Someone showed me the members-only page without me asking and told me things like, “I made an offer to this girl,” or “There was a girl named ○○ at the club, you know.” Are men really this careless with other people’s information?

I’m Meg, a female member. What a handful!

Maezawa from the Management Planning Office here as well. That’s a violation of the rules. Members are not allowed to show their member pages to friends or anyone else who isn’t a member. This time, please report not only the facts to the club, but also how it made you feel. Something along these lines would be good: “Even though I never asked, he showed me his member page and talked about how he had offered to meet this girl, or how there was a girl named ○○ at the club. It makes me feel really uncomfortable thinking that he may be showing my photo to the next girl he offers to meet, or showing her the women’s member pages as well.” I think it would also be fine to ask the club to confirm this directly with him. If you’re currently dating him, that could be awkward, but if you aren’t, I don’t see a problem. He may try to justify it by saying something like, “I thought it was okay to show her because she’s a member too,” but there’s no way that logic holds up. I don’t think he’ll be immediately banned, but the club will likely give him a serious warning. If he repeats the same behavior after being warned, he’ll be forcibly expelled.

I’m Rin, a female member. Maybe he’s trying to impress you because he wants you to like him: “Look! Look! I made offers to women like this, but none of them lasted, you know? I want to keep seeing you!” That’s probably the message he’s trying to send. It’s shallow, to say the least, but I guess he doesn’t realize how it looks. I’ve even met men who tried to show me female members’ profiles without being asked. On the other hand, some men obsessively ask about the men who made offers to you before they did. Either way, it never turns into a “Wow, I’m special just because it’s me!” moment. The curtain quietly comes down on the whole thing. Since he probably won’t ever understand, I think you should report him to the club.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. You should still report this to the club. When I joined, they explained that serious breaches of etiquette like that could result in expulsion.

I’m a male member, Kamihikōki. That person must be especially bad at keeping things confidential. It’s troubling because they bring down the reputation of the club and its members.