Do male members care about female members’ periods?

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. First, since the woman had brought up in advance that she might be on her period, I think the man assumed she was comfortable discussing that topic. Once that happens, what he starts wondering is whether the date will be canceled. He may have rearranged his schedule ahead of time so work wouldn’t overlap, made sure it wouldn’t affect the date, and coordinated things like where they would have dinner. So if he hears that the date might be canceled, he naturally wants to know when exactly that decision would be made. If her period was expected to start before the date, she might know in advance. But if it was expected to start afterward, she wouldn’t know ahead of time. Which is it? That’s probably what he was trying to ask. A same-day cancellation is the hardest, so he’s just trying to figure out whether there’s any way to avoid that. And since she was the one who brought it up, he thought it was okay to ask more questions—but then she thought he was being creepy… If he found that out, he’d probably be really hurt. So I think the best approach would be to tell him something like: “It’s expected to start around this date, but based on my past experience, it often shifts by a few days—or it usually doesn’t shift much. Just to be safe, would you like to choose another day?” That said, whether a woman can still meet for dinner during her period, or whether even dinner is difficult, varies from person to person. I think that information is important too. (Judging from the question, it sounds like even dinner isn’t possible for her >＜)

I’m a columnist and the creator of “Flag Maker.” I’d never say it out loud, but I do pay attention to a woman’s menstrual cycle. It affects how I prepare depending on what may or may not be possible. It doesn’t apply to every woman, of course, but I’ve heard that women tend to feel the most aroused from after their period through ovulation, when estrogen is released, and the second-most right before their period. Maybe that’s why I wonder whether she’s at her most or second-most aroused. I’m especially conscious of menstrual cycles when it’s a private date. The fact that I think about things like this probably makes me a pretty creepy person—but I’d never say it out loud, and I keep it to myself.

I’m a male member in Seattle. Last-minute cancellations waste both our time, so I do pay fairly close attention to menstrual cycles. I’d appreciate it if women would include that information, since it helps me tell if someone might be running late. That said, I understand that some women have irregular periods, so I need to be considerate of that. Let’s keep the small talk to a reasonable level.

I’m Meg, a female member. That’s creepy. Even though I already told him when I’m expecting my period, did he really need to ask that much? I just don’t get it…

I’m a male member, and my username is Paper Airplane. Menstruation isn’t an issue for me. Some women say they feel more sensitive during their period and go ahead, while many others prefer to pass during that time—all the women I’ve met through the club have been like that. In those cases, I simply meet them once their period is over. > “Is the date scheduled to be around the start of her period, or just after it ends?” With women from the club, it doesn’t matter because we don’t have unprotected sex. But with a girlfriend, I tend to see the days just before her period as a chance to finish inside, since the likelihood of pregnancy is lower. Whether she agrees to that is entirely up to her. That said, I don’t think there’s any need to ask about it beforehand. I’m also completely fine if she suddenly has to cancel on the day because her period starts. P.S. As for compatibility when it comes to getting pregnant: Someone who can’t get pregnant won’t get pregnant no matter when you do it. And with someone who can get pregnant, I’ve learned from personal experience that it can happen even before or after her period, and even when using contraception. With women whose bodies provide an environment where even a tiny amount of sperm can survive for several days, pregnancy can happen very easily at any time.