I’m feeling discouraged because I can’t maintain any arrangements.

I’m BB7, a male member. As for the kind of woman I’d want to keep seeing… it may sound obvious, but even in this kind of relationship, I’m more inclined to continue with someone who makes me feel she has at least some genuine interest in me—or at the very least, sees me as a person. I’m not talking about truly being in love with me. But if I feel she isn’t meeting me merely out of obligation, for business, dishonestly, or by forcing herself to, then I’ll at least want to see her again. That’s assuming I like her as well, of course. I may simply be being deceived, but— The reverse is also true. If I feel she treats me like an object or sees me as nothing more than money, then I’ll also see her as nothing more than a sex partner, and I won’t continue seeing her. Usually, I get tired of that kind of person after two or three dates. I’m also not inclined to continue with women who are boring and unstimulating because they have no hobbies or nothing to talk about. That said, men who are only looking for sex probably don’t keep seeing one particular woman and instead go from one woman to another, don’t you think? So women in Type C or Type D may receive offers from men who never intended to continue seeing them in the first place. I don’t know enough about your situation to say for sure, though…

I’m Meg, one of the female members. I only have one supporter, so I don’t have much experience. But I can think of only one reason things have continued this long: ・Regular emails The contents are a trade secret, haha. Even when we can’t meet, I can still send him plenty of affection beams. Reassurance, stability, and a sense of humor are important too, I think. P.S. At Mac’s request, here begins Meg’s Lingerie Theater! (Actually, I’ve been wanting to post this for ages.) *The following is fiction, and honorifics are omitted.* Joe: “Today, I’m taking everyone to my favorite lingerie shop!” Female Respondents: “Aww, Joe, you’re wonderful!” Captain: “I wonder what everyone’s tastes are~” (excited) At the shop: The Elegant Woman with Glasses: “Leopard print, without a doubt. It’ll have younger men falling instantly.” (sparkle) The Flower-Loving Girl: “Of course, tulips.” (heart) The Carefree Woman: “Floral patterns? Let’s make things black and white.” Peach Beauty: “There’s no pattern that doesn’t suit me. Isn’t that right, boys hopelessly in love with me?” Kyoto Beauty: “At this time of year, nemophila—and dogwoods—would be lovely too, wouldn’t they?” Tall Black-Cat Beauty: “Red, definitely. Perhaps roses. But be careful, darling—get too close and you might get hurt.” The Chinese Beauty: “Oh, for a mature woman, it has to be an adult purple.” The Crown Princess: “Perhaps navy for me. We mature ladies certainly have similar tastes.” Rii-Leaf: “Pure white. Ahh, my prince on a white horse~” Flat-Chested: “…I don’t need any!” Watching them were the male respondents: The Handsome Fair-Skinned Man: “Oh, it’s almost time for my online date! I’ll be going.” Rice Magistrate: “I’m not really comfortable in places like this. I’m going outside for a smoke.” Japan’s Number One♪: “Be careful not to let your company go under.” The Merchant: “In the end, there’s only one way to settle this.” The Flag-Maker: “You build up the flags, you see. And no, I don’t mean plugs!” The Canadian: “Why don’t we all go to Legoland afterward~” The Unwavering Gentleman: “I’ll escort you without a doubt.” The Italian: “I’ll be extra generous with little devils like you~” 007: “I’ll take consultations about matters of the heart, but I’m afraid I can’t advise you on lingerie…” The Mathematician: “I wonder if they have tropical-fish patterns?” The Oil Tycoon: “I’m in my thirties, but I’m a salon member. So what?” Cha-: “I’m going out to get some exercise.” Nonta: “Am I old enough to make an offer? I’m considering it.” Back and Forth: “Surrounded by beautiful women, I’m wandering around wondering where I’m supposed to stand.” The Wanderer: “I’m off to do some wandering~!” The Swiss Prince: “There are no trial memberships at Universe, but I see you can try things on here.” Captain: “By the way, where’s Sozetsu?” Flat-Chested: “Oh, he’s practicing extreme self-restraint. Apparently he’s busy working out and cleaning at home.” My apologies. m(_ _)m

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I’ve been doing things my own way, but since I can’t seem to maintain these relationships, I feel like there must be something wrong with me. So you’re getting a decent number of offers and going on dates, right? Men usually think things over carefully before making an offer. If there isn’t a major difference between how you come across before the offer and after the date, it seems that things often develop into an ongoing relationship. If things aren’t continuing, then, as you said, there does seem to be some kind of issue. A few possibilities are: ① You’ve selected Dating Type D. Men who choose this type often want to meet a variety of women, so most of them aren’t looking for a long-term arrangement in the first place. If you’re currently set to Type D, switching to C or B might make a difference. ② Conversation isn’t enjoyable. Compatibility plays a role here, so to some extent it can’t be helped. But when someone is easy and fun to talk to, the time is enjoyable in itself, and I think more men will want to see her again. ③ The intimate side isn’t enjoyable. If a woman shows no reaction at all, the man may not have much fun either. That said, even if you’re not naturally expressive, you may be able to make up for it by improving your acting skills or techniques. If you’ve received any feedback from men you’ve dated in the past, it might help identify the cause. But since I don’t know who the person asking this question is, it’s hard to say for sure. I do wish the person answering would go on a date with her and point out exactly where the problem lies. (笑) P.S. Megu’s lingerie theater is hilarious. I can tell who Captain and JOE are because they’re practically unchanged. I can also figure things out to the point of, “This person is her, and that person is him… Could this one possibly be me?” But beyond that… I have no idea who anyone is… Of course, “Some things are better left unsaid.” (笑)

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. Unrelated to COVID, I narrowed down the women I’d been seeing since the beginning of the year. In the end, the one I’m still seeing is cute, we click personality-wise and have similar tastes in food, the physical chemistry is good—and her allowance is fairly modest. I’m not really looking to spend much on meeting women through a dating club anymore, so the fact that her allowance is reasonable is ultimately a major plus. On the other hand, I’m always nervous that she might end things with me at any time.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. > I’m feeling down because I haven’t been able to maintain any ongoing arrangements. At the moment, I only have one person I’m still seeing—and because of COVID, we can’t meet and only message on LINE. I’m grateful for the offers I’ve received and have done my best in my own way, but since I can’t seem to maintain these relationships, I’m starting to think there may be something wrong with me. First of all, since you do have someone you’re still seeing, you may be able to find some clues by focusing on maintaining a good relationship with her. > What kind of woman makes you want to keep seeing her? Also, I’d appreciate any advice you can give—things women do or say that make you lose interest instantly, things that make you happy, anything at all. In my case, I’m fairly broad-minded when it comes to the women I date. I’m currently seeing only one woman. We both know each other’s circumstances completely and say whatever we want to each other, but I feel that we also make an effort not to say or do anything we consider rude or dislike. So I’ve never experienced anything that made me lose interest instantly. Other than that, it’s the usual things: keep the allowance modest, avoid being overly assertive, and respect your partner. That’s about it.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. For that kind of thing, I prefer a girl who doesn’t overthink it. Just do nothing…