Sorry for posting again. I’m the 40-year-old woman who asked about a long-term affair. (I’m sorry I didn’t mention this in my original question.)

I’m Joe, a column writer. As for whether there’s demand, I’m certain there is. In fact, I suspect there are quite a few male members who haven’t yet realized how wonderful women with a wealth of experience can be. That said, I’m hardly in a position to sound too authoritative. Like many other male members, I used to be thrilled by being swept off my feet by beautiful women young enough to be my daughters. But recently, I became close with a wonderful woman in her 40s and had something of a conversion—I realized, “I joined Universe so I could meet this woman.” So please have confidence in yourself. I hope you have a wonderful encounter.

I’m Meg, a female member. You were together for such a long time. When you’ve built such a wonderful relationship, I’m sure the loneliness feels even more intense… Our time together was nowhere near as long, so I feel a little presumptuous saying this, but my partner is also in his 60s, and I often find myself relating to your feelings. It brings me to tears. From the way you write, I get the impression that you must be someone who truly cares about your partner. Whether you receive an offer or not can come later. For now, please go ahead and attend the interview. It does take courage, but I don’t regret it. I hope you have another wonderful encounter here, too♪

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > Is there really a demand for someone like me? Based solely on the information that you’re a 40-year-old married woman with children, living in Tokyo, an executive at a company, and with a height-minus-weight figure of around 105, I think you would receive offers. So yes, there is demand. That said, some people are hesitant about women with children because they may cancel at the last minute due to childcare issues or have limited availability. I think that mainly applies when the children are still very young. If they’re old enough, I don’t think it would be much of an issue. I can’t say for sure how people would view “company executive,” but usually there’s just a field for your occupation, so I wonder whether you really need to include your specific title. It may be better to let people get to know you as a person first, and then talk about the finer details once you’ve become closer. > I’m worried about being identified, so I’m unsure about making photos and videos public… If you prefer, it’s possible to skip the video. However, not having a video can put you at a disadvantage and may make men less likely to send you an offer. As a compromise, you could record yourself speaking without showing your face—only from the neck down. Since both you and the person filming may move during the shoot, your face could accidentally appear for a moment even if they’re trying to keep the frame below your neck. It may be a good idea to check afterward that your face didn’t appear by mistake. > Honestly, the allowance isn’t my main goal. I’d like a relationship where we naturally desire an adult relationship (intimate) with each other. Even so, some men will invite you to have an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first day, and many believe they can’t know whether it will become a long-term relationship until they’ve had an adult relationship (intimate). So if you’re thinking you’ll wait until mutual feelings develop naturally, you might end up feeling hurt. On the other hand, if you choose options like A or B, a woman in her teens or twenties can understandably feel scared about moving so quickly. Many men will understand that. But in other cases, they may wonder whether you don’t really understand how dating clubs work. That doesn’t mean you should choose E, either. Men may not understand why you selected E and could find it harder to make an offer. So even if the allowance isn’t your main purpose, it may be best to accept an allowance at first. If the man asks how much you would like, you could simply say, “I’ll leave it up to you.” Also, at the beginning, rather than thinking in terms of mutually seeking an adult relationship (intimate), you may need to be open to responding if the other person makes a request—provided they’re someone you’re comfortable with. Of course, this is only based on the majority view. If you register in the way that feels right to you, you may find that there are men specifically looking for that kind of woman. You don’t need to force yourself. I think you should try it in whatever way feels best to you. > Is there a chance I’ll find the kind of relationship I’m looking for? There is a possibility. I imagine there are some people—though probably not many—who have relationships like that. Registration is free, and you can leave at any time, so I think it would be worth registering first and seeing how it goes.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. Oh, you’re a woman ^^; Sorry for my completely off-base answer. From the way you write, you seem like a lovely, well-mannered person, so I’m sure there’d be demand for you (^^)

I’m Gaku, a male member. There may not be huge demand, but I do think there’s some. In fact, one of the women I’m still seeing is 39 and has children. I used to make offers mostly to women in their early 20s, but over time, the age range I’m interested in has gradually increased. After making offers to all kinds of women, I’ve come to find those who are a bit older more appealing than younger ones. I also enjoyed events like married-people’s parties, since you can actually meet several people there. However, attending one in the area where you live increases the risk of being recognized.

I’m Seattle, a male member. You might get some offers if you mention that you’re looking for a modest allowance. Type E is pretty rare, so it could help you stand out. There is a risk of not getting your transportation expenses, but I think it takes more nerve for a man to send you home without giving you anything at all.

I’m a female member, Rin. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship. I can understand why you’re feeling lonely. I believe your concerns can probably be avoided more safely here than on other sites. I have a public position myself, so I also have my photos blurred. If a gentleman is interested, the staff contact me first, and only then is the blur removed. Even if it means receiving fewer offers, I’m comfortable with that arrangement and prefer it this way. Thankfully, I received several offers right away, so I’m thinking of taking a break from the site soon. One of the men who actually sent me an offer told me, “Even with the blur, I could get a good sense of your overall vibe, so I decided based on that. Meeting you in person was even better.” (By the way, I’m probably about 45 at most—and I’m definitely not beautiful.) I hope you have a wonderful encounter as well...

I’m Marika, a female member. I didn’t expect this to be a question from a woman either. Even women in their 40s are in demand. (I’m in my 40s too.) However, there seem to be quite a few female members in their 40s, so you need to stand out on your profile for it to lead to offers. I think it would be best to consult the staff about how much information to hide. You could choose not to post a video, blur everything, make your profile secret, and so on. But the more you hide, the harder it will be to receive offers. That said, since you’re married and seem to hold a high social position, I think it may be wise to err on the side of stronger privacy protection, considering how much you have to lose—and be prepared to give up if no offers come in. Please think it over carefully and consult the staff. Parting is always sad, but I hope you find another wonderful connection!

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Oh, so you’re a woman... As I mentioned in my answer to your previous question, looking at the profiles and comments from the club staff, most women seem to be primarily motivated by money. However, I do feel that some of them seem to be looking for something beyond just money. I use a dating club (Universe only), and I feel that the women there are generally quite trustworthy. (The club staff may also have helped with that.) The woman I’m currently seeing was selected for me by the club staff from several candidates. As for protecting your identity, I believe you can blur your photo, and there may also be an option to upload a video without showing your face. I think there is definitely a demand for someone like you. I’m married myself and use a dating club for personal reasons, so the kind of woman I’m looking for is actually someone like you. The image I have in mind is of quietly meeting in some corner of the city, keeping things discreet, and maybe getting a little playful（笑） In my case, I only see one partner, so I wouldn’t want a relationship that was all about money or intimacy. We need to face each other, eat, drink, and talk as well... (Limiting myself to just one person has been a constant exercise in restraint and a battle with my desires, which is quite interesting.) That said, I do feel that once you’re in your 40s, the competition becomes quite intense. (I can’t really say without seeing your profile and so on.) I’m in my 60s, but when I line up photos and profiles to compare them, for some reason my eyes keep drifting toward the younger women（笑） P.S. Regarding “the kind of woman I’m looking for is someone like you”: The kind of relationship I have in mind is not “an affair,” but rather “a discreet, trustworthy relationship with complete confidentiality.”

I’m Papercraft, a male member. So you’re a woman after all. Since your situation is quite similar to that of one of my long-term girlfriends, I can imagine how lonely it must feel to have to take a step back from someone you thought would remain in your life for many years. There’s also a good chance that, even if it takes a different form, your relationship may eventually resume. From a man’s perspective, if you’ve been together for that long, he may also be considering showing you some kind of consideration in the future. If your goal is simply to ease the loneliness in the meantime, I think the club could be a perfectly viable option. Given your age, it would probably be quite difficult to find someone through ordinary dating to replace the relationship you’ve had, so I think the club may offer you a better chance of meeting someone who can fill that role. It would be completely different from your previous relationship, of course, but you could still enjoy various kinds of adult relationships—whether dinner only (no intimacy), pseudo-romance, casual fun, or something more like a game. At your age, you’re likely to receive many offers from men 20 to 30 years older, so you may be able to achieve at least some of what you’re looking for. As for being recognized, I think you’ll probably be fine, since men tend to be even more cautious and security-conscious. Many men, in fact, don’t want to disclose anything in their profile—not even their photo or income.