This is Saito, the column writer.
Hello.
>In another question, I seem to remember you saying something like, “Women who register with multiple dating clubs are mocked by men as unpopular women who can’t get offers.” Is that right?
Thank you to Papuwa for bringing this up.
That is essentially correct. However, only a limited number of male members pay annual fees to multiple clubs in the first place, and people who can afford that kind of unnecessary spending tend to meet only women in the special category.
There are only a few such men around me, so this is really just a topic among those few people.
I don’t think they would casually share specific information with men who haven’t paid membership fees. Besides, losing their trust and no longer being introduced to women in the special category would be a much greater risk—as in the case of that man from Wakayama Prefecture—so specific information is unlikely to spread.
Also, the women referred to above are at the level of models or similar, whose names come up in searches. Company employees or women at the level of reader models would not even become a topic of conversation.
So I think you can rest assured.
I’m “Paper Airplane,” a male member.
After taking a two-month break, I came back, then took another break two or three months later, and returned again after a few more months.
It feels effective because it gives things a sense of novelty.
I’m Meg, one of the female members.
Waaaaah!!!
Come to think of it, it’s already been six months since I signed up.
I’m overwhelmed with emotion (←teary-eyed, of course).
As I’ve mentioned repeatedly, I’ll be bringing a qipao to my reshoot.
What I’m trying to say is:
・Get your photos reshot
・Update your comments
Okay? ☆
Maezawa from the Planning Department here.
Actually, it’s quite rare for a woman to stop receiving offers altogether. If you received several offers at first, you probably have something that makes men want to reach out to you. The number of offers may decrease, but if you remain registered, you’ll still receive them from time to time.
That said, if you don’t do anything, your profile will gradually move toward the bottom of the women’s listings, and fewer men will look that far down. So it’s worth taking some measures.
Since it’s been six months, I think it would be a good idea to have your photos retaken. Now that you’ve had some dating experience, you probably have a better sense of what kind of women men prefer than you did at the beginning.
For your next photos, try to choose your outfit and poses with that in mind. If you’re confident about your figure, you could also bring a swimsuit and have some swimsuit photos taken.
And when I say figure, men aren’t only looking at a woman’s chest. It could be her long, beautiful legs, the curve of her waist, the line of her hips, or her skin tone. If there’s a particular feature that someone has complimented you on, wearing a swimsuit is one way to make sure it shows in the photos.
Incidentally, women seem to like collarbones for some reason, but I haven’t heard of many men who are particularly attracted to them. As a general rule, it’s best to highlight the features that men have actually complimented.
You could also try writing a comment about yourself in the member section.
If you still don’t receive any offers at all, it’s possible that you’ve received a negative rating from a male member. If you’re concerned, you can ask me, Maezawa, and I may be able to tell you whether you have any negative ratings, without revealing which man gave them.
As for registering with another club, that might be worth considering as well.
However, I’ve heard from women who came in for interviews that, unlike Universe, some clubs are difficult to leave, require you to accept every offer like a sex-work agency, or let the club decide the amount of money involved. So I think you should research things carefully first to make sure you’re comfortable with that.
Also, some men are registered with multiple clubs, so it’s possible that a man you were planning to make an offer to next might see you at another club and feel disappointed.
