In response to a recent question, Kamihikōki said, “For many people, the door to joining a club is incredibly heavy,” and I was surprised to realize that male members feel the same way.
My biggest concern is being recognized. Because of my work, I often have opportunities to interact with business owners and other people in management during the day. I also know quite a few affluent-looking older people through local activities and social circles—though we’re only casual acquaintances.
Have you ever spotted someone at the club whom you already knew from your everyday life?
I’m Joe, a columnist.
The risk of being recognized probably depends on which branch you register with.
At the branch I’m registered with, I’ve run into several women I knew personally in the past. Whenever I make an offer and start chatting, I almost always end up connected to someone I know.
Once, I visited a business partner’s office in Tokyo, and the woman who brought me tea turned out to be a Universe girl I had saved as a favorite. I nearly spilled my tea. That kind of thing probably doesn’t happen often, though.
If you’re worried, you could also ask them to blur your photos.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
It’s certainly possible, but apparently it hardly ever happens in practice.
I imagine male members are gentlemen too, so even if they recognize someone, they pretend not to notice and don’t tell anyone.
Besides, unless the man first reveals that he’s registered there himself, there’s no real way for him to tell anyone else.
That said, things are a little different for celebrities, so I’d recommend explaining the situation and asking whether you can register with a blurred photo or use a secret registration.
For ordinary people, I wouldn’t really recommend it because offers would drop significantly. But if you’re a celebrity, offers will still come in.
Also, as Meg wrote, once you find someone you like, don’t get greedy—just suspend your membership right away. Then, if things end, reactivate it. That approach seems best.
As an aside:
If you’re a student, it’s probably better not to tell someone your school’s name when you first meet, at least during the initial meal.
Apparently, there may be someone teaching at a university without telling Universe. They might be offering to meet students and only saying something if they happen to attend his university.
I don’t know exactly what he says, though.
So I think the safest approach is not to tell them, even if they ask, until things progress to an adult relationship (intimate).
That way, you can still turn them down during the meal.
Once you’ve entered an adult relationship (intimate), though, you’re already mutually implicated, so I think you can deal with them on more equal footing no matter what they say.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Yes, exactly! I’m most afraid of being recognized too 😅
That’s why, once you’ve joined and someone reaches out to you, I recommend promptly putting your account on hold.
…I can’t keep leaving that embarrassing profile up forever… and there’s a video too… terrifying…
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I don’t have a particularly wide circle of acquaintances in my personal life either, so I’ve never run into anyone I know so far.
Still, you never know when, where, or how things might happen, so I’m careful to keep my activities with the dating club low-key and under the radar（笑).
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
People don’t normally join a dating club unless they have a specific reason, and only an extremely small number of people ever join one.
So for both men and women:
> The biggest concern is being recognized.
That’s why, even if you happened to know someone and they found out, I doubt either of you would actually say anything.
P.S. I joined Univa after a close female friend told me she had quit her job and joined a club. It sparked my interest, so I joined too.
I still see her, of course, but she has no idea that I joined the club. I’ve never seen any of her photos beyond the second one, her profile, or her videos.
I’ll continue listening to her complaints, but I’ll keep pretending I know nothing about the club.
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