I hope your relationship remains a peaceful one.

I’m Meg, a female member. It’s tough being a popular woman, huh? Flag Maker, you’re way too funny! But I kind of agree. I think B will probably spill the beans~ Let’s avoid going down a hellish path. Take care (*^^*)

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. If you noticed, but the other person hasn’t, then chances are you might not actually have noticed either under normal circumstances, right? Even if you did notice, I don’t think A clearly told you the other person’s name. Men also usually use club names, so if they were talking using real names, you might not recognize them anyway. It sounds like you had a feeling it might be him, but couldn’t be certain. In that case, until one of them tells you directly, you can probably assume it’s him, but since you can’t be sure, there’s no need to say anything. That said, it could become troublesome later, so I think it would be wise to decide now which of A or B you prefer and take steps to avoid losing touch with the man you like better. One safe approach would be to ask B, before going on a date and moving into an adult relationship (intimate), without mentioning A’s name: “I’m seeing someone, and I have a feeling you might know him. Would that be a problem?” He’ll probably ask who it is, but you could simply say that it’s personal information and you can’t share that. Either way, it’s certainly a tricky situation.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Even if two men happened to make offers to the same person, I don’t think it would be a problem at all. Between guys, it would just be a matter of, “Hey, bro… so you too, huh?” If they’re friends, it might even become a fun topic of conversation rather than causing any trouble. I don’t think you need to bring it up yourself.

Column writer Flagmaker here. The best option is probably to say nothing to either of them and, even if it somehow comes out, stick to “I didn’t realize.” However, if you can’t bring yourself to do that, I think you should tell only whichever one—A or B—you want to keep seeing. What happens after that depends on the man. If things get complicated, you can always cut ties with both A and B. Or you could say nothing and simply cut one of them off. I’ve actually been in the reverse situation. The two women I approached were probably best friends. I figured it out from the things they said in conversation, and I panicked. I still keep in touch with both of them, but I never confirmed it, so it remains a mystery to this day. I still don’t know their true intentions, but one of them did say something along the lines of, “If you’ll make me the only one and cut the other girl off.” Looking back, it felt like she was testing me. Update: Actually, B probably knew that I was seeing A and approached me anyway. A likely showed the questioner’s photo to her drinking buddies—not just talked about him as a conversation topic. Men are childish creatures who want to show off. This is only speculation, but that’s what it feels like to me. If we assume that’s the case, there are two possibilities: - B reports what you were like at a drinking party or something similar. - B says nothing, and whenever A brings you up, she keeps quiet and secretly enjoys the situation. So B is the key. You could find out what B is really up to and team up with her by offering a higher allowance while subtly threatening her, or, if you don’t trust B, cut her off and tell A everything. After turning A and B against each other and separating them, whether you then take B back is up to you. It’s unpleasant realizing how mean-spirited I can be. I come up with things like this. I wasn’t like this in the past, lol.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. This is a very difficult situation. Since this is a dating club, both parties understand and accept that members may date each other, so I don’t think there’s necessarily a problem. That said, if you want to maintain your relationships with both men (A and B) as they are, I think it may be best not to let things develop any further with either of them. If I were the woman, I’d choose one of them（笑).